Why do we do, what we do?

Hey guys,

Well, why do we act the way we do?

Why do we push people away continououously, perform self destuctive acts continuously, avoid all contact with people, continue to hold on to negative thought patterns even though they dont help us, why do we enable our denial and excuses, why do we avoid accepting responsibility for everything in our lives, blaming others and environmental factors on the outcomes, choose fantasy worlds over reality, full stop not deal with reality.

Why do we refuse to get on with our lives? I mean the only person stopping us is ourselves, right, so why the do we do it.

I get that we don't accept things. I get that we need to drive for positive change. I get that we need to recognise our triggers, and choose a different response. I get that we need to push ourselves out of our comfort zones.

AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAARRRRRRRRRRRRGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHH

How the do you do it when you are having an identity crisis

Hear you Cap'n...ain't got the foggiest...hurts to think about it most times. I too am fond of a good howling ARGH when need be. I don't come here often even though this forum is my main Dx.

I have read posts similar to yours though...and they all sound similar to my own experience. Are you using an anti-d to help with the depression resulting? Anything other? It's been noted that cognitive behavioral therapy helps. Finding someone with specific skills in that is difficult. It's an intensive approach ideally...but few places offer it to the degree it needs.

It takes work too from what I understand...no pill and/or talk therapy will dent AvPD much. A private pro would be great...one who specializes in CBT and isn't some overtanned wanker just collecting dough for a bigger boat. Well however great a good Private Doc is...you'll still be paying for his proverbial bigger boat easily enough. The private route is beyond most of our means.

ARGHHH.....

Well so long for now...welcome to PC. Brisbane Australia huh? Ontario Canada here...gee just down the road from ya. Take care down there. Cheers!

I feel completely like this but the funny thing is i dont blame anyone/anything anymore iam fully aware its me and iam just give up on me .. its frustrating..

Hugs for ya

I feel the same and just don't care anymore.

I can't speak for anyone else, but whenever I push myself out of my comfort zone, I get rejected/pushed away so hard that it's beyond the worst that I can even imagine. And I tend to imagine extreme worst case scenarios...and the world is STILL worse than that. So, why the hell would I want to continue trying to push myself out of my comfort zone?