Temper, Temper

Last night I was watching tv with the guy I'm kinda seeing and a character that I don't like came on. She's really fake and as you find out later in the show also one of the "bad guys." I mocked her (it's a thing.. I mock). Well I neglected to think about the fact that the line I was mocking had do do with Jesus. I'm not Christian so the thought never dawned on me. Besides which I wasn't mocking the idea, just the character.

Well, the guy snapped at me that just because he doesn't go to church all the time doesn't mean I should mock his religion. I was really hurt and tried to explain I was mocking her character (he hasn't seen the whole season of the show so he doesn't know about her yet). He didn't seem to accept my explanation and I got mad...really mad. I hardly spoke to him the rest of the night just laid there seething with anger for hours. I almost asked him to leave but I knew if I tried it would come out: "get the #$%^& out of my house...blah, blah, blah."

Needless to say when I saw my pdoc today and related this story I got my meds upped again. You know..that whole reaction disproportionate to the event thing...yeah. Haven't talked to the guy today...still kinda mad. And even though I'm still mad and don't really want to talk to him I'm a little upset he didn't call or text today. Boo...

I hate it when things come out so wrong. I've done that too,though luckily, not with that type of thing. Sadly, a lot of people feel defensive when so many shows get produced by people who have a kind of shallow view of religion, and think they really know, and then think that the rest of the country shares the view that they and their friends in Burbank in California do So a lot of show get this type of charater that is a nasty charater that espouses religious views, it's easy to mock because the character is not nice, but the views might be held by a lot of actually decient folks and
Poor you. Best you kind of bit your tongue about asking him to leave. You're right. he would have taken it wrong. can you find a way to say something like, " You know, I'm sorry what I said came out so wrong last night. I didn't mean to diss your faith. Can we just start with a clean slate on that?" Trying to explain it further would just kind of end up being messy, I suspect. What do you think?
Oh, the memories you post brought up! I really felt for you, dear! Hugggs!

Hi Kitty, sorry that happened and I so get "I'm mad at him, but wish he would call". I think the guy overreacted too and perhaps the reason why you reacted the way you did is because his reaction was "disproportionate to the event". Just a thought.

Thanks guys. I feel like such an insensitive dolt and at the same time like he overreacted and then I overreacted...chain reaction. Maybe I'll try wiping the slate clean or maybe I'll just call it quits. I can't have someone jumping all over me every time I put my foot in my mouth. I've been through that and it just escalates and makes me unhappy. Besides which this relationship has no long term potential so why stay and fight it out?

Hi kitty. I would for sure have got mad at this guy too. I agree with the others that he totally over-reacted. Yikes. It's totally unclear to me why YOUR meds got increased as a result of this?? Anyhow, I wish you all the very best! ((((((((kitty))))))

Sounds like more is wrong with the relationship than a little spat. Not worth the triggers if you say it has no long-term potential.

Oh big hugs to you for seeing this! Sorry you evening was a wreck and quit feeling like a dolt you spoke your mind in your house. I live with my foot in my mouth and the best thing is I married a man that gets it .

Please do not take this offensive, if it is I do not mean it to be. I read that you are not Christian?? I was wondering if ppl treat you badly or judge you because of that? R U Atheist, I am a very curious person, if it's none of my business just tell me, I will understand.

Midnight_soul, no I'm not offended. I am not Christian, I'm pagan. Yes, sometimes I have trouble with other people's attitudes (I live in the bible belt). The question is never do you go to church; it's what church do you go to? I usually just answer that I don't go to church in a firm tone and they generally don't push it. I have no problems discussing religion or my beliefs (discussing not arguing). If you want to know more feel free to PM me. I'm not sure an open forum is the best place for this discussion.