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Apr 26, 2011, 05:02 PM
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I would rather be in a homeless shelter now. I moved in with some friends that I met online in Corry, PA. They have 4 kids, 2 of which have severe, severe, severe behavioral issues. One has child onset Conduct Disorder and the other is a pathalogical liar, and has multiple outbursts, crying and likes to destroy other's things. The one with CD is 10yrs old and will destroy anything in his path, he has huge damaging tantrums, this also sets his brother off, making him want start kicking and fighting... This never ever ends.
Now I have MDD, BPD, SZA, GAD. I can't take this stuff. They are setting me off and triggering me into severe cyclic motions. I take my meds, but it isn't helping. I seriously feel like I'm going to snap soon. To top it off, the parents are just as bad as the kids. They do nothing except stare at a computer all day, and yell and scream at the kids. What a joke. I screwed up. This is more than I can chew. 
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Apr 26, 2011, 05:12 PM
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((chandlerT660)) - I'm sorry this is a bad situation for you and I don't think many could tolerate this kind of chaos. Are you living with friends due to financial hardship? Do you have enough finances to just get the heck out of there? I think you should leave ASAP for your own mental wellness.
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Apr 26, 2011, 08:28 PM
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Can you you go back to living where you were before you moved in with them?
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Apr 27, 2011, 01:58 PM
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You already did the first step and realize that you were in a bad situation. If possible I would either suggest going back to where you were before or if that is not possible then stay with family members.
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Apr 27, 2011, 02:26 PM
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Yea, I can't go live with family members nor can I go back. I screwed up, and now I'm being punished for my illogical and irrational thinking. Lets just hope and pray that I can get another trucking job soon!
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Apr 27, 2011, 03:02 PM
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Dial h for homeless shelter...they may have room....some of them are not bad at all and far better then where you are now. Trust me, get out now...find a shelter or the woods whatever. Do you have a car...You can always sleep in that if you need too.
Your mental health comes first!!!! Take care of it.....call the local hospital too, and tell them how you are feeling. Let us know whats happening!!!! You are NOT being punished....it was a simple mistake with bad consequences. You will get out of this!
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Apr 28, 2011, 06:04 PM
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i think that kind of situation would drive anyone crazy! can you get out of the house for chunks of the day? or all day.... i would want to go to a shelter too, and it seems easier if you don't have children. the stress could seem too much and i think i could understand...you need to be strong (as steel?) to not let it affect you. and anything healthy to keep your sanity would help, right? can you go for walks? there's always a way out, just stay focused on it. channel your negative/anger energy to get out.
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Apr 28, 2011, 09:04 PM
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Yea, It's ok during the day while they are at school, but before and after school they are a nightmare. I told my therapist today and they are going to see what they can do. I'm trying to make myself scarce.
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Apr 29, 2011, 09:08 AM
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Hide in your room? You have your own, I hope? Get a deadbolt and hide! Tell them if they ask that you are working or something.
Try to hang on. You can do this. Their problems are not yours. Just try your best to ignore it, hard as that might be. Try music and headphones to drown it out. If you can work, maybe find an evening job so you are gone when the worst is going on? Also, start looking for someone else who needs a roommate. You might get lucky there.
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Apr 29, 2011, 09:53 AM
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Good advice, all. Keep us posted, Chandler?
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Apr 30, 2011, 08:39 PM
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Well the kids are at their grandparents tonight, so I may get some much needed sleep. I've slept only 2 hrs a night because of there temper tantrums, and having to keep one eye open so the psychotic 14 year old doesn't attempt anything stupid... Seriously, the mental hospital was made for this kid.
I'm coming to the conclusion that I'm gonna have to be not 100% truthful to get out of this situation. I used to be a trucker, and my "clinical diagnosis of organic mental illness" caused my to lose that career. Now my termination from Stevens Transport is not on any document that says I got canned for mental illness. That being said, I'm filling out applications and saying I don't have any clinical diagnosis of any mental illness.. I don't feel good about it, but it's truly my only love for a career, other than flying, but that's a whole new thread.
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Apr 30, 2011, 08:58 PM
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Good luck with those applications, chandler!
 Do you have a lock on your door? (I'm a big big fan of locks. Ask anyone!  ) Sleeping with one eye open for 2 hours a night is surely not good for you! This is why I'm wondering if you have a lock, and guessing that maybe you don't. I do run on the paranoid side, but.... Clearly you are worried about the 14 year old. Have you considered putting a piece of furniture to block your door? (Just be sure you have a way out like a window or something though!)Like ladyjrnlist mentioned with the headphones, let me also recommend ear plugs. I wear them every night and this without any of the type of chaos you are in the midst of! |
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May 01, 2011, 01:11 AM
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No lock, I sleep on the couch. I'm trying so hard to get out of here...
To start my transition from banned drugs for truckers. I'm starting St. John's Wort tomorrow. Its been 3 weeks since my last ingestion of Wellbutrin and 4 days since my last intake of Doxepin. My PDoc says its worth a try, but reminded me if it comes down to it, he will medically clear me to drive. If I need to go back on something. But he supports it. SHOCKING! (companies tend not to hire folks that are needed a doctors clearance) Anyways that's what's going on with me now. PDOC says to start at 900mg per day then up it to 1200mg after 1 week if I tolerate it well and it seems like it may be working. Kool! 
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May 02, 2011, 03:26 PM
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Great news, Chandler!
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May 03, 2011, 05:27 AM
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Well out of 9 applications, I got 4 responses. Going to call them all back this morning. In order as to who I would like to work for.
Werner Enterprises Prime Inc. Maverick Transport (Pays the best but it's flatbed, lots of work... ) CR England - Scum of the industry. Anyways gonna call them all back this morning.. Wish me luck.
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May 05, 2011, 06:40 AM
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continuation of my thread http://forums.psychcentral.com/showthread.php?t=182322
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May 06, 2011, 01:59 AM
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I can relate Chandler... I am staying with family who are "supportive of me". They know about my mental health issues but the one time I raised my voice, my sister told me that she was afraid I would get a knife and threaten her family (can you say stigma and ignorance)? They were trying to save me from being on SSDI and food stamps and bad housing situations... but you know what, I would rather be free than have my well meaning family redo my wardrobe, make me quit smoking, keep me busy so I can't work on my non profit biz (it would have gotten me out of my sister's house by next month) but they have no interest in listening to me. So I am working on my brother in law's business, having to lecture me on what I eat "because they care". I even quit smoking and I didn't want to just so they wouldn't have to smell it on me. Their son is cognatively challenged and whenever I advocate for him, they get on my case too.
I'd rather live in a shelter and have my freedom to look, eat and smoke as I please instead of having material goods shoved at me as an "improvement in life". I have 2 Coach purses I don't need that would have fed a lot of people. I've decided to hang in there until I get a job and move out, then I will start my non-profit business. When it's up and running and supports me, that will be my revenge. In the meantime, remember that this IS a temporary situation. It's good to get out and away from them as much as possible. Your mental health is the most important...you are important and worth it! I can totally relate to what you have shared. I am sending hugs.
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May 06, 2011, 03:26 AM
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Thanks for the hugs! I talked with my ex boyfriend ( who is still my best friend) and he *****ed some sense into me. So Now I feel so much better. Mentally, we split because of my issues, but we parted on terms that we would both better our lives to the best of our abilities. Best thing I guess to happen to me....
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May 10, 2011, 01:16 PM
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May 11, 2011, 01:21 AM
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Congrats, chandler! Keep us posted!
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May 11, 2011, 03:08 AM
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Maybe calling the hospital is the best bet? They can provide emotional support too. Going through something similiar, but I am with family. Hang in there!
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