What's the worst "support" you've ever heard?

My Mom used to tell me to read "happy" books, instead of the ones that I enjoyed. WTH is a "happy" book, anyway?

I can relate to all of what I've read. I would have to say my worst was,"why don't you just stop all of this foolishness. I'm sick of always having to clean up your messes".

I've only gotten the fairly typical, "You don't have anything wrong with you. You're so successful." And that was with admitting to depression, not bipolar!

Gee, wonder why I can work circles around everyone else? Maybe there's a little crazy causing all that high productivity? You know why people say that I don't sleep? Because I don't!

Yesterday me & T were talking about my SI. She asked if there was something that would make me not want to cut anymore. I told her I didn't know. She then preceded to tell me she was going to say something I wasn't going to like...she said well cut on then. Great encouragement right? Luckily I didn't take those words to heart because it could have only made things worse. I get she is not specialized to help someone who self harms, but that doesn't mean you say things like that. Thats just like telling a suicidal person to go kill their self since they can't find anything that will help them not want to kill their self. I guess I should stop looking for people to understand...this includes T.

That's a terrible thing to say to any cutter! I'm sorry it was said to you. I'd be a lot more careful around this T in the future. (personally, I'd be looking for a new T, but not everyone has that option.) I hope you didn't take it to heart, now or any time in the future.
Stay safe!

What an awful thing for your T to say!

My Mom always said I was too sensitive/over dramatic/ pretending
It made me so mad.

My last T said "your marriage is heading down the tubes." I found that very offensive.

From a mental health professional, because I didn't know how to drive and couldn't learn without someone teaching me: "What, do you think the world owes you a living?"

When I had my first panic attack at 15 years old my mom said did it to come home from school early. When I told her I was being medically boarded out of the army for being bipolar she asked if I was faking it to get out. Then I ended up in the psych ward a few weeks later for a suicide attempt during a very mixed episode and I think she's coming around to the idea now

I had a melt-down at Group Therapy one day, and was offered an early ride home by the Provider's Staff.

On the way home the van driver tells me "I hope you know that you're being kicked out of Group."

Gee thanks, but y'all are supposed to be in the business of helping.

Nothing is wrong with you-- OR You Are NOT As bad as "me" or so and so has it worse than you-- while I am having a break down moment or even not.

OR-- You can come and talk to me, later- use the things I say against me or make me feel bad in ways, such as if I scared a person off..

those are 2 i think of right now

My mother: you ruin all our holidays (her and my father) by getting sick.

My mother: you know too much about these illnesses and read too much about them (subtext: you're acting).

My friend, when I was in hosiptal: I can't go on our group holiday if you are going because it will not be a holiday for me (I sort of see her point).

Another friend: my mother says I should stop hanging out with you.

Yet another friend: you're a psycho (never spoke to me again).

"Life is too short to give in to depression. Why, if anyone has reason to be depressed, I do. I've got this problem and that problem--but I just choose to be happy. I won't let it get me down. You have so many good things in your life. Why are you dwelling on the negative?"
----Said in some form or other by every family member I've got who's older than I am.

Therapist gives me a chapter on Bipolar- Dealing with Suicidal thoughts and feelings- after a few bad weeks and a really simi-bad session to which I opened up a lot to her..

Next session I have- Therapist does not want to see me any more.

Yeah- I am still upset about it (wrote some where else) and I re-found the packet she gave me today (I had read it and done the work sheets before our last session by the way)- I think this is one of the worse support in my life- and worse yet she pulled what others have done to me-- open up, and she used things against me in different context.... why don't people like me i think some times when I think of the few that have done this and now a therapist on top of it all.

Hi, yep its my Mother too with 'Pull yourself together' was her support with my mental illness and telling me how stupid I look in my wheelchair with my physical disabilities.
But I think one of the most common comments for us mental illness sufferers is the 'attention seeking' one,it drives me mad as if more notice had been taken when I was younger I would of maybe been a little better than I am now?

Take care all
Jk

Maybe I'm allowed to chime in even thought I'm just considered depressed with some bipolar traits.

If I mention something about mood disorders to online friends (that don't have mental illness), they wonder if I ever tried St Johns wort/fish oil/valerian. Because they heard that will sure help.

When I was at my deepest into depression my psych nurse told me there is a support group for depressed people at the clinic but she will not tell me about it or let me on it (Eh why then mention it?), because all they do there is convince each other to stay depressed (She had never really visited the group). Also she told me if I wanted her help I had to stop being depressed. Eh what? If I could, I wouldn't need help. She told me depression doesn't exist, it is something you make up so other people have to serve you. Eh.... I still have to do everything for myself, it's not like a diagnosis will give me a full time maid! Also.. bit TRIGGERY... I told her I was quite proud staying alive through all that, and I sort of cling onto that ability. She said PFFFF the way you CHOOSE to live, you can as well BE DEAD.

Why thanx...

With support like that, who needs enemies? Sounds like she was a real "winner!"

~Buggs