![]() |
FAQ/Help |
Calendar |
Search |
#1
|
|||
|
|||
Hi, this is my first time posting a new thread, hope it works! About 3 weeks ago, I told my tdoc I thought I had ADD and she gave me Vyvanse 30mg, doesn't seem to be helping much. I am angry at myself for waiting so long to get help for this. I also suffer from major depression, so I thought that was why I screwed everything up. I know I should feel better knowing this is not my fault, but I'm 40 years old and it's hitting me that a lot of people think I'm slow and an idiot. My ex-boyfriend used to call me a spaceshot all the time. I've cried every day since being diagnosed. Anyone else feel the same sometimes?
|
#2
|
|||
|
|||
Quote:
|
#3
|
|||
|
|||
Quote:
Im 52 and been hearing the same stuff for years and been called all kinds of names.. I also suffer from major depression ..I just heard it again from a man I've been seeing for a few months..It does hurt when ppl say mean things .. focus on your good qualities. we are NOT slow..when we're on we r creative as hell and we tend to be intelligent..I think they're jealous.. hang in there ![]() |
#4
|
|||
|
|||
Thank you, rzrvision and add58. It's good to know I'm not alone
![]() |
#5
|
||||
|
||||
Oh yeah. My husband teasing calls me scatter-brained...I am. I have trouble with focusing. Esp when stressed. It is hard. Lol, I just tell him he is jealous because my brain works faster at more things than his...
![]()
__________________
![]() ![]() |
![]() Irine
|
#6
|
|||
|
|||
Quote:
![]() ![]() Paul Your friend, Paul ![]() |
![]() Amy22, Irine
|
#7
|
|||
|
|||
Quote:
|
![]() Irine
|
#8
|
|||
|
|||
I was diagnosed as a child back in the '60's, and all the kids around me were always teasing me that I was in the "retard" classes (I consistantly scored in the 120's on the I.Q. tests, but the teachers STILL put me in the "slow" classes for some reason) I had a REALLY low self-esteem (attempted suicide 4 times in a month) until I just learned not to listen to "them", I just listen to the people out there (they DO exist, believe it or not) who are supportive and helpful.
I've been off Ritalin since I was a teenager (I was "cured"??) but I think I'm still having problems with ADHD...one day at a time... |
#9
|
|||
|
|||
I'd rather be "slow and an idiot" than be some kind of a jerk who thinks "slow" is an insult. Don't listen to them; they're just being bigots.
__________________
Sane people are boring! |
![]() ADHDpineapple, beccamiller, Catman
|
#10
|
||||
|
||||
My life has been such a disaster that if it weren't for the few good moments and several psychiatric hospitalizations I probably wouldn't even be alive right now
__________________
No guts no glory |
#11
|
|||
|
|||
Quote:
Drew |
#12
|
|||
|
|||
Thank you to everyone who responded to this. I am doing a little better with coming to terms with it, I'm taking Ritalin now, I have my good and bad days on it. At least now I'm not crying as much. Thanks again everybody, I really appreciate your advice and comments.
|
#13
|
||||
|
||||
Quote:
Quote:
__________________
It is said an Eastern monarch once charged his wise men to invent him a sentence, to be ever in view, and which should be true and appropriate in all times and situations. They presented him the words: "And this, too, shall pass away." How much it expresses! How chastening in the hour of pride! How consoling in the depths of affliction! ---"Address before the Wisconsin State Agricultural Society". Abraham Lincoln Online. Milwaukee, Wisconsin. September 30, 1859. |
![]() Catman
|
#14
|
|||
|
|||
Drugs are not bad as long as you are paying attention to side effects. Don't let yourself get all stigmatized. If they work, good. If not, it's not the end of the world. It takes a whole lot of different angles on ADD to find what works for you. I was 50 when I got diagnosed and didn't get serious about taking care of it until my wife tossed me out on my ear (I'm back w/ her now) and my kids were driven to hitting ignore on their cellphones. Take care of yourself. It is doable and worthwhile. Onward.
|
#15
|
||||
|
||||
I just got a copy of the book "Attention Disorder: A Different Perception" by Thom Hartmann. It's one of a bunch of books that emphasize the positive aspects of ADD, and you folks sound like you need a dose of that. My brilliant son (if I don't say so myself, the testing proves it) is ADD. It is a challenge, but lots of intelligent, successful people are ADD. I hope over time that the word gets out!
|
![]() sunsetsunrise
|
#16
|
|||
|
|||
I would definitely love to read that book!
|
#17
|
|||
|
|||
Quote:
|
#18
|
|||
|
|||
![]() ![]() Quote:
![]() |
#19
|
|||
|
|||
The terrible thing too is so many people still think ADD doesn't exist, it's just laziness. Oh, if they could only be our shoes!
|
#20
|
||||
|
||||
Quote:
I think my self esteem started to go awry when I was eight, and my younger sister was just starting school. One teacher said, "I shuddered when I heard you had a sister starting this school, but she's nothing like you at all is she?" The same teacher even told my parents how much better my sister was than I am, and then they relayed it back to me, in the hope it would make me do better at school. |
#21
|
||||
|
||||
oh and vyvanse 30mg is a very small dose infact its usually just a starter dose and you will go up to 50mg or maybe even all the way up to 70mg in time
__________________
No guts no glory |
#22
|
|||
|
|||
Actually, I'm on Ritalin now, about 20 mg, and I don't really like it. I feel very energetic when I'm on it, but then I crash and life is awful again. I don't even know if it's helping since I made a bunch of careless mistakes at work and I'm probably gonna lose this job. Oh, I hate life.
|
#23
|
||||
|
||||
i agree. the crash you get when the ritalin wears off is wearing on a person...im on 30 mg a day...and it is just not working for me...i hate when that crash comes...makes me crazy...but i like the time in between when i can be focused is time well spent...but now that we know that ritalin doesn't work well for me...hopefully they will allow us to start on concerta xl so that we dont have to worry about the crash aspect...it is constant in the system for 12 hours...we really need that...
(((((((((( fluffymoose )))))))))) how awful that you had a teacher say that to your parents, and how terrible that your parents repeated it to you...as if children's psyches are not all that important...forget the "they thought it would help you do better at school". What a shame it was that they said anything at all to you. I'm sorry you had to hear that and live in exile in your sister's shadow. And they think that only children can be bullies...i think children learn to be bullies by watching their parents...and ive met plenty of adults that think nothing of bullying another adult or child to do what THEY wanted you to do...what is this world coming to? Jewels ![]() ![]() ![]()
__________________
True love exists when we lose ourselves to invest in the care of others. |
#24
|
||||
|
||||
Thank you Jewels
![]() I think if I had children, and any adult, teacher or whoever compared one to another, I would soon make them wish they hadn't. I hope though that there are fewer teachers like that these days. I guess now that I am an adult, I have taken over where my parents left off, as far as the comparrison thing goes (I compare myself to others all the time I mean). They don't seem to do that any more, and hopefully I will stop doing it one day also. ![]() |
#25
|
|||
|
|||
Right on, Paul! Thanks very much for your thoughtful reply.
![]() Quote:
|
Reply |
|