[BuggsBunny]

What's your bottom of the pit, all time Worst line (or action) that you've ever gotten, from someone who was supposedly trying to be supportive?

I'll start out with my Mom: There's nothing wrong with you - you're perfectly normal! (as I'm in the middle of a manic episode and rapidly switching to depression.)

And then there's my sister's all time supportive line as she calls me in the psych unit "Are you in the nuthouse AGAIN?"

[Moose72]

I had a social worker say to me, "Well what do you want ME to do about it?!"

Last week I met with my T & I told her I was having feelings/thoughts of dying & she said, what do you want me to do about it? I told her nothing & then she said, You told me for a reason so what do you want me to do? That's when I completely shut down & regretted saying anything. She then implied that I'm making myself unhappy.

I used to get, you just want attention or you're making excuses. My T tells me that I'm the person who is keeping myself depressed.

It sucks that the people who are supposed to be supportive only makes us feel worse than we already do.

[BuggsBunny]

Many years ago, when I was still an occasional cutter, I went into my T's office with a whole row of shallow cuts down my arm. Her answer? "I am not impressed." I told her if I was trying to impress her, I'd have needed stitches.

Not on purpose, but about two weeks later, I was using a new blade and cut down way too hard. Took 9 stitches. I left her a note and asked her if she was impressed now?

[cybermember]

I was going in for major surgery and called my mom to let her know. Her reply, "Call me when you get out." WTF?

[nacht]

My mother telling me, while I was in the middle of a mixed episode, that I wasn't sick and it was an excuse to make me spend money on pills I didn't need and I should pray more. Then not visiting me when I ended up in hospital after a suicide attempt. (She's actually never visited...)

There was also the one time she sent me a six page letter in the mail, explaining to me that I didn't actually have bipolar disorder and it was all a conspiracy by Satan to make me stop using my voice to sing the word of god. That was... that was something.

Oh and then there was the psychiatrist who told me right out she thought I was faking it for attention. That was about when my insurance ran out so I said the hell with it and stopped taking meds, because I felt better and obviously no one else thought I had a problem either.

[spoiltmom]

When people think you should just pull yourself up and snap out of it. Like its that simple.

[BuggsBunny]

My sister once asked me what I wanted on my tombstone as they were taking me in for anesthesia. I suppose it was her revenge for my asking her if she wanted her organs donated before her previous surgery...

Originally Posted by BuggsBunny

Many years ago, when I was still an occasional cutter, I went into my T's office with a whole row of shallow cuts down my arm. Her answer? "I am not impressed." I told her if I was trying to impress her, I'd have needed stitches.

Not on purpose, but about two weeks later, I was using a new blade and cut down way too hard. Took 9 stitches. I left her a note and asked her if she was impressed now?

Lol oh wow...did she respond?

I had to lie to my T when she asked have I recently harmed myself...I lied & told her no. I was scared she was going to take my to the hospital because she said if I told her I was going to harm myself she would have to take me, so I lied. I hate that I feel like I can't be honest with her.

[~Christina]

Last year around this time ,, he assumed I was just Lazy and didnt want to work and cutting myself was just for sympathy .. luckily things have gotten better and he know understands thanks to my T that i indeed has an illness that i cant always control.

[BuggsBunny]

Originally Posted by SoFragile88

Lol oh wow...did she respond?

I believe it was along the lines of "Oh Shite! What have I done?" Luckily for her, and me, I was not intending to cut so deep, and it was just my demented sense of humor that made me leave the note. She did deserve it, tho.

Lol that's funny but glad you didn't take it in a way of ok I'm gonna show her what I can really do.

I wish I had the guts to tell my T how I've been feeling but I'm scared. I have a session with her tomorrow evening & I'm laying here thinking what should I say. The crazy thing about it was after saying what she said...we were pulling zen cards & the one she pulled said she needed to apologize to someone. She turned to me & asked is there something I need to apologize to you about...I asked her did she think she needed to apologize to me about something & she replied she didn't know. All along in my head I'm saying hell yea you need to apologize to me.

When I went to inpatient for the 1st time a lady who was supposed to be supportive said that the people in there had "real" problems & that I wasn't like them...I didn't need to be there.

[Moose72]

Originally Posted by SoFragile88

When I went to inpatient for the 1st time a lady who was supposed to be supportive said that the people in there had "real" problems & that I wasn't like them...I didn't need to be there.

Is that a compliment or not? Sounds Bass Ackwards to me.

I felt terrible when she said that. Once again my issues were belittled & still are.

[Switch]

Originally Posted by nacht

There was also the one time she sent me a six page letter in the mail, explaining to me that I didn't actually have bipolar disorder and it was all a conspiracy by Satan to make me stop using my voice to sing the word of god. That was... that was something.

Oh and then there was the psychiatrist who told me right out she thought I was faking it for attention. That was about when my insurance ran out so I said the hell with it and stopped taking meds, because I felt better and obviously no one else thought I had a problem either.

The story of your mom is really funny, but it's sad at the same time.

I've had a resident say the same thing, that I don't really have issues, I'm faking for attention. I was in emerge at the mental hospital for something different, but she even went as far as to say I don't have BP2. Said it flat to my face. It wasn't until mom brought the papers from the guy who dxd me that she took it back, and only because he's apparently some hot shot pdoc.

Originally Posted by SoFragile88

I felt terrible when she said that. Once again my issues were belittled & still are.

I get like that a lot. I've never been fully admitted to hospital, although I've gone to emerge 2ce and nothing came of it. I'm "just not severe enough" apparently... tell that to my work, or school, or friends, or family... My life tells a different story. -_-

Sorry, didn't mean to complain... old frustration.

@Switch you're not complaining...feels good to know someone understands.

I was just thinking & I remember a comment my teacher made last week. She was talking to another student beside me & they were talking about how Don Cornelius killed himself. So my teacher made a remark saying, "we don't do stuff like that" with a disgusted look on her face. Now all 3 of us are Blacks so she was referring to black people not killing themselves. Me & my teacher have become close & it makes me think what does she think about me. Does she think I'm crazy for hurting myself? I think that statement alone has put a wedge between what I will share with her from now on.

[Rmccoy81107]

Originally Posted by SoFragile88

Last week I met with my T & I told her I was having feelings/thoughts of dying & she said, what do you want me to do about it? I told her nothing & then she said, You told me for a reason so what do you want me to do? That's when I completely shut down & regretted saying anything. She then implied that I'm making myself unhappy.

I used to get, you just want attention or you're making excuses. My T tells me that I'm the person who is keeping myself depressed.

It sucks that the people who are supposed to be supportive only makes us feel worse than we already do.

I hate that when I'm not taken seriously when I tell someone how I'm really feeling. Thoughts of dying are nothing to shrug off, so I hope you can find someone who WILL take it seriously... Write me any time. I know what it's like...

[whoswho]

Oh, the amusing people involved in the mental health field...

*TRIGGER*

I remember seeing my first psychiatrist when I was 12 years old. Obviously, I was quite young and children are rarely diagnosed with severe mental illness at that age. But I think it was really my psychiatrist who had more problems than myself. So here I am, suicidal, cutting myself, my mom desperately bringing me in so as to avoid an inpatient hospital stay. My first visit I was diagnosed as Bipolar simply based on the fact that I was cutting. I returned the next week and the first question the psychaitrist asked was, of course, "have you hurt yourself?" "No," I replied. She proceeded to do a skin check anyway, and what do you know, I was actually telling the truth. She looks at my mom in disbelief. "She does not have Bipolar," she says. "The fact that she stopped cutting and has impulse control shows that she is doing this for attention." Yes, obviously, it was all for attention... It most certainly wasn't due to the fact that I felt so terrible when my mom found me cutting, and the sadness and harm I caused her, that I stopped for a very brief amount of time. No, nothing like that at all... That was when I flushed my Prozac down the toilet and decided I would just pretend that never happened... Didn't work out so well.

Oh, I also L-O-V-E when people say something like, "teenagers are always moody" or "everyone is bipolar." Um, actually, NO, not everyone is "bipolar." Everyone coughs but people don't say "everyone has double pneumonia," do they?

[Onward2wards]

"Cheer up, it may never happen."

My reply: "That's exactly what I'm worrying about."

[missmorganxo]

When I was telling my Dad I was bipolar, his first response was, "You're not bipolar. You just act like an idiot and have no self control."

I was like, gee. That's great and all, but that doesn't help me. Thanks.

[moremi]

"I dont know what it feels like to have what you have so I just dont say anything and just hope it gets better"
Lets just ignore the big bipolar elephant and hope it goes away. Ha

[Justme_55]

My bi-polar, borderline, add ex attempting to diagnose ME bi-polar when he didn't want to take responsibility for being abusive when I stood up for myself. Including the fact that I'm in therapy & on meds for my PTSD & anxiety, he considered himself supportive but when I called him out on his abusive ways I WAS INSANE! Lol!

[grandmaof3]

My mother telling me there was nothing wrong with me I was just a b**** like my aunt(who is also bipolar) She said I could be "normal" if I wanted to I was just trying to make her life hard..this when I was a teenager asking to see a psychiatrist. She made me feel guilty and I never went to a psychiatrist until I was in my 30s when things started getting worse. WHen I told her I was bipolar she told me I was full of s**t.

[moodiegirl]

Just heard from my husband: "If you want to be better, just try and do your best and you'll be better". I wish it was that simple! He's very supportive otherwise so I'm not sure where that came from...

" you need to act emotionally stable, more normal" So, I need to just act like I don't have bipolar, and then it's all good. Well... I never took drama class, and I've never been a good actress.