ASD, and puberty.

Hi, this is my first time here, so i'll just put it out there and am greatful for any sort of response . The other night my son asked if he could have a private chat with me. He then proceeded to tell me he had a wet dream the other night, and when i asked if he could tell me how he knew that, he responded he had had a wet patch in his pants, a wet spot on his bed and he had been dreaming about sex with a female. He also said he was noteing some pubic hairs down below (somehow i doubt that but wasn't about to check, smiles). After some discussion and reading a book to him, discribing exactly what a wet dream was and how it sometimes is just an over flow of seeman and not necessarily dreams about sex and girls, he admitted he couldn't remember having such a dream. My concerns are with his aspergers traits, and school sex education, my son has a habit of picking up 'what should be occuring' and then some how associates it with himself and actually convinces himself these things are happening to him. Are there any 'guidelines' as to 'how i should deal with these issues' , or 'what can be said and what not to say>?'. I'm a single mum, and have had to deal with raising my children pretty much without any support, let alone any achknowledgement regarding my son's disability from his father. His father over the years has proven to be dreadfully irresponsible at times and i wish not to involve him in this issue, although i know it's a time that he really should be there for him. I have suggested to my son if he wished to speak to my fiancee he would be only too happy to explain what it was like for him with puberty, but my son has expressed his wishes to not talk to him at this time and i intend to respect that. My son and fiancee have a good apour, but he ofviously is not comfortable with this issue for now which is fine.
My son has agreed to have me read a book to him every now and then about puberty, and i think only mildly understands it 's not something that just relates to wet dreams and growth of hair over night, but a change in his body for the next five years. I'm just curious if anyone else has had this situation arise for them and how they dealt with it?
Thanks
Tya Mum.

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