Should I just change jobs or suck it up?

Things have been going on pretty badly at work recently. Been sending wrong emails/attachments to wrong parties etc. (this happened before but only 3/4 times in the past year as compared to twice this week). - That is just an example.

Problem is my boss loves to make comments about how I "don't care enough", that I "can't be bothered" which is not true! - well, initially although I have a feeling it is slowly turning into a self-fulfilling prophecy.

I've told him bout my ADHD before but his comments were just, (after I've described the 'symptoms') that he has them as well and how he overcame them.

The thing is, I don't think he has ADHD (he loves repetitive tasks, for one; he is patient, apparently very careful etc. - basically he is the opposite of me in so many ways) so I don't think he fully understands the amount of hurdles I have to jump through to be get through the day getting my tasks done. So to him, it is always a simple "you don't care enough". And it is getting so annoying I am slowly bursting out more and more (in anger) in the office.

I am not acting entitled or anything but Im just wondering (I am already, imo, trying my best) if this problem is going to persist throughout my entire life? Or should I find someone else who understands/ working pattern suits me more?

Of course, there are various other causes of unhappiness (e.g. him always putting me down, making me feel like a retard for asking 'simple'/'obvious' answers - which is another issue - I wonder if these things are just not obvious to me? or are they not obvious to other people too?).

I am not blaming him 100% because i tend to make so much errors. But it is this assumption that 'I don't care' with no regards as to why I can overlook things etc. that is really getting into me... and part of me feel that yes, maybe I do deserve that but at the same time, is this a sign that I am not good enough for this job?

I mean, I know I am not stupid (with just a little higher than average intelligence, if I may say so myself) but daily tasks are a challenge to me. I am not sure if this just means that this industry is too challenging for me, or if I should just buck up and 'try' harder. The problem is I really love my occupation (won't say job) and I cannot imagine doing something else!!

P.S. I dont live in America so no need to talk about the Disability Act.

That is a tough situation. I can understand your point, as I suffer from pretty severe ADHD as well.

Are you on any medications for it? If you aren't, that might help.

However, if things really aren't working out, I would honestly just quit the job. You don't need to hear his insensitive comments and deal with all that stress.

I hope things work out for you!

He doesn't get it, won't ever get it and worse than that he has made his mind up about you simply "not caring". He is wrong of course but it doesn't matter. Take care of yourself by getting on some effective meds and seriously consider leaving this job. It worries me that you seem to believe that trying harder or bucking up are even possible options. It's equivalent to telling a vision impaired or hearing impaired person to look or listen harder. This job and your boss is working on your self esteem. I would also consider not disclosing the ADHD in your next position. My experience has been that bosses always seem understanding initially but later become blaming and resentful in light of our continued challenges. Remember you are smart and capable Good Luck!

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If I were you I would probably think seriously about changing jobs if possible. It's one thing to have a supervisor that doesn't believe in you, but did he literally say "you don't care" and such, or did he say "It seems like you don't care" (which is still terrible and shaming, but at least doesn't disregard that it might not be your true experience). For him to think he can read your mind and just assume you're feeling that way no matter what you say... is not cool. I don't like being around people like that. :/

Anyway, best of luck to you in dealing with this situation. I hope you can score a better job, or at least find some way to make things more tolerable at your current workplace.

I think that once you get known as the person who makes mistakes and does not apparently care it is hard to pull back from this unhappy situation and in the long run moving on might be the best option.

However much thought you love your job, sorry occupation, you might wish to think hard if that occupation is compatible with your mental condition, and how you are going to deal with those.

Every time I think about that, considering what other limited options (I really like my occupation) I have, and how this is going to be a life long problem, I get absolutely depressed. I am not sure where the line is between knowing your own limits and not giving up.

MOVE TO NEW YORK, IF moving is possible.

My supervisor says the same. I've told her about my dyslexia so many times and my social anxiety and why I get so emotional when I have to put up with difficult people. Every time she's like, 'Oh me too!' and tries to act like a therapist.
This is not empathy coming from your boss. This is his way of telling you he doesn't want to hear about your issues and thinks your making excuses.

You can try to cope with your job. If you have been there long enough then your boss is willing to put up with it and give you many chances. It's detrimental on your self-worth, yes. My job has lifted my spirits a few times and made me feel like scum of the Earth many a time. It's not even just me they do this with. It's everyone. I am among the bottom feeders of my company and we get very little recognition and incentives. If the company is going to take advantage of me, then I'll take advantage of them.
But in the near future I do want to switch jobs.
You need to think of your well-being because your health is more important than any company. If you really can't handle it anymore, then you should seek brighter pastures.