[Kmbpeace1171]

I am just now accepting that I am considered disabled and while I live in my own apartment I am not responsible for my own money I had to get a payee or social security would not release my money. Anyone else have one? I'm definitely limited in what I can do with my disability (agoraphobia) amongst other things. I am limited because I cant just go to the bank and cash my check, my payee has to do it and give me the money allowed for certain things like meds, grocery shopping etc. It is a new reality. It is also a new reality that, since I no longer have a career ironically in the Mental Health Field, I am now a night owl I don't fall asleep before four a.m. and I sleep til ten am so six hours of sleep is all I need now, a new reality. I rather enjoy the nighttime television programs like Jimmy Kimmel etc. I[m not whining, I'm truly at a point of acceptance. Thanks for listening and have a great evening. Goodnight.

[Yoda]

Social security required you to have a payee? How old are you? I was my son's payee when he was a minor.

My therapists wanted me to get a payee when I was spending my money recklessly for a couple of years but I refused because I couldn't have Paypal so I wouldn't have been able to sell things on ebay/internet.

Doesn't your payee give your a certain amount of "spending cash" for each week? The people who I knew from group therapy that had payees got a set amount each week like $20 or so that they used to buy sodas and stuff.

Night owl here too. Nice to meet you.

[venusss]

How about accepting this as temporarily thing and work hard on getting back on the track?

[Kmbpeace1171]

Originally Posted by VenusHalley

How about accepting this as temporarily thing and work hard on getting back on the track?

True good point, thank you, my new phrase is that my NEW full time job is recovery, its kinda awesome to have this time to regroup.

[Kmbpeace1171]

Originally Posted by Yoda

Social security required you to have a payee? How old are you? I was my son's payee when he was a minor.

My therapists wanted me to get a payee when I was spending my money recklessly for a couple of years but I refused because I couldn't have Paypal so I wouldn't have been able to sell things on ebay/internet.

Doesn't your payee give your a certain amount of "spending cash" for each week? The people who I knew from group therapy that had payees got a set amount each week like $20 or so that they used to buy sodas and stuff.

Night owl here too. Nice to meet you.

yes ssa would not release funds until I brought my payee to their office to set it up, I dont really think its necessary but in a way it is because I messed up so badly with my bank accounts in Buffalo that I cant get a bank account in my own name where I live now In Colorado Springs. I used to spend money on everything except wht I was supposed to spend it on but I learned my lesson and it reallly isn't an issue i"M actually pretty tight with my money now. Yes my payee gives me mad money to spend on what I like, its all good I just hate it tho LOL, Nice to meet u too, g'nite.

[Yoda]

ah I understand. See when I first got disability I was responsible but then several years later was when I became irresponsible. I am responsible now but I messed up my credit score. Live and learn.

ttyl

[cocos421]

I'm on disability and have a payee. It's my husband though. I'm 39 years old. I don't understand why I needed one, but oh well, as long as i'm getting the disability,right? My uses all the money to pay bills. He used to give me $200 a month to spend. Times are tough now, so I don't get any.