[MommaR]

I dont think I can take much more! My parents have stabbed my two oldest children in the back so hard this week my own THERAPIST suggested we cut all ties w/ them b4 they completely poison our family. My 13 yo- the one who is bp at the very least- sneaked out back with a lighter and a can of gas and CAUGHT MY 8 YO ON FIRE!!! He has at least 2nd degree burns. My husband just took him to er....

MommaR

I'm sorry that you're struggling. I hope that your 8yo will be ok. Regarding your parents: my dad's parents were emotionally abusive and my parents cut them out of our lives when I was about 9, and we've had nothing to do with them since then. I think some of my issues stem from the constant criticism and abuse I suffered from my grandmother. Sometimes you have to do what's best for your children. It really was the best thing for my parents to do for us as we were miserable around them.

Wishing you and your family all the best,

*Willow*

[BlueInanna]

Omg Momma Prayers and hugs to you and your family!!!

[~Christina]

Holy Hell Momma !

I am so sorry this happened.

My thoughts are with you

[Victoria'smom]

I'm sorry I hope your son is okay. I'm slowly distancing myself from my family because of them having a negative effect on him.

[MommaR]

They are taking my 13 yo to an inpatient program in Knoxville (about hr and half away), my husband is downstairs in the er waiting for them to take her. My 8 yo is covered in bandages upstairs at the hospital. I'm with him. I dont see anyway to salvage my midterm grade having lost a whole day of study. I'll keep you all informed. ty for your support

[Victoria'smom]

I'm so sorry. Don't stress about school right now.

[MommaR]

My 22 yo told my parents what happened! They are now in the hospital up my ***!!!!!!! Fml!

[dugan123]

Hey momma

So sorry about your son!! Please update us on what's happening. My thoughts and prayers are with you!

[MommaR]

They released my 8 yo. we just got home. His teacher came by and brought gifts. I have never seen a teacher show such concern! To come visit a student on a Sunday! I was overwhelmed with gratitude. My husband, 21 yo son, his wife and my 12 yo daughter are on their way to see my 13 yo. Im staying here with my son and attempting to catch up a little on my studies. Ty all so much for your love and concern.

[MommaR]

O=ps- they put my daughter in handcuffs and ankle shackles and took her to the hospital in a police car. Thats a scene I may never be able to shake...

[Victoria'smom]

They didn't have to take her like that . I'm glad your son is home. Hopefully your daughter is doing well.

[MommaR]

one of my prof has given me an extension on my midterm. i havent heard from the other yet

[BlueInanna]

Thinking of you Momma, you know I've been there - not exactly but close Try not to stress about school, they should give you extensions. Thinking of you and your family, sending prayers and hugs.

[MommaR]

I got an email from my biology prof. He basically said that he can't give an extension as such, but should I "have" to miss the test wed (hint hint) that my situation is a valid reason to make it up on Monday. So, I can do my psych test wed and bio next mon and my grades shouldnt suffer! I am lucky to be attending a university that, tho its much bigger than a community college, still is small enough to care about the students as more than just a number on a roster.

[faerie_moon_x]

I hope all is well with your family today. I'm glad you are going to be able to get through mid-terms. I'm keeping your family in my thoughts.

[BlueInanna]

Yes, thinking of you so much, my heart aches for you and knowing how hard it is watching our babies suffering with MI or with their sibling with MI, hits close to home. Sending prayers and love out to TN, Momma. Please keep posting.

[~Christina]

Momma

[MommaR]

Thank you all so much! You are such dear, precious friends! I dont know how I made it b4 I met you all! Just spoke w/ my daughter's p doc, they have diagnosed her with BPII and Oppositional deviant disorder. She will get to come home Fri but a therapist will be coming to our home 3 times a week. I am happy to do whatever she needs, but doesnt that seem a little excessive/evasive?

[MommaR]

INvasive, not Evasive, lol- its been a long day

[Victoria'smom]

Even if it is invasive I'm glad she's getting the help she needs. How's your son doing?

[BlueInanna]

Originally Posted by MommaR

Thank you all so much! You are such dear, precious friends! I dont know how I made it b4 I met you all! Just spoke w/ my daughter's p doc, they have diagnosed her with BPII and Oppositional deviant disorder. She will get to come home Fri but a therapist will be coming to our home 3 times a week. I am happy to do whatever she needs, but doesnt that seem a little excessive/evasive?

I think all that therapy, and them coming to the house is a blessing Momma! She needs this support, your family needs and deserves this support. I think it's a good thing. I have tears of joy for your family that y'all will have this support. Maybe look at it as intensive rather than invasive?

We used to have the teacher come from the public school to teach my son at home, at first I did feel invaded. But my son needed this and had a right to it. I wish they would've sent therapy at home, because he was very bp & o.d.d and would do things like smash my windshield while driving him to therapy appointments. I couldn't get him to go to the appointments.

So this may feel overwhelming and bad at first having the therapist come to your house 3 times a week, but really I think it's a blessing, and this could really help your whole family so much.

How is your son doing? Is he healing ok? My daughter is avoiding being here at home since my son came home from hospital, she is traumatized from him hurting her. She is a bit mad that I let him come home, but I did not have much choice, and this is his home too. Hoping her boyfriend will come stay with her to help her feel safe. It's an insane position for a mom to be in. We have to protect everybody, and we love all our babies more than anything. Praying and sending love to you and your family.

[MommaR]

Thanks MM and BI for asking, he had a rough day today, getting his dressings changed hurt him alot. He is eating today, he hasnt eaten much since it happened. He goes to a burn therapy center wed. All the kids in his class made him get well cards :-)

[MommaR]

Spoke to Cissy's p doc again today- they are putting her on lamictal which I am happy with for two reasons- its been the one mood stabilizer I have been on that didnt rob me of my "highs" and the side effects are minimal and they dont have to check her liver and kidneys- she has a history of kidney/uti infections so that was my concern with some meds that might have chosen.

[MommaR]

She made it to "Level 2" and got to call us last night. My 8 yo talked to her on the phone and reassured her again that he knows she didnt mean to hurt him. He is so precious! She also talked to my 16 yo who she usually has big issues w/. She asked about her older brother, his fiance and her little nephew. She asked about her sisters (who were already in bed) and about her step father but she never mentioned my oldest son and his wife. Be4 this happened she had been butting heads w/ the 2 of them pretty badly (she told my other son's finance she "hated" them), so Im a little concerned she may be coming home still carrying a chip on her shoulder towards them.