GF to someone with BP. very lost help!

Please excuse any incorrect ways of saying things I'm new to this and not sure where to turn.

My (ex)boyfriend has bipolar disorder. We have been dating for 2 months. I know he has not been taking his meds even tho he knows he needs to take them. I have not noticed are strange changes or behaviors in him until 2 weeks ago. He usually is loving and sweet and loves my kid and wants to adopt him if we get married. Well 2 weeks ago he suddenly got really distant. Didnt call or text which he used to call/text frequently. I thought something changed in his feelings. We talked and he said he still wanted to be with me and etc but was SOOO distant. This weekend after not seeing each other all week, he wanted to hang out with everyone but me. His dad is a truck driver and bf went on the road with him this past week so bf got very little sleep. I tried to talk to him about him not wanting to spend any alone time with me, he wouldnt listen and said I didn't want him to hang out with his friends. He would not listen to anything i was saying! He decided he couldnt handle it and broke up with me. A month ago we were talking about how I am basically his fiancee minus he doesn't have the money for a ring. We had decide on a time frame for getting married. We already have looked into what it would take for him to adopt my son. But he just threw away our relationship because I wanted to spend alone time with him??!! He has been so irritable. I have been reading about bipolar, and it sounds alot like a manic episode. Please help me understand him and what I can do to get him back??!!! HELP! I did not know what a manic episode looked like or I would have prolly seen it and things could have went better. How long does a manic episode last? Does one realize they made bad decisions even if they dont realize it was a manic episode? Will he later see he shouldn't have gave up? What can I do to help him and support him? Should I just wait it out and let him contact me when he is more stable? Should I try to contact him and talk about it?

I know no one knows me but I am really lost and need help! Now that I understand it was BP and not him I can handle the ups and downs that will come. I just hope I can get him back. Please help me!

Not to say that he is not manic, becoming distant is not a symptom of mania but can be a symptom of depression. Since you don't know much about BP, perhaps you should read about bipolar symptoms under "conditions" at the top of this page.

bf went on the road with him this past week so bf got very little sleep It may not be due to the truck driving. He may have choose that because he wasn't sleeping well
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But he just threw away our relationship because I wanted to spend alone time with him? I tend to not want to be alone with anyone when I am hypo-manic/ manic because not being everywhere or constantly moving irritates me to no end. I generally can not hold a conversation and occasionally can't really make out English without complete silence and "blinders"

Please help me understand him and what I can do to get him back? Right now, read, read read, not just the technical stuff but the personal stories too. In my relationship we wait and do as much damage control as possible. Concentrate on your child/ren right now. This is as heartbreaking to them as it is to you and they may not be able to express it.

I did not know what a manic episode looked like or I would have prolly seen it and things could have went better. keep a little journal of all the things outside his normal personality, so that you know for later but the fact is you could have met him on an upswing because you're engaged after 2 months and his recent refusal of meds.

How long does a manic episode last? Really depends on the person but depression can be as hard and deep as the mania.

Does one realize they made bad decisions even if they dont realize it was a manic episode? Sometimes, but it's hard to care over having fun.

Will he later see he shouldn't have gave up? depends on him.

What can I do to help him and support him? This really depends on your living situation. Feed him if he comes by.

Should I just wait it out and let him contact me when he is more stable? That's solely your choice.

Should I try to contact him and talk about it? If he's not thinking rationally then probably not. If he has family that you are close to and except his Dx, that he has to take meds for it, warn them that he's not currently taking them.

We knew each other before so its not being engaged 2 months after meeting (altho taking relationships that fast is not uncommon for me). We have known each other for 9 months and we both liked each other and had great chemistry, just couldn't express our feelings due to other circumstances.
His dad ask him to go on the road. He is only able to get 4 hours of sleep at a time on the road.
I just want him back. I live with my folks during the week and the weekends at his house with his family. But they live 45 minutes away. So I can't just swing by and see how he is doing. They know he isn't on his meds. His grandma (who he lives with) talked to me bout how the bipolar effects him some. So she knows he is struggling.
I guess being distant isn't the right word so much as being too busy. And not really caring how I feel when he doesn't contact me.
I miss him. My son misses him. I want to stick by his side sickness and in health. When I met him I knew he would be someone special to me. I can't just forget him and move on.
Now that I think about it, about a month ago he was going a mile a minute. I thought it was just adhd. He was bouncing on the bed and talking so fast and his thoughts were all over the place. I have adhd so I can usually handle being hyper and random thought pattern but it was so bad it was stressing me out, partly cuz it was late n I was tired. It came suddenly. Kinda likee this all came suddenly. Its like he is a whole different person that he was. I can deal with it I just don't know what to do or if its even the righht timing to talk to him.

thank you for that post Miguel'smom! I greatly appreciate it! My new husband has Bipolar disorder...although we have been together for 2 years...his disease has finally taken a tole on our relationship! I am here not only to find support for my MS,but to learn about his Bipolar and how I can help improve our relationship!!

I would give him his space. In my humble opinion 2 months is not a very long time to really get to know someone, try to be patient with him.

I knew him for 7 months before we started dating. We liked each other through those 7 months but couldn't act on it because of other circumstances.

I agree 100% with Blue on this one. 2 months to commit to marriage is really fast.