is this normal?

ive always been bad with words in difficult situations, and ive recently reallised that im starting to plan conversations
like if someone asks me a question, i have to have an answer ready, or i just get pretty down.
i also feel scared a lot.. and i think im quite a paranoid person. i know it sounds stupid, but its like at night, i feel scared to keep my eyes open just incase i see something... and i feel pretty stupid, i mean, im fifteen for cryin out loud.
i always think people're out to get me. that my friends are *****ing. that my boyfriend doesnt actually like me. that random people'll judge me....
should i get help?

Yes, I would find a therapist or counselor of some sort; do you have a friendly relative or other adult you can hang out with? I was like that, it's just that you haven't practiced with actual people :-) you live in your head too much! You have to learn to talk to other people; it's not something we automatically pick up. Those of us who are anxious can get to worrying about talking to other people before we have other people to talk to and that's putting the cart before the horse :-)

I was able to lessen my anxiety a little bit by remembering the "learning" aspect and approaching it like I would a school lesson. I know I'm bright :-) and knew I could learn anything someone would help teach me and therapists are good at "conversation" and learning how to be with other people without quite so much "noise" in our heads with who's thinking what and, what do I say, etc.

I agree that you might want to talk to a therapist. I have the same problem of living in my head and I think therapy helps me. BTW when I was your age I wouldn't look out the window at night out of fear that someone was there looking at me, then of course as I was actively avoiding looking towards the window I was trying to figure out what someone would think of me if they were just standing outside looking at me.

hi,

if something really worries you there's nothing wrong with looking for a supportive adult or counselor to help you a bit. but here's what i think you need to know. at 15 almost everyone feels awkward, paranoid, stupid, behind schedule (although where is that stupid schedule posted and why can't i see it). it is called growing up and it is very uncomfortable for 99.9 % of us.

if your feelings/thoughts bother you extremely or keep you from performing daily life or sleeping and eating decently, then yes, get some help. but also realize that this is how most people feel long past the age of 15. i'm really old and i still feel that way when i'm in a new situation or anytime when i feel unsure of myself.

hi!

i think they are right! if your worries bothers you too much that it affect your daily living and keep you from functioning well, then you should seek help. remember that normal things becomes abnormal if your doing it beyond the usual way. As for me, try not those things / thoughts consumed you. Remember that its just a state of mind.

keep safe and Godbless!

thanks for the help guys =]

its just seeing a counsellor though
i dont know if i want my parents to find out,
like i dont wanna be the dissapointing kid who cant deal with my own problems...
is there a way i could see one, without my parents knowing?
i'd rather not speak to the school one, he gave up on one of my close friends after two weeks...

there should be confidential services in your area.
if not, helplines (over the telephone) are a terrific resource. they seemed a little stupid to me at first, but i was very surprised how helpful it was.
if you're in canada, i can help you find a few lines and other resources to help you out.

theres also i really cool website that i discovered about a year ago... it's called Mind Your Mind. (i think its mym.ca ?)

remember- there is never any shame in helping yourself. it's one of the strongest things anyone can ever do.

It sounds like you're getting a little nervous that something bad will happen.

For me, anxiety is kind of diffusive. If I'm anxious about one thing, I might start getting anxious about other stuff. Social rejection is one of my big things. I question myself when I'm talking to people who are supposed to be impressive, or with people I like. (LIKE like, not just enjoy their company.)

It's really really normal to be like that, especially at 15. I wouldn't go rushing to see a therapist. Take a week and try to just not worry about it so much. If you start planning and thinking that people are going to screw you over, don't worry. It's a normal thing and trust that it'll go away on it's own if you wait a little. Do your best to work with it without getting upset at yourself or worried that things are going to go bad. You'll be okay.

Just saw this bananas ,,, I had to LOL a bit at first from your beginning sentence .. [ no harm meant ].

I kinda know that paranoid place >> on first name basis >>. as far as answers to yet asked questions .

Just a suggestion ,,,, only respond to what you have some knowledge of . Respond confidently to those things you know .
When you wish to initiate a convo and subject ,, speak on them as you are sure in of yourself ....... as I do >> I also rehearse responses .[ all the time ]

And BTW ,,, Ya not have to grow up all at once >> You are ALLOWED to still observe and listen without voiceing an opinion yet .

WMD. .