[barr]

good morning my wife is a pack rat and as long as i don't focus on it im okay. but sometimes it is very hard.

[blueoctober]

Hi barr; I find that having a unorganized home, office, etc. can trigger anxiety for me, so I can feel your pain! Have you had an open and honest conversation with your wife regarding how you feel? You may even want to consider couples counseling.

[Amandas256]

I'm with Blue October on this one. I can't be in clutter. It stresses me out too much. Can you go through the stuff and clean it up and get rid of things that are not needed?

[sugahorse1]

i've just taken over another person's portfolio at work, and she handed me a whole pile of pieces of paper, as well as numerous files. I've tried to sift through it and throw away as much as possible, but there's so much confusion-it's hard. But i can totally empathise with wanting as little clutter as possible. I agree you need to speak to her.

[barr]

Originally Posted by blueoctober

Hi barr; I find that having a unorganized home, office, etc. can trigger anxiety for me, so I can feel your pain! Have you had an open and honest conversation with your wife regarding how you feel? You may even want to consider couples counseling.

thank you for your suggestion i have tried to talk with her about it but our talks become heated and are not worth a crap it comes back to my bipolar and i should just deal with her clutter.

[blueoctober]

Originally Posted by barr

thank you for your suggestion i have tried to talk with her about it but our talks become heated and are not worth a crap it comes back to my bipolar and i should just deal with her clutter.

That would hurt to have a partner blame any concern I had on my diagnosis. Perhaps couples counseling would help?

[Murky]

Originally Posted by blueoctober

That would hurt to have a partner blame any concern I had on my diagnosis. Perhaps couples counseling would help?

Well this brings up an important point. How do you take to a spouse about how to deal with a bo partner? My own experience is that I've put my wife through enough bs already. I'm always the sensitive one. She always has to pick up my slack. Truthfully I'm lucky she hasn't left my *** already. I've been a selfish jerk for years. I'm going to guess other's have similar situations. So how do we tell them now that she's got to be more sensitive to my needs? I want to be less of a burden...not more of one.

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[blueoctober]

Originally Posted by Murky

Well this brings up an important point. How do you take to a spouse about how to deal with a bo partner? My own experience is that I've put my wife through enough bs already. I'm always the sensitive one. She always has to pick up my slack. Truthfully I'm lucky she hasn't left my *** already. I've been a selfish jerk for years. I'm going to guess other's have similar situations. So how do we tell them now that she's got to be more sensitive to my needs?

I can't speak for the initial poster views, but I feel in every relationship whether someone is diagnosed bp or not there are issues. It doesn't mean that because someone is diagnosed that their feelings aren't important and if it's something that truly bothers you I would rather my partner bring it up rather than stuff it until he became bitter and resentful. I also believe counseling can help in many situations.

If you have been a "selfish jerk" in the past and it wasn't your intention to behave that way I would rather my partner own up to that behavior and make an effort to change the habit and/or seek out professional help etc.