[rdwebb]

Last year, I had a brief fling with a good friend during a manic episode. Of course it ruined the friendship and almost killed my marriage. (So thankful I have a VERY understanding husband!)
Here's the other part of just how bad I like to screw up my world, we work in the same building. Ugh. Wait, it gets worse.
This Thursday, they are moving my office to one with a window view...yay for that, BUT it's right next to the data room where HE works.
We don't speak, but I'm so afraid this will lead to actual speaking, then friends, then right back where I was.
I just came off Seroquel a few weeks ago from that whole manic episode, so I'm quite leery of another one.
Any advice?

[reader71]

Stay away from him. If you see him, turn around and walk the other way. Don't even say hello. It really sucks that you have to work right next door to him, but if you keep your boundaries firm eventually you will get used to it. Good luck.

[Kymaro]

Unfortantly, your going to have to face him at some point in time. My advise would be keep it simple. Set your boundries and keep the FIRM. I've been in a simular situation and it is surely a tuff one. Remember, just cuz your co-workers doesnt mean your friends.

[sugahorse1]

Have you dealt with any and all emotions you may have felt for him? Have you put them behind you?
Otherwise I'd suggest therapy to help you work through this.

I've also been in the same position, and ended up having to leave the company because I was triggered - usually depression. But I had not dealt with my feelings for the person.
I also found that taking Klonopin helped me calm down and make sense of what was going on

[rdwebb]

I've dealt with most of the feelings, though not all of them. I miss the friendship we had; we had known each other ten years. But I realize, I can't be friends with him. I need to do exactly what you guys are saying. Set the boundaries and move forward. There is a door on the office, so I imagine I'll be using that a lot. I see my pdoc this afternoon, so I will definitely tell him about this, as it's right on the heels of weaning off Seroquel, and ask about something else to keep me calm and "in the right frame of mind". I've never had Klonopin, I might ask about that. Is it very sedating? I don't want to fall asleep at work. I tend to drool in my sleep and my luck it would short out my laptop. Ha, ha!

[sugahorse1]

Lol - I don't find Klonopin too sedating. The active ingredient is Clonazepam.
I only take the 0.5mg tablets though

I hope things go well, and that you are able to set up boundaries. It's not going to be easy, but you need to be strong and stick to them

[madisgram]

I just came off Seroquel a few weeks ago from that whole manic episode, so I'm quite leery of another one.
Any advice?
hi rd, any reason you stopped seroquel if you're afraid of another manic episode?

[rdwebb]

I stopped due to weight gain and climbing blood sugar. I just got back from my pdoc; he said if things start getting bad after I move, to call and he would put me back on a low dose of the Seroquel (I was on 300mg). Or he would add Geodon instead. He did up my Lamictal and gave me a third Xanex to take every day. I'm going to take it day by day and minute by minute. He's a good doctor, with a 24/7 answer service that would page him right away if I needed the meds. And he said to use that, to call anytime if I felt like things were getting worse.