Aspie Traits

Ok I put a trigger on this just in case it would trigger anyone on the traits.
These are MY traits. Not sure why I need to share this. But it feels like by sharing I can accept more that this is who I am and not just my inability to "fix" myself so I am like everyone else... something I have tried to do my whole life!

Trait Frequency Trigger Disrupt 1-10 Notes

Head Banging 1-2x / month sudden rage 9

Rocking 3x / hour unknown / automatic - soothing 2 Learned control in public

Leg Bouncing 3x / hour unknown / automatic - soothing 2

Finger Flicking sporadic when concentrating 1 tapping finger on things while thinking

Pattern Focus continuous any pattern draws my attention 3

Walking on Toes when not in shoes textures on bottom of feet hurt 8

Light Sensitivity continuous any lighting changes or changing environment 4 sometimes find self staring at ceiling lights

Sound Sensitivty continuous sounds 8 all sounds tend to hit me inside

Taste Sensitivity sporadic odd tastes or textures 2

Skin Sensitivity continuous always hyper sensitive 2 wear softest things

Social Anxiety continuous humans 8

Repeating Words sporadic when alone or at home / relaxing 1 S/O plays with me when it happens

Motor Skill interuption sporadic being interupted causes me to drop things 3

Obsession sporadic when something catches my attention 4 difficult for me to stop thinking on things once started

Collecting / Focus interest continuous unknown 3 rocks is primary - had many as a child

Face Blindness continuous humans 8 very difficult to recognize faces out of context

Mood Blindness sporadic humans 4 difficult to tell what mood others are in - often shocked to later learn someone is upset with me

Conversation Issues sporadic humans 3 spend a lot of energy on following conversations

Emotional outbursts sporadic high stress 9

Emotional distance continuous closeness to others 7 difficult to experience emotions about others - often feels too overwhelming Friendship Issues continuous friends 9 very difficult to make friends or keep them

Social Camoflouge continuous larger groups of people 9 have always tried to immitate others because I did not fit into groups just being myself Change Resistance continuous any change 9 HATE CHANGES!!!!!

Order continuous need order 9 have to know the plans and changes in plans send me into a rage

Conversation stepping sporadic talking on phone 3 I tend to step on conversation more on the phone

Transition difficulty continuous being forced to change action mid-stream 6 very difficult for me to switch to something else and then return where I left off

Inappropriate Observations sporadic social settings 7 will say things or ask questions and not realize until later that it was not appropriate to ask

Sorting / Matching sporadic comfort 1 enjoy matching games and sorting things for comfort

Depression chronic feeling of not belonging to world 8

Hi WePow I have a son who is 11 and has Asperger's , I suffer BPD and can relate to some of Asperger traits . Thanks for posting these I can identify lot's that my son has also , my biggest worry lately is his low mood's always blaming himself for other's mistake's ,I think (I hope) it will ease off but I will always be keeping an eye on him .Hope your doing as well as you can I hope to learn way's to help my son and other's from people like you so thank you again for sharing XXX

Here are some things I found here and there that relate to my boyfriend who we have diagnosed as having Aspergers, he always knew he didnt fit in but didnt know why, now he has heard about Asperger traits he feels like he has an 'answer'

• His mode of operating is mental, he radiates a sense of “I know”. His learning style is analytical, intellectual and principled.
• He prefers detail, precision and clarity. He is thorough, methodical and systematic. He likes to know the logical relation of one thing to another.
• There is no room for chaos.
• A sense of distance, reserve, detachment. He feels things deeply but doesn’t express his feelings in obvious ways.
• A fear of being surprised, confused or overwhelmed by irrational or chaotic circumstances which leads to a strong need for control. He panics when he doesn’t understand, answers are his security.
• Becomes overly mental. In the confused mode, his mind spins overlapping thoughts and ties itself in knots. Overfed by thoughts the mind makes things more complicated than necessary.He loses direct perception of the situation, loses connection to what is really happening in his rages.
• He becomes self righteous and closed. The “I know” becomes “I am right”. He listens to my opinion only to establish his own more firmly. He does not admit that he is wrong. He loves to outsmart his opponents.
• His inadequacy comes from a feeling that he doesn’t understand, combined with a need to be right or be perfect. If he isn’t perfect, he feels guilty.
• He turns inwards, building a wall around himself to maintain his version of the world. The irony is that in pushing away what doesn’t fit into his perspective, he becomes cornered by his own aggression and the walls make him feel alienated.
• Longing for contact which he can’t accept. Suppressing his emotions in fear he will get trapped emotionally
• Convincing the world he holds the correct view leads to a chronic feeling of anger. He either blames others or is very hard on himself- or both. His rigid sharpness becomes criticism, harshness, and irritability
• His high reactivity makes him ready to jump, to pursue.
• At best, he is cynical.
• He has a fascination with being an oppressor,defeating others.

I do the leg bouncing thing, but I always thought it was because I was cold!