[Slick399]

How far into a relationship does one have to tell another about his/her bipolar disorder? And, how does one tell a romantic interest about this?

Thank you
Slick399

[Amazonmom]

Interesting question. My husband and I discussed what would have happened if I had been diagnosed before we met (instead of 10 years after). I decided that I wouldn't have told him until the relationship was going to be somewhat serious. Maybe the "this is getting to be love" phase where you decide to be exclusive. That's where I feel like there is an obligation to tell.

How to start that conversation? Oh boy, I don't know. I told my husband over the phone in a blubbering mess of tears. I don't recommend that method.

I take it this means there is a romantic interest, Slick. Go for it!

[Berries]

I agree with Amazon, wait until you are in the "are we going to be exclusive" phase.

Then I would come with a book or pamphlets from the doc office--INFORMATION. Be positive when telling about it. Don't make it sound like a death sentence, but just another life challange that you happen to have.
You don't have to be scary about it and yet still be realistic and honest.

It is a high mantainence painful dx for loved ones, but if you are a great person, then you are worth it.

And I think Slick is probably a great person!!!!!

[Slick399]

Thanks an awful lot, Amazonmom and Berries! You made me feel quite normal and acceptable. I like the idea of bringing pamphlets from the doctor's office to educate him. I think that maybe the way to go for me. Even have him accompany me to the doctor's office/appointment one time if things eventually get rather serious. I was thinking I could lead him into this by telling him that I have had issues with depression for a number of years and take medication to manage the depression, then the explanation about the bipolar can come. Thanks.

Slick399