[che170]

my bf called the cops on me tonight. He said he wanted me out of the house, so he called them. I don't understand....we had a great dinner, were watching tv, we are supposed to take a trip in a few weeks and i asked him if he were sure if he wanted to go, because i know vacations can sometimes be difficult for him and off he goes. i know I have to wait for the meds to adjust and get the right dose, but this happens often and i don't know what to do. Everything can go along great and boom....it's all different. Just this a.m. he promised to never kick me out again, then tonight he says promises were meant to be broken and he calls the cops. He NEVER did this before, he says I'm the one who is crazy....please someone help me to understand what is going on. i want to cry right now but I can't because it upsets him...please help.

[Rachie]

Has he always acted this way or is his behaviour getting worse? How long has he been on his meds for? If his behaviour has changed it could have something to do with his meds, they might be too strong, might not be the right ones for his condition etc. If this is the case id get him to see his doc asap. I hope this has helped in some way. Good luck to you and i wish your boyfriend and you all the best in getting his health back =)

[Berries]

(((((((((((che170)))))))))))

Oh hun, i am so sorry this is happening to you. To be honest, from this post and others you have posted, i think you are in an abusive co-dependent relationship. i was in one too. And i kept making excuses for my ex, becasue she had a mental illness. i am so sorry now that i wasted 7 years of my life with someone who abused me on a daily basis.

i know how hard it is to leave someone you love. but i hope someday you will.
You deserve so much better.

Please keep posting. No matter what you decide to do, i am on your side--everyone here at PC is.

(i also think it is a good idea to call his doc right away)

[Amazonmom]

I can't tell you anything Rachie and Berries haven't said already.

But I can offer you some hugs.

I hope things get better for you soon.

[eskielover]

Sadly, what your BF is doing is abusing you.....you say he has kicked you out before & he promised not to do it again....you aren't doing anything to cause his behavior toward you....it is something that is coming from inside.

Sadly, there is no reason....not even for love....that anyone should put up with being treated so badly. If it is his meds, they a call to his pdoc to explain what is going in is a good idea, but personally, I wouldn't ever go back until he gets his meds straightened out & changes his ways.....or you will be living like this for the rest of your life.

Personally, I don't believe that any person should life to make another person happy when they don't do anything in return for your happyness......relationships are partnerships, 2 way streets,....anything that isn't that way isn't a good relationship & is better off left & forgotten except as an example of what not to get involved with in the future.

Obviously this is only my opinion.....but I think anyone who has gone through similar situations will have similar opinions.

Please take care of yourself.....sometimes we just need a little encouragement & touch of reality to really see what is going on in our lives because it's hard to see the forest for the trees.

Hope you can work through your situation & realize what really is best for you.


Debbie

Originally Posted by che170

my bf called the cops on me tonight. He said he wanted me out of the house, so he called them. I don't understand....we had a great dinner, were watching tv, we are supposed to take a trip in a few weeks and i asked him if he were sure if he wanted to go, because i know vacations can sometimes be difficult for him and off he goes. i know I have to wait for the meds to adjust and get the right dose, but this happens often and i don't know what to do. Everything can go along great and boom....it's all different. Just this a.m. he promised to never kick me out again, then tonight he says promises were meant to be broken and he calls the cops. He NEVER did this before, he says I'm the one who is crazy....please someone help me to understand what is going on. i want to cry right now but I can't because it upsets him...please help.

[che170]

Thank you all for your understanding and support. That night, just before the cops showed up, I did call his doc. His Doc did call him the next night and put him on Zyprexa also. For the most part, he has been this way, even before the med change. The meds do seem to be giving him "the middle of the road" feeling, but because there will need to be adjustments and until the meds are right, I know this will happen....him going off at a moments notice. Because of what all of you have said here, I do wonder if it's more his persoanlity and how much is BP. I know it seems I repeat myself so often here...I'm so confused. I want to believe there will be a time the meds are right....until then I'm confused and not sure what I'm doing. Thank you all again...being here and having your support means so much.

[Berries]

(((((((((((che170)))))))))))

Please keep posting until the confusion is gone and you know in heart what you need to do.

sending many hugs and well wishes

[Amazonmom]

This is a safe place to be confused, to vent, to ask for support.

[eskielover]

PC is a wonderful place to get feed back on how others might see our situation even though they don't have ALL the facts.

Many times we are so emotionally involved in our situation....as the saying goes...."we can't see the forest for the trees"....Sometimes what others see because they are not involved emotionally can help a lot & help us see things we might not other wise see or even think of on our own.

Many people have had similar situations they can draw from their personal experiences.

I have found for myself, that when I can put my thoughts down in writing, I can get a better understanding of what I am really thinking....a place to organize my thoughts. Also having a place to safely vent what we are thinking is very important. We can't hold all the bad inside or we will explode...& if in the process, others can help with some thoughts & ideas that can help.....so much the better.

The supportive hugs & sympathetic understanding & caring helps us feel that we are not alone also.

The most imortant support comes sometimes where there are many people providing similar thoughts.....that is usually the time to really start listening & thinking about what changes really need to be made & where out thinking we have had might not be working.....it gives us some input & other's experiences to draw from to give us ideas to work with in our own lives.

No where can anyone draw from such a wide base of people with similar mental issues & experiences to help find answers & ideas & understanding & caring & help sort out confusion.

I hope you continue posting & seeking answers to your questions for your confusion. It takes time to sort throuht everything. Please stay safe more than anything else though & take care of yourself when things like this happen & know that we all care & will try to help as much as we possibly can.


Debbie