Just another ADD Question...

I always knew that something was "wrong" with me but could never put my finger on. Two weeks ago I was diagnosed with Adult ADD and Depression.

Well, on my up's and down's over the last few weeks trying to sort out my life, I have a question for you.

I thrive on being on the go. I am the Social Butterfly! I want to go dancing, running around, being on the move constantly. My high can even be cranking the music in my car up really high and going for a drive. Finding friends like me have always been hard. I have always wanted a "girl" friend "like me" but have never found one. Not that I have not had good friends but never really ones I melted with. My husband always teased me that I was just a "wild child"..LOL The fun one to be around! He didn't mean that in a bad way.

I understand now that part of this has been my ADD (the always needing to be on the go part).

Have others that suffer from ADD felt this way? Is this just life? Do ADDers stand apart from the crowd that much?

Finding out about my ADD answers a lot of questions in my life, why I cant pay bills on time, why I am always a little late, never say what I want to, never follow through with anything, never accomplished anything in my life ( I have but right now I really feel like a failed at everything), always thinking what I could do today can wait until tomorrow, not being focused, forgetting the simplest of things and my list goes on....

Now, I feel like I am picking apart everything I am doing and saying on a daily basis. Trying to dissect the last 31 years of my life and seeing where and how everything went wrong.

Sorry to ramble!

Kathy

My goodness you so sound like me. We live on opposite coasts so the world is safe from us for now. My husband started to call me his politician. I talk to everyone, everywhere. He also calls me the Tornado. I think that comes from my clutter.

Wow, sorry you are revisiting you past! ADD can be more controlled than what you are experiencing... not just with meds but with diet also. Tone your life down a bit, and it may become more enjoyable, THEN go thinking about what made you do or say or make some decisions in your past.. when you can truly make a difference now. Just IMHO

I'm the exact same as you flower!! My husband always refers to me as a "handful". I have thought for a long time that he was just boring, I want to go and do and see and dance and sing karaoke, the list goes on. I like going for a drive with the CDs cranked up and if I see something interesting on the side of the road I'm all for checking it out. Not him, he has to plan EVERYTHING, I too have a hard time with being late, forgeting the bills (or putting them off) and memory issues. One thing that is constant is that I hardly stay still.

Nice to meet you!!! I'm also on the West Coast. I think we spoke last night online.

k

Yes, we are different. We are aliens! My ex called me the exite-able boy. I never understood what she ment until I was diagnoised in marital counseling about 4 or 5 years ago.

In some ways it was nice to know that all my efforts to be, "successful", and "accomplished", were more challenging because of the ADHD. After coaching, reading about adult ADD, and meds, life is still a challenge. Its easier to focus now with the meds and I am not quite as depressed at all of my percieved failures. At least now I understand why I have such a difficult time. I know more than I ever did about myself and ADHD.

There is a fun Adult ADD chat group at http://www.addconsults.com They are like us and the fun thing is that the chat gets going so fast its difficult to keep up.

Through coaching I have been encouraged to explore my creative side. That has been the best so far. It is definately a strength for us. I have been amazed at what I have been able to draw and paint.

Good luck with your inner exploration, think good thoughts and be good to yourself. I should talk, here I sit distracting myself when I have a sauce test I should be studying for, ah well....

ps the spell checker is not working!
Joe

Thanks.. I am really struggling with my life right now. I don't know what is part of the depression, ADD or just life. It seems like every corner I am turning another question pop's up.

Sometimes, I feel like I wish life was the was it was 3 weeks ago w/out the diagnoses. I wouldn't be searching so much.. It's like it has taken over my world.

Thanks for your support! It is so nice to know I am not alone.

College starts back up Monday and I am scared to death to fail. I got a 3.0 GPA first semester ( not bad) it was very hard to get it.. I worked my butt off. I guess, I am in a panic this weekend.. If I could just find that one piece of the puzzle.. It would all be better!

Kathy

Flowers remember you are the same person you were before the DX. You don't need to separate what is what or coming from which, OK? You have time to sort it all out. No one is going to think of you any differently -poorly- because you have another dx that will help you figure things out better in the future.

Now that you know you have a tendency to lose focus, your grades might even improve..or be "easier" to realize.. because you can begin to compensate logically.