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Jan 05, 2012, 03:07 PM
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My husband and I have been together for 3 years. I've known all along that he's an alcoholic and he was good at staying sober until about a month ago. He drinks when I'm at work, and I can smell it on his breath and lately he lies about it when I ask. I am in recovery myself for various drugs and when he drnks all I can think about is getting high for revenge. I told him that's what I think, and he said that I had better not. I know it's a disease, as is drug abuse, but I get sooooo
 !! I'm torn. I grew up with an alcoholic step father and I refuse to live with an alcoholic husband, I know it only brings heartache. I'm at a loss and don't know how to cope with this.  I am in serious danger of relapse since it is the only way I know how to deal with problems.
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Jan 11, 2012, 10:38 PM
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I'm sorry that you have to face such a thing, I know that it must be very hard on you. Please don't use, it won't help out one tiny bit. There are much better ways of dealing with your anger.
Do you attend AA or NA meetings? They would urge you that your sobriety through all of this is of utmost importance. Also don't forget AlAnon and NarcAnon meetings which are meetings for those who love people with drug and alchol addictions. PsychCentral has an Addictions Forum that may be of interest to you. This topic would probably get quite a few replies there. http://forums.psychcentral.com/forumdisplay.php?f=32 Please don't use.
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Jan 12, 2012, 09:08 PM
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My first husband got drunk again after 6 years of sobriety. To keep my sobriety I divorced him. Nothing and no one was going to come between me and my sobriety.
Nobody and nothing is worth losing that. I hope you can connect with AA or NA or Alanon or NarcAnon or anyone who can walk you through this. No drug will make this better. It will only make it go away and then the situation will be worse than it is now. Good Luck.
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Jan 13, 2012, 03:30 AM
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I have to agree with RapidFlyer. You have to do what is best with you. You cannot put your own health at risk for the health of someone else.
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Jan 13, 2012, 11:45 PM
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I beg to differ about it being "the only way (you) know how to deal with problems." You are here, asking for help. Give yourself some credit.
I attempted to get sober about 10 years ago. My husband at the time was urging me to do so. He drank also. When I decided to try, he would not do it with me so I asked him to leave. We have since divorced. It did not stick that time. I needed to go further down before I hit bottom. I have now been sober 8 years. Using/drinking is not an option. Neither is having close relationships with someone who does. You are also on medication? This is something you can't mess with. My mother used to do that & it is very dangerous. She was & still is on lamictal & just celebrated 6 years sobriety. Please take care of you 
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