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Nov 09, 2011, 02:39 AM
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I've been wondering about this topic lately and I would really appreciate it if people gave me their input. Any advice is welcomed. Ok, so I know people with Asperger's have very limited interests and I was wondering if any of you feel like you have to be with someone who likes a lot of the same things, and is this a bad thing? I have been in a committed relationship for over 3 years now, and I have always felt like I wasn't with the right person, despite us getting along and being happy together, I've never felt like my heart has been in this relationship. I was wondering if maybe my asperger's would have anything to do with this, or if perhaps i'm not sure what love is? Should I listen to my heart and find my "soulmate", or go on in this relationship thinking what if?
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Nov 09, 2011, 03:30 AM
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Wow...just found an interesting book and I was able to read the first few pages on amazon.com and now I want to buy it. It seems to be making perfect sense as to why I'm feeling the way I am, and now I really feel like following my heart. The book is called Asperger's in Love: Couple Relationships and Family Affairs by Maxine Aston. It talks about how people with asperger's syndrome have very limited interests even when it comes to love. Here's a part of the book that explains that: "The views of AS women about attraction are very similar to those of AS men. Physical attraction is limited to a particular feature and, once again, it is hair and eyes that are particularly mentioned."
So true! So now what do I do??!! |
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Nov 09, 2011, 01:52 PM
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But I didn't know much about love, and only learned it after many years of marriage. I think I fell in love with her personality a couple of hours before I noticed how beautiful she was.
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Nov 10, 2011, 10:06 PM
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Nov 22, 2011, 06:48 PM
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My best friend at school is Aspergic, and unlike me, he hasn't even thought about personal growth.
His wife loves him, but she finds him emotionally unavailable and has to spend a lot of time with non-Aspergic friends to make up for it. I think my mother was in exactly the same position and coped in exactly the same way. So it's not easy being married to an Aspergic. As for Aspergic-Aspergic marriages, I don't think I've ever seen one, so I can't comment. I read somewhere that complementary personalities make the best marriages. My marriage has been a great success. We've both been in therapy and we have grown together.
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Dec 15, 2011, 02:28 AM
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All I can say is that I've always felt at least a little bit alone, and I don't think I'm ever going to find love.
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Dec 16, 2011, 08:22 PM
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