[ariatboot]

I see my pdoc tomorrow and Im wondering how all of you guys bring up issues with your doc. Mine acts like Im to 'crazy' or 'unstable' to be asking questions or to have things explained to me. Im get so nervous that I usually just tell her everything is fine just to get out of there and not have to be looked at like I just said the craziest, most psychotic sentence any human being has ever said. HELP.....

[blueoctober]

Hi ariatboot; I do love my p-doc, but while in the hospital if she was unavailable I had to deal with a different p-doc and he was an arrogant prick! I think it's important to feel like you can speak openly with any doctor; especially a p-doc.

Perhaps mention your concerns and see what she says. Sometimes people don't realize how they come across to others and she may just need to change her approach with you. You may also want to find a new p-doc (yes I know easier said than done).

What helps me before I see my p-doc is write a list of what I need to speak to her about. This helps me stay on topic and also so I don't forget any episodes I had between visits. I hope that helps a bit.

[PromisesToKeep]

great suggestions, blue...
If I may be so bold as to add my two cents, you aren't crazy, you aren't bad, you are ill. Any psychiatric doctor worth their salt will be non-judgmental, compassionate and actively participate in a plan to resolve that which ails you. You didn't ask for this and you didn't do anything to deserve it, anymore than someone with lymphoma. If you feel you are being judged, you can ask if the doctor is judging you. If you don't feel your problem is being addressed, ask for help with your problem. If you have questions about your condition, treatment plan, medications or therapuetic goals, ASK! PLEASE ASK! Nothing will help a doctor help a patient more than a patient that demands to be treated medically and with dignity. You are a VERY important member of your treatment team. There is no shame in seeking help.

[Ygrec23]

Originally Posted by ariatboot

I see my pdoc tomorrow and Im wondering how all of you guys bring up issues with your doc. Mine acts like Im to 'crazy' or 'unstable' to be asking questions or to have things explained to me. Im get so nervous that I usually just tell her everything is fine just to get out of there and not have to be looked at like I just said the craziest, most psychotic sentence any human being has ever said. HELP.....

Hi, ariatboot,

Sounds like you need to look for another T. I went through therapy not asking questions and not asking that things be explained to me, but that was my problem. I can tell you it's a VERY bad way to go through therapy, that therapy without answers and explanations is probably worthless. Whatever problem your T may have, she should be giving you answers and explanations. Why not talk with her about the whole issue, or try to. If she responds in the way she has up till now, then you know what you have to do. Take care!

[PT52]

I like to write lists, too. It helps a lot. My sister knits so that she doesn't have to make eye contact and finds it easier to say what she needs to. Good luck!

[sick]

trying to get a new pdoc for my daughter one that listens that care one that does not throw judgement at her and mean remarks she needs help if he would only listen she needs help she need something to help her with bipolar swings whywon't he help
sorry yes i have met many doctors who make a pt feel like they are nothing i am sorry yours makes you feel uncomfortable as well if you can try getting a new pdoc too okay try you are important what you say matters and you have a right to ask for information and help

[Gus1234U]

yes, Ariat,, run, run to a decent doc,, remember ,, they are just people, and some of them are not NICE people, either,,,, best wishes,,, Gus