[Trippin2.0]

The only reason she prays for longevity is bcoz she's scared I screw up my daughter, she wants to be around until Jordan is old enough to fend for herself...

Gee thanks mom, and here I was feeling good about my stellar efforts

ETA...Well bcoz of her admission and *jokes* about Jordan having me institutionalized asap, I atleast know that despite vehemently denying my dx, she admits I'm some kinda crazy.

[Turtleboy]

wow that is really harsh, i'm sure you more than anyone knows what is best for your daughter

[Trippin2.0]

Thanks Turtleboy, but apparantly 'supermom' disagrees.

[Turtleboy]

Don't they always, i'm sure your scars are nothing to do with her

[Trippin2.0]

Haha! Definitly not! They're probably self-inflicted!

[Turtleboy]

haha yup, you seem like such a kind person, a lesson in breaking the cycle i think

[Trippin2.0]

Thanks and yes, that is my main parental goal. Do things differently! Have an actual relationship with my daughter, encourage her to communicate with me, and trust me with her feelings. VALIDATE her. Those are biggies that I've been working on since she day 1.

[Turtleboy]

Sounds like your on the right track so

Originally Posted by Trippin2.0

The only reason she prays for longevity is bcoz she's scared I screw up my daughter, she wants to be around until Jordan is old enough to fend for herself...

Gee thanks mom, and here I was feeling good about my stellar efforts

ETA...Well bcoz of her admission and *jokes* about Jordan having me institutionalized asap, I atleast know that despite vehemently denying my dx, she admits I'm some kinda crazy.

it's a shame your mum caint' see even with eyes open? Ophelia...

perhaps just a wonder she don't wanna face the damage she done to you and now translates it over in very indelicate fashion...and the pain gets handed down!....my bet she knows exactly whats goin' on now and before and gets the luxury to be off-handed cruel very direct because you are so immaculate at forgiving!....

ouch! dammit!....nasty mum no fair get real get real now ....no fair!

your efforts are beyond stellar and you dance amongst your problems with grace and a rare psychotic elegance and please do tell your mum I said that

irritated monkey

[Trippin2.0]

Thanks James I think she chooses not to see, and that's ok with me. I'm not letting her problems become mine, I have enough on my plate as it is.

....no probs Ophelia , I know you get it and it's inspiring just how you do.

Trippin... please go re-read your post, the one in the forum, "does anyone else have messed up parents"! Your not one of those messed up parents! You are offering your kid/kids a good childhood and you would NEVER allow the things that happened to you to happen to them! What you went through happened under your moms watch, and I highly doubt that you would allow the same mistakes to happen. So yes! Be happy with your parenting! You know your kids and they know you. You know what they need. They need YOUR love and guidance, not your moms. They need YOUR guiding hand to keep them safe and secure, not your moms.

I assume that you love your mom cuz you still talk to her, but I'm sorry, Screw anyone that looks down and judges ANY of us for surviving something that they probably couldn't handle and that they had their own part in!!!

Be proud Ophelia, Just talking to you I KNOW you are doing an awesome job raising your kids!

[hamster-bamster]

Originally Posted by landskaperdan

Be proud Ophelia, Just talking to you I KNOW you are doing a kick ***** job raising your kids!

I second that.

[ChristySpirals]

I don't like to throw out labels but the one word that comes to mind happens to be a label...Narcissit. Always in those "I'm just concerned" ways of tearing you down a knotch or two. How dare you be 1000 times a better mom than she Trippin!!!!

[Trippin2.0]

Thanks guys. Thing is, she's been good to Jo since day 1. Maybe upstaging me probly played a part, yes, but she's been good to Jo nontheless. I prefer to not think about her or our r/s except for on a surface level to maintain harmony, and my sanity.

Originally Posted by Trippin2.0

Thanks guys. Thing is, she's been good to Jo since day 1. Maybe upstaging me probly played a part, yes, but she's been good to Jo nontheless. I prefer to not think about her or our r/s except for on a surface level to maintain harmony, and my sanity.

I can understand why you wouldn't want to think about her. But for the books, wouldn't it be amusing if your brother had to finally have your mother committed for insanity? I'm a great believer in what we do to others records itself in the unconscious mind.

She must be loaded with bothersome thoughts.

Heal well, lady.

Genetic

[Trippin2.0]

LOL that would be an unexpected turn of events! My mom's super proper, 99% calm & collected. That would definitly be 1 for the record books

Originally Posted by Trippin2.0

LOL that would be an unexpected turn of events! My mom's super proper, 99% calm & collected. That would definitly be 1 for the record books

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The things she's throwing at you will have to go somewhere when you're no longer in that home. Who's going to be the victim then?

It may be more realistic than you think, Trippin', though I'd hate to see that happen to anyone's mother, regardless of her attitude. The facade will break eventually.

Be prepared for a good life ahead away from that home. Glad to see that you're a really good mom.

You should be more than a kindergarten teacher! You should be a psychological counselor for psychotic bipolar patients! You know--the language disturbed type.

Take care of yourself, Trippin'; keep up the good work.

Genetic

[Trippin2.0]

Awwww thanks gen

[hamster-bamster]

Originally Posted by genetic

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You should be more than a kindergarten teacher! You should be a psychological counselor for psychotic bipolar patients! You know--the language disturbed type.

I would say that this expression is denigrating to the teaching profession, and there are teachers on this board. The proper way to express what you are trying to say would be: "Besides being a terrific kindergarten teacher, you could be a hell of a counselor". This way no one is being put down.

Originally Posted by hamster-bamster

I would say that this expression is denigrating to the teaching profession, and there are teachers on this board. The proper way to express what you are trying to say would be: "Besides being a terrific kindergarten teacher, you could be a hell of a counselor". This way no one is being put down.

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Yes, and I am one of the former teachers.

I'm a retired teacher of gifted students, and I don't consider the post to Trippin' denigrating to the teaching profession. Kindergarten teachers are some of the most gifted of teachers--they must be since they're dealing with young minds still eager to learn. So are those who must teach special education students. And the others do an excellent job, too, for the most part.

I expressed what I meant clearly and do not rely on another's judgment of what is correct. Your view is your own; I'm not one who would call a counselor "a hell of a counselor". The idea that it was "denigrating to the teaching profession" came from you, not from me.

The fact is, however, that a counselor for bipolar illness and language- disturbed people either in manic episodes or schizophrenics in language-disturbed episodes must have higher educational levels than the B.A. degree or B.S. degree or the Special Education degree required for teaching in public schools.

For some reason, Hampster, you have difficulty with my threads. I wish you
would ignore them if they cause you such distress. They are certainly not designed to be triggers for you.

If anyone was put down because of my expression, it was not shown in response to the post to Trippin'.

Sorry about this, Trippin". You don't deserve this on your threads.

Genetic

[~Christina]

Trippin ... Bleh to your mom .

You of course know that you are in fact raising your daughter and being there for her on every level that matters.

You my dear are AMAZING

[Zoesmom]

I'm sure your a great mother. Remember...she is NOT the mother. Don't you think sometimes these grandmothers try to upstage us bc of how they screwed up with us? They want a redo!

My mother has alzheimers now and doesn't do any of that anymore to me bc of where she is with her illness. But the constant critizism and belittleing and trying to be in charge of my son was horrible. Can you try to not be around her as much to help you?

[Trippin2.0]

Thanks Christina
ZM, Thanks, but I can't not be around her. I had to stay after my dad passed as I was/am main breadwinner. My sister's offered to take her in tho, so maybe 1 day, when I can afford it, Jo and I can move without guilt. And I agree, I think she got herself a nice do-over with my daughter!

My wife currently is teaching sixth grade, and I have to say, there is a GREAT deal of psychology that goes into teaching the kids!