Yesterday in group I got in trouble for being honest TRIGGER SUI TALK

Yesterday in my alcohol substance abuse group the t asked certain questions and expected u to be honest so i told her yes i do think about suicide and a year and a half ago i had a plan but my former t and i processed it we shred the plan together and i signed a contract, i think she is a new therapist because she is so textbook about everything so on break she called me to her office and saw my past history on the computer from my former t and asked if she should be worried about me which i told her no, she told me i needed to attend an extra group today and if i was a no show the crisis center would call my house and if i didnt pick up they would show up to my house, i tell u sometimes honesty is not the best policy

It is really hard for someone who doesn't go through it to understand that there is a difference between having sui thoughts and actually developing a plan and intending to go through with it! I'm sorry that happened to you. I ALWAYS avoid talking about it because I don't trust anyone to understand that. I think about it a lot.. but it's not like I want to. I have two girls an an awesome wife and I will never leave them.... but the thoughts of sui are around all the time. I wish more people understood about it.

I agree with landskaperdan. If you're in this situation again and you can tell this to your therapist. Preface the statement 1st by saying, you don't have active intentions. They tell people to be honest and then you end up feeling like you shouldn't have shared - that's not right.

Be assertive and say, these aren't active thoughts at all. She should know the difference - its not like you're saying you want to die now. Maybe if people could discuss this openly, it might save some people or at least give them the opportunity to share instead of shoving it in the closet of shame. Let her know these aren't active thoughts so she doesn't have to react extremely.

Yea, that's exactly why when I've been actually suicidal, not just thinking about it, I don't tell professionals about it.

I tell T everything, probably to a fault. However some T's over react, so do some pdocs. Honestly I would not be able to work with a T or pdoc that over reacts. I really hope this doesn't effect your honestly. If you think it will please find a different group.

I have a great T and Im always honest with him .. But I trust him and hes not one to panic if Im talking suicide..

every Tdoc and Pdoc are differant .

I understand, lands, I am completely terrified of sui. yet I had a plan and came dangerously close to using it when in a deep state of depression. I think the terrifying part for me is that even though I now do not have a plan and with meds I'm in a good place, I still think about it a lot.

I really appreciate all my of family I will be there for u as u are fo me u guys are the. Best