[tiver43809]

My wife and I are ready to split up over the treatment for my daughter who has been diagnosed with bi-polar. She has been undergoing treatment for a few years. While the meds (help) she still goes into these "RAGES", in between these she still refuses to do homework, help around house etc. She will swear and be abuseful at times. I say if we keep working with the doctors they will find the right combonation and even her attitude will get better. Wife says it is a lost cause and if I want to stay in the mess go ahead she is leaving. My daughter is 15, was on meds for adhd for the last 5 years. Last year they took her off and have been trying to treat bi polar. And yes the adhd were not helping anything by then. I guess my big question is, has anyone else had a simlar rage, attitude. and the have meds help "everything"?

[lonegael]

(((((tiver43809)))))) Oh , yes, I certainly have. Usually when I am in a dysphoric mania, where I have depression with too much energy and aggression blended in. I could be really foul and even throw things at people. If your daughter has been on ADHD medications, this might have made the "ups" and the impulse control (which is where the rages come in) even harder to manage, as most of those meds are stimulants, as you probably well know. Sorry things are so bad with your wife and daughter. I wish you and the psychiatrists luck in stabilizing your daughter's life. I can tell you, she isn't having fun either. Keep posting and let us know what happens

[Anneinside]

Is your daughter in therapy? It can help. Also, have you considered couples counseling? Maybe you can work it out.

[sole searching]

Originally Posted by tiver43809

My wife and I are ready to split up over the treatment for my daughter who has been diagnosed with bi-polar. She has been undergoing treatment for a few years. While the meds (help) she still goes into these "RAGES", in between these she still refuses to do homework, help around house etc. She will swear and be abuseful at times. I say if we keep working with the doctors they will find the right combonation and even her attitude will get better. Wife says it is a lost cause and if I want to stay in the mess go ahead she is leaving. My daughter is 15, was on meds for adhd for the last 5 years. Last year they took her off and have been trying to treat bi polar. And yes the adhd were not helping anything by then. I guess my big question is, has anyone else had a simlar rage, attitude. and the have meds help "everything"?

Hi i have been in the same basic situation I never use to hit a rage until i live with my boyfriend of two years he is also Bipolar like myself. Zeprexa seemed to help my rages but it made me extremely hungry and i gained weight on it. ADHD is a disorder that goes hand in hand with the Bipolar they are two seperate co existing disorder i had thought until i read the book manic depression survival guide that ADHD turned into Bipolar but thats not the case. your wife is probably giving up because that is some peoples ways of dealing with the disorder. My mother hangs in there for me but my brother and father have completely written me and my son off he has the ADHD. the other med i have found helpful for my rage is Geodone and alot of positivity around your daughter is going to be the best thing. Talk to her get to understand her let her talk her feelings out to you. Be her stone don't budge. She needs your support and anyone elses that is willing to give it to her. She needs to know your there and you will catch her if she falls. My mom is my stone and my son also is my support team. Maybe take your wife to NAMI support groups let her learn more maybe she will come around and face this head on with you. I wish you luck. I hope i was of help.