What is the hardest thing about having ADHD?

Thank you so much for replying that must be tough always being on the go, especially if you are with people who just want to sit and relax. I can imagine that being a tough situation to be in, hats off to you for not letting it get to you i wouldn't have the strength to deal with that. The strongest people deal with the most drama and other issues. You can use it to the best of your ability though, find something you love doing and your restlessness will be your best tool.

Thank you so much for sharing that

Claire

I don't mind you asking at all, no, but continuing with the theme of the day, I wrote out a whole long post and submitted it and got a Token Expired error and lost it all.

For me it is more along the lines of noticing every tiny mistake and then putting myself down for it and apologizing to anyone who will listen. It's very tiresome to me and everyone else but I seem unable to stop doing it. All I end up doing is thinking about all my mistakes all day and feeling terrible about myself.

In fact, I think I am changing my answer to the OP to the paragraph above. I'm in the midst of a mixed/mostly depressed cycle right now so it's related to that too but I don't really know the actual source of this behaviour.

Thank you for responding that's good i really want to learn more about this topic and you're helping me so much so thank you ahhh that's annoying it should save as a draft when the time expires i really appreciate the effort though i can't imagine how frustrating that must be.

So in a way you are your worst enemy, you are attacking yourself and beating yourself up about any tiny error. On the flip side to this though you're a perfectionist and that in itself is an important trait cause you will be successful with that frame of mind. I hope you're okay maybe instead of thinking of all the negative things think of all the positives, it may lift your spirits.

Thank you again

Claire

i think i have this disorder, but was never diagnosed with it. i also have schitzophrenia, but i can't seem to concentrate on anything for more than a few minutes. maybe i just need something i'm interested in, i do wish i could work but it is too much for my mind. i have worked in the past, loved working, it was fulfilling. i feel for you.

Thank you for replying have you tried sn online ADHD test just to be sure saving you from going to see a doc but also preparing you at the same time. I'm not too sure the procedure but once you consult a doctor it will be go go go from there. I hope you do find out the reason for being easily distracted i sure as hell know i can be and i don't have ADHD but you never know.

A lot of people who have ADHD that get diagnosed later on in life feel like they have lost so many opportunities and wasted so much of their life. Be careful.

Thank you again

Claire

Losing everything all the time. The sleepless nights. Can't finish a simple task. Hard to focus on what the teacher is saying.

Thank you for replying do you mind me asking if it is easier to fall asleep cause you're always on the go and wear yourself out or is it harder cause you got too much on your mind to sleep? That must be tough either way hats off to you. Is it easier to focus on someone who you like or find more interesting or does it make no difference?

Thank you again

Claire

I find it hard to fall asleep because I have a lot on my mind. My boyfriend falls asleep easily and he also has ADHD. I find it hard to focus, period. I love to draw, but I can't focus long enough to make a good piece of art.

The forgetfulness. Literally talking mid sentence and then forgetting what I was talking about. Also- the impact it has had on my social life.

I hate it when I do that!!

I mean no disrespect but I can't escape the feeling that your questions make you sound like you are researching an academic paper or something. Is that the case?

Thank you again for replying, i can't begin to imagine how tough that must be,, if you were't aware of it it may not be as bad but the fact you're conscious of it must be frustrating. I really do feel for you, does exercising or tiring yourself out work? Maybe the hyperactive side of ADHD enables him to do so, i could be wrong though.

Aww never give up on something you're passionate about

Claire

Thank you for sharing that is it annoying when you remember afterwards, do you notice you are doing that or is it when someone turns around and confronts you or makes it obvious or something? That must be tough i think society makes it harder cause that would be seen as obnoxious or inconsiderate but it is completely unintentional.

Thank you

Claire

Thank you for replying not at all it is purely me being openminded wanting to know more about this condition from different peoples perspectives so i can help and hopefully make it easier for those who are use to people walking in and out their lives just from being themselves.

I think people should be more aware of mental illness and i know people with ADHD and seeing what they go through when they can't help it breaks my heart i wish society was easier on people who have their own struggles. I have an anxiety disorder and have struggled with it over the years so i don't want other people to feel the way i did.

Claire

I only have ADD but the hardest part is chores. I hate doing things I "hate" doing. I turn fearful of chores since they are overwhelming and I don't have enough of an autopilot to carry them out, having to think about what I do all the time really drains me. And being drained is mentally hurtful so then I turn even more chore phobic.

Maybe if I ran around for a couple miles I'll get tired, but there are days where I just get exhausted from school. I didn't go to sleep last night though...

My impulsive behavior. Although I have gotten a lot better at not interrupting people. I still say a lot of inappropriate things at times though. Many subjects that bother other people, often do not bother me.
I also hate the fact that I appear to be a total space cadet and walk into things, because my mind is hyperfocused on something other than my surroundings. I have A LOT OF BRUISES! Lol! Thankfully, I have quick reflexes to prevent me from falling, if I were to trip over something. If I didn't, I would have a lot of broken bones to go with those ugly hematomas.

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This whole world would be a mess. I think it would be harder because everyone is so disorganized and such. I love your interest in mental health by the way.

I hate the feeling of always being in a hurry. It's also dangerous when driving. I can't stand sitting in the car for so long.

For me, it is a combination:

Struggling to motivate myself to do (and focus on) things that do not have immediate reward

Constant Disorganization and Impulsive Decision Making

Stress Tolerance issues and strong difficulty regulating my emotions.

Those are the issues that bother me the most.

Thank you for replying and sharing that it means a lot i understand where you are coming from, i find i hate doing things i don't know how to do if that makes sense?

Anything i'm not fully sure of i will delay it or maybe never even attempt to do it. I feel for you it must be a nightmare, i don't know if this is a suitable idea or not but would you be able to call a cleaner/maid? That way someone else is taking care of the chores leaving you to carry on without stress. Maybe therapy or coaching may help too, i have anxiety pretty bad i had panic attacks going out my house but i worked on it and confronted it head on, thought of ways to handle it when it gets too much and put routines in place to be able to have certainty.

Maybe if you get used to doing them on a saturday or sunday it might be easier even if you just put some dishes in a sink its a huge improvement.

I really feel for you thank you for sharing that

Claire

Thank you again for replying that would be draining on top of school maybe take part in school sports and activities. That must be horrible is there something that makes you sleep like milk? Do you mind me asking if you take meds for it? If you'd rather not say i completely understand, its just certain meds may keep you awake depending on when you take them.

Thank you for replying

Claire

I don't have a diagnosis, either (and it seems unlikely that I'll get one), so I don't know if this is the number one thing or not. I do know that the loss of time every single day is terrible. I feel like I lose a third of my entire life to this thing. As you said, I can't turn back the clock, I can't make different choices, I can't reach out for help sooner or learn better skills earlier in life. It's frustrating and saddening.

Thank you for having the courage to speak up.

Wish I could afford that! But I have help for it under my other diagnosis, and I don't pay for it myself. My care worker comes here few times a month and helps picking up, doing dishes and so on. It transformed my place from a dump to looking like a bachelor's pad.

Thank you for replying interrupting is something many people do it all the time regardless of if it's intentional or not, you shouldn't have to change yourself or play it safe. So many people do it, it's the norm in a way isn't it haha. Again this sounds like you are playing it safe instead of being yourself, this is why society irritates me cause you have to be like the crowd just to fit in or be accepted. It is good to be able to tolerate things others can't such as being a doctor/nurse, some people are scream-ish around blood or ill people whereas others aren't phased by it. So it's good you can use that to persue a career.

That sounds painful i hope you're okay

Thank you again

Claire