[grey_]

Hello all...
I wanted to know how do you stop blushing every time a person is looking directly at you and talking?
It's been a problem for ever with me... and gets pretty annoying... when i'm in a group, and someone's talking, i'm fine as long as there's no eye contact.. the moment his/her head turns towards me, i start blushing like crazy... (and when i try to relax my muscles, consciously trying to stop, my face assumes this weird expression)...

And the worse is, they seem to notice it, and some of them then try to make me less uncomfortable by looking at me lesser and more at those around me, but then that is instantly received by my brain as criticism, and all negative, self-destructive thoughts pour in, and i literally feel like wringing my heart out.

Any suggestions?

Also, i fantasize a LOT... i imagine i'm talking to someone i wanted to but didn't, self-create situations, reactions... and many a times a therapist... is it normal?
Should i be doing something about this?

(Ii'm posting this here, as it seems like the appropriate forum; if it is in the wrong place kindly let me know)

[Christina86]

Originally Posted by grey_

Any suggestions?

Also, i fantasize a LOT... i imagine i'm talking to someone i wanted to but didn't, self-create situations, reactions... and many a times a therapist... is it normal?
Should i be doing something about this?

Normalcy is sometimes very overrated. In my opinion, from my own subjective experience - your fantasies sound normal to me. I think a lot of people think about "what if" scenarios or imagine conversations with others.

As for suggestions - do you have a therapist?

[grey_]

Thank you so much for your reply, Christina86,

I know these are very petty issues, but I am still figuring out how to ask my other questions.

No i do not have a therapist. I have thought about meeting with one many times, but I am frankly not sure if my problems are worth the time of a therapist. Also I feel that if I do, i will lose that sense of my self, self worth ( I am not sure how to explain it) which keeps telling me to shut the **** up and deal with these petty things like the rest of the world manages to; and I find myself unable to do so, and find myself sinking deeper into it. This time my withdrawn phase is longer than ever.

But over these years, I do find myself challenging myself more, getting myself to go out and meet people. In a way I do find myself needing it every now and then. Although I return back highly depressed and frustrated and really angry with my self over things others would just "get over".

But I rarely have any panic attacks now. I do feel motivated to better myself. But then a phase comes, where i just cry my days out. And i feel helpless and hopeless again.

Do you think I need to see one?

[Christina86]

They are not petty issues. Your issues are quite valid.



I always recommend seeing a therapist, since nothing can replace "in person" support. Otherwise, medication might help for anxiety and depressive feelings.

I understand a lot of your cognitive thoughts you've written here. You're definitely not alone!