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#1
Oct 30, 2010, 11:14 AM
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In October I got a new supervisor. I really don't like him and I miss my old supervisor. My old supervisor just left me alone to do my work and I work best in that environment. My new supervisor feels the need to "mentor" me which equates to him talking to me wayyyyy too much. He is also very arrogant and condescending. I don't think this is done purposely, but I just don't think he realizes how he comes across to others. About 95% of the Inspectors don't like him, so I'm certainly not the only one, but I have the extra stress of dealing with BP and a crappy supervisor and I'm scared I'm going to snap.
I know I'm not going to change him and the only thing I have control over is how I react. I would appreciate any suggestions on how to deal with this.
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Oct 30, 2010, 12:42 PM
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SOmetimes, when i have had to work with supervisors like that , I treat them like they walk on water when they come in and start in on me then do what i need to do when they leave. )t's terrible, I know, but I figure they don't have the ego strength to handle a subordinate with a brain, so I don't bait them, not that you would. It's just they usually don't need much to set them off. Good luck, dear, that's not easy.
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Oct 30, 2010, 12:48 PM
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Thanks lonegael; that is good advice.
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Oct 30, 2010, 04:13 PM
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Yup, I do the same as lonegael, also asking them a question only at utmost need. I've definitely had a number of bosses that were that way, one particularly bad. One could ask him a very specific question and he'd start his answer pretty much with a review the alphabet (ok, slight exaggeration...
 ) Fortunately, there was an employee there who knew more than he did, and she gave very practical advice. Guess which one I'd go to? Also, lonegael truly states the basis of their behavior -- they just can't stand the thought of someone having a brain -- which is usually just overcompensation for their own insecurities. (Oh yeah... and in the same vein, he'd take credit all the time for others' work.) I'd keep this in mind and consider him a psychological study... Heehee... Thinking like this also helped me distance myself from the behavior a bit and not take it as personally. (Besides, he treated positively everyone that way.) |
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Oct 30, 2010, 04:22 PM
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you could consider this a learning exercise of how to deal with people you are uncomfortable around.
micromanagers used to drive me crazy. they disrupted my work and efficiency. BUT i'd give this person a little time to "save" him/herself while getting used to the new position. try to not engage in coversation at work that is negative about this person. it will only impact you further....if all else fails, then consider a lateral move at work as an option.
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Oct 30, 2010, 05:26 PM
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Oct 31, 2010, 01:21 AM
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Wish I had some advice...the only thing I've had success at is getting fired!
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Oct 31, 2010, 10:28 AM
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Quote:
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Oct 31, 2010, 12:01 PM
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do your best in following direction from your supervisor but have little contact otherwise. Keep it strictly professional and do not discuss personal life issues. do the best you can and always remember it is only for 8 hours of your day. Also, try to think of one good quality of that person when they upset you. That always helped for me.
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