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Apr 18, 2009, 10:48 AM
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Is anyone else getting this attitude? Well, this is what my soon 2 B ex-bf is saying! I tried to explain the reason I've never really brought up my ADHD is because I did not want to take amphetamines! NOW that they have "Stratterra", a NON-stimulant 4 ADHD, I am willing to give it a go. Plus, the facts of my most recent meltdown which was preceded by a psychological EXAM for ADHD/Dyslexia, by a LICENSED Psychologist. He more or less diagnosed me as ADHD/Dyslexic simultaneously. This cannot be disputed!!
"Prejudice is one of the world's greatest labor-saving devices; it enables you to form an opinion without having to dig up the facts." -Laurence Peter Shabbat Shalom, The Unsinkable AnaHannahBun ;-)
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Apr 19, 2009, 07:08 PM
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“There is a principle which is a bar against all information, which is proof against all arguments and which cannot fail to keep a man in everlasting ignorance - that principle is contempt prior to investigation.”
Herbert Spencer I'm sorry you're having problems with your b/f, AnaHanna. As a teacher, I can assure you ADD/ADHD is quite real, (though it *may* be overdiagnosed, as many researchers are now wont to say too, for convenience sake, sadly.) And the consequences of this medical problem are quite real too, leading to low self esteem, poor conduct and conduct disorders, poor grades, higher accident rates, drop outs, substance abuse and more. It's funny that you bring this up. I just recently took the self help test here on PC, and scored off the charts for ADHD! Again, because I'm a teacher, I recognized that I probably had it as a child. Back then, it wasn't diagnosed. And I had a difficult time in school. I still have difficulty with organization; taking care of bills, doing research projects, procrastination, etc. That's why I decided to check it out today. LOL! Boy, was I surprised at the result!  And I *will* call my doctor tomorrow to look into it. There is no prize for suffering, ya know?  And I"ve struggled all my life without knowing why. Now, I have an answer. And it feels good knowing that there *is* an answer! I'm *not* crazy, lazy, stupid and all the other nasty names I've called myself over the years! Why do we do these things to ourselves?  I hope you will get your treatment. Please don't listen to what your b/f says. If it makes you feel better, print out some of the excellent information that is right here on PC, and give it to him. He *must* be a pretty intellegent guy to have picked a great woman like you for a g/f right? So, he'll be able to figure it out for himself when he reads the facts. So, it's not worth getting into an arguement with him. Let him learn himself.  I wish you well...  Peace!
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Apr 19, 2009, 08:21 PM
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Yes I have encountered this response. It is what kept me from getting treatment for so long. It is also what made me feel bad about eventually taking medication for my ADHD.
dbkrous, you asked why we call ourselves all kind of negative things... For me it is because as I child my parent, neighbors, and teachers called me all of these things. So I assumed this is what I was. I hope most of your colleagues appreciate that this condition is real and most importantly... don't teach young sufferers how to label and condemn themselves.
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Apr 19, 2009, 08:41 PM
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Chaotic,
Today, ADD/ADHD is well understood. It is known to be a medical issue, not a personality default. I'm in my 50s now, and back when I was in grade school, nothing was known of it, especially in private school! LOL! I will stipulate though that having ADD/ADHD only means that the person has to learn the tools to overcome the particular disadvantage. It's *not* an excuse to refuse to do the work necessary to achieve. It may be more difficult, but, as we all know, there are many high achievers who have overcome their disabilities. Albert Einstein is probably the best known super acheiver!  We give the students the skills to overcome their problems. It's up to the students to do the hard work necessary to acheive. Yes? AnaHanna, there's much today to help you overcome the problems inherent in ADD/ADHD. With willingness and hard work, there is nothing you cannot acheive!  Peace!
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Apr 19, 2009, 10:50 PM
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Well, AnaHannah, I wouldn't worry so much about what people say who have neither the education nor professional degree to be able to make diagnostic decisions about someone. In other words, he's talking out of his ARSE! Ask him if you get fries with that, and also what he thinks about the prospects for world peace...
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Apr 19, 2009, 10:56 PM
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Apr 21, 2009, 11:46 AM
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Oh my gosh, if I had a dollar for every time I've heard that AD/HD is "just an excuse", well, I wouldn't have as many financial troubles. My favorite part is how everyone always seems to say "just" an excuse. What if they were to say "AD/HD is an excuse"? No, it's always, "Just" an excuse. What, then, is a legitimate excuse, I wonder? I mean, if someone is escused from something, how is it different from someone being "just" excused from something?
It's such a belittling thing to say, and yet if you really look at it, what exactly does it mean, "just an excuse"? I think what it means is that it's "just" a putdown from people who know nothing about what they're talking about, or, "just" talking out of their arses!!!!  Anyhow, as has been written above, it is completely legitimate, and struggling with it does take a lot. It can cause problems trying to fit into a non-ADD world, but it is also something that can give us extra abilities. As Monk would say, "It's a blessing, and a curse". But what it ISN'T is "just an excuse"!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Jul 06, 2009, 06:57 PM
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I know what you are feeling. My husband has been very distant reguarding my stuggle and hopefully diagnisis of ADD. He does not seem to give a rats ***** about it at all. It feels like he is just thinking I am using it as an "excuse" for what I have not accomplished in life. It is so frustrating to not have support from your partner.
Sending you a hug!!! 
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