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Old Mar 20, 2016, 05:39 PM
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im just wondering if any of you have an online personality...
one thats different from the way you behave / communicate in "real life"
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Old Mar 20, 2016, 05:42 PM
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I dont think so... i think most people are the same 24/7... but then again that is what i think...tc
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Old Mar 20, 2016, 07:41 PM
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I do. I'm a very shy person usually, but I'm very opinionated so online (usually Facebook) I tend to express my opinion a lot lol. I've gotten into a few heated debates, and I called my dads best friend a racist piece of ****. Definitely not proud of that, and even though I still think he is, I regret it.

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Old Mar 21, 2016, 07:38 AM
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it really depends, When I was a bit younger i used to play an onlinegame with friends i've met through there. In the chat I was usually pretty active, but whenever i was on teamspeak/skype I just become an almost mute.
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Old Mar 21, 2016, 12:21 PM
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I am far more expressive online than I am in person around non-family members. People I worked with or went to school with would describe me in ways that are almost 180 degrees from what my family would describe me as.

I also did the same thing in gaming as Althuzia.

Maybe that makes me extra crazy.
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Old Mar 24, 2016, 12:51 AM
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i by far am able to be myself more through the internet...
in real life i am always analyzing everything...

i still feel a bit awkward sometimes when i put myself in specific positions online, but overall i dont really care about what people think online because it feels like a fantasy land to me...
although i often find myself distancing myself from games completely when people start getting to involved with me... that kinda sucks, i know the people like me and wanna be my friend but... well, i dunno i dont like people to be so involved with me... i guess

this is my special world

i don't use mics or teamspeak, NEVER , never have, and i never will
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Old Apr 26, 2016, 12:11 PM
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im just wondering if any of you have an online personality...
one thats different from the way you behave / communicate in "real life"
In fact, my online personality is the same with my real life one, let us not harm/ deceit others by creating false image/personality of our self. I behave and communicate with others as truly I am and respect those who have this personality disorder.
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Old Jun 24, 2016, 04:28 PM
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My online personality is AvPD too. On chat i usually end up only saying hi and bye. When i'm on Xbox Live and someone talks, i end up being quiet and hoping they're not talking to me, while trying to be as quiet as possible

It were better on chat channels earlier, when i were 15 years younger, and played the online game Planetarion. Had a little break on a 1-2 years, and when i tried again, it were much more different. Usually only talked when i were drunk, or if we were planning attack or defence in a chat channel.

I do however have a druken online personality that's is more social. Sometimes he knows better that other, and chat much rubbish, and also posts much crap on forums or Facebook when he knows better than others. That drunken personality have given me lots of anxiety, when i've suddenly remembered what i posted last night
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Old Jun 24, 2016, 08:27 PM
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I am more open online than I am in person. Most of the stuff I post here I would not say even to a small group of people.
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Old Jun 25, 2016, 04:54 AM
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it feels like a fantasy land to me..
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I've gotten into a few heated debates
Both is true for me. I also am more "myself" in the internet. I could not imagine to make so much words in a row in real life or talk about my feelings, thoughts and opinion so much. Apart from internet, as far as my opinion is demanded, I will say what everyone else said so that I don't draw attention on myself and don't make a fool out of myself. I am able to chat with one single person at a time if I know them for a while and am relatively sure they don't reject me. I'd never do a group chat.
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Old Jun 27, 2016, 09:06 PM
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I do not think I am very different online, but I feel that someone else would have a better view of that.

It feels more genuine to me to communicate online via boards or email, or even texting. I've lived with depersonalization and derealization most of my life. For me, face to face social communication, especially where high emotions are likely, tends to 'activate' my DP/DR.
(& I just realized that, thank you elevatedsoul ).

So in some face to face situations, I end up feeling disconnected from myself, my emotions, my body, the people around me, and my surroundings. Whereas online, I remain 'intact' during interactions, if that makes any sense.
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Old Jul 26, 2016, 03:50 PM
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I am more open online than I am in person. Most of the stuff I post here I would not say even to a small group of people.
This is definitely me also! In fact, the only woman I've dated more than a month was one I met online, and "talked" to almost exclusively via instant messaging for several hours/day for a couple of weeks before we dated in person. Before the Internet, I could only talk to girls via written letters.
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Old Sep 14, 2016, 06:29 PM
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Yahhh
I'm completely unable to carry conversations with people irl (don't get a lot of practice either) but online I'm 100% me, the real me, the one I'd like to be irl, and I can be outgoing and honest and think on the spot without getting anxious or uncomfortable. Text is so much more...natural, honest, safe. It's easy to open up in writing.
Well maybe not as much anymore, lately I've been just like real life me online. Mostly due to the fact I still turned out to be unimportant and expendable to the people I thought were (online) friends despite all that, makes me think it doesn't make a difference anyway. I could be online me in real life and it would all be for nothing.
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Old Sep 22, 2016, 05:15 PM
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I think online, I'm the more "real" me. Not that I'm different, but that I don't feel as restrained by my anxiety or social phobia. So, the more opinionated me comes out as I am a very opinionated person. I think it often gives me a look into who I could be if I did learn to manage my symptoms.
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Old Sep 23, 2016, 02:16 PM
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Me too. I often feel more free and relax to be myself online. Irl, I wouldn't be able to stablish connections with people up to a point. I don't use to connect with them by media than can be considered more real as telephone calls or video calls. As these people already know how I am, they encourage me but don't force me at all. It's a thing to be grateful for. :-)
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Old Sep 26, 2016, 01:47 PM
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Not sure where to start with this, but yes definitely has online personality. Rather more of an online persona, and multiple. I'm not even sure if the online personality is me since if I were to meet my own online persona, that persona would be completely disgusted by myself. Overall I'd say it feels more as a fantasy.
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Old Oct 24, 2016, 11:33 PM
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im just wondering if any of you have an online personality...
one thats different from the way you behave / communicate in "real life"
I've had several that have come and gone over the years. Some of them to explore different sides of me. You might even say that this one that I'm using right now is another one - the one where I am 100% open about my AvPD, and intend to be 100% open about various parts of my life that I think is related to my diagnosis and so forth.

Sometimes I've had online personalities that have been very sexual in nature. I guess it's lack of real-life experience and a general feeling of loneliness that has caused me to experiment online, and to generally create fantasies for myself that feel safer than going out in real life and face rejection.

However, these days, I am in a real-life relationship, and my online past has caused some problems. My partner has her own insecurities, and even though I was very upfront about my sexual sides when we first started getting to know each other (in what was my first attempt ever to be completely honest about everything when getting to know a new person, so that the person would have the chance to either accept me or reject me based on who I am), there were things she learned more about along the way that, to her, felt like unpleasant surprises.

For example: She knew I was a member of a specific adult website where one can look at pictures and watch video clips of undressed models. She also knew that this website had various discussion forums. But as she tried to get to know that side of me, and became a member on that site herself, she felt uncomfortable with the sexual nature of my previous discussions in there.

It should be noted that these were discussions I had with other girls prior to getting to know her, and I stopped participating in those kinds of discussions as soon as I realized I had the chance to get involved in a real relationship with this girl, but she still felt like this was a part I had not been completely honest about - not that I had lied about it, but I hadn't given her that many details about it (out of fear that she would judge me). When she became a member, she was able to read these discussions herself, and it triggered her insecurities. I in return ended up feeling rejected and judged after all, which triggered self-defense responses which in return made her feel like I didn't respect her feelings.

Long story short, this has caused harm to our relationship, where intimacy is a very serious issue. It all became a self-fulfilling prophecy to me.
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