[sweetpea_tx]

First off, I will say that I am aware that this post may get moved, but I want it to be seen by my fellow bipolars more than anyone else.

My boyfriend wants me to move back i n with him... the sooner, the better because of my past actions. I just went back on meds and under a physician's care. He thinks that since I'm house sitting for an old friend and am currently unemployed, pulling up stakes and moving back should really be quite easy. I finally had my appointment with the doc and got my dx (Bipolar I Mixed & BPD) on Tuesday. I haven't been on meds for a week yet. I'm going to Texas MHMR... they have offices in his town (which used to be mine). I'm scared to move before I'm levelled out.

He also has a family history of bipolar (I guess like really does attract like) and says that he's going to get himself an appointment with MHMR because he read all the pamphlets and whatnot that I had laying around my house while I was at the last appointment and he was left alone at the house, and he realizes that he does meet a lot of the criteria. He's been drinking a lot (and usually finds a way to blame me for it)

I guess I just need some suggestions as to why it would be best for me to at least stay til my follow up appointment (30 June) and transfer at that time. I just can't find the words, I guess.

[Amazonmom]

Don't move until you believe it is the right thing for you, your stability, and the relationship.

Waiting until the time is right gives the relationship the best chance to succeed long term.

Boyfriend may want you back home right now, but it sounds like he has issues of his own to work on. The drinking concerns me, especially since he has a pattern of drinking too much and blaming you for it.

I'm not saying NEVER move back in, just make sure you are making the healthiest choice possible. Especially since you are going to be disrupting the rest of your life if you move back.

[sweetpea_tx]

Originally Posted by Amazonmom

Don't move until you believe it is the right thing for you, your stability, and the relationship.

Waiting until the time is right gives the relationship the best chance to succeed long term.

Boyfriend may want you back home right now, but it sounds like he has issues of his own to work on. The drinking concerns me, especially since he has a pattern of drinking too much and blaming you for it.

I'm not saying NEVER move back in, just make sure you are making the healthiest choice possible. Especially since you are going to be disrupting the rest of your life if you move back.

You are so right. Last night, he kept calling me after my Seroquel XR kicked in... I was too tired to fight, so finally, I just hung up and turned off the ringer. He's now popping pills on top of the drinking... I express ANY concern and I get hit with "You need to worry about yourself and leave me out of it". UGH!

[Slick399]

You gotta do what is best for you, regardless of anyone else. It seems prudent to wait until you are feeling balanced before you make any kind of decision regarding a move or a relationship. Remember, you are number 1!!!

Slick