a while ago, someone posted here about something that people say that really anoyed them (can't exactly remember what it was, but something)

so i thought i'd post a message asking you guys what you find most anoying when it comes to people's attitudes?

here are some of mine:

people saying " life is what you make it". i totally hate that phrase

people describing us as lazy, or ungreatful, or awkward

people looking at us as if we're some kind of intrusion

people that change the subject when you try talk to them about your feelings

and so what about you guys.

SSS

[venusss]

"depression is lying to you". Especially when i am complaining about some LEGITIMATE.

People telling me what I cannot do because I am bipolar (can't travel, can't study, work or live according to some), woman (can't study strategic studies, since weapons are for boys, kitchen is for women), or from Eastern bloc.

people telling me i am hateful based on fact I am kinda... hippiesh. I don't get that

[Anika.]

Well, my answer is gonna be different, but I do think about this subject differently. I used to get bothered a lot by stuff like this that people would say, then I took a look at my own language and how I would do this same very thing to people who maybe I didn't understand so good. made it a lot harder to get mad about. I can usually understand why something might be said.

I have to disagree with "life is what you make it", I mean my grandma said it all the time, and it is one good memory I have of her, and I do agree with the statement. yes stuff happens that is out of our control, what we do with that tho, is what we make it. So I look at it that way. I can also see tho why people do not like this saying.

Hmm, I don't love the saying when life gives you lemons make lemonade, I really don't like lemonade, never have. I do however like lemons, and the universe must know this.

I don't like when people treat me like I am weak, which happens often I am sure due to sheer size and body language. I am not a weak person, I was a weak person at one point, so I am sure this bothers me for that reason maybe, and because I know what I am.

I try to let this stuff roll off me and land on the ground, where it belongs, certainly not in my head when I can help it. Maybe it's helpful to look at why these things bother us, sometimes there is an answer in there too.

[venusss]

I have to disagree with "life is what you make it", I mean my grandma said it all the time, and it is one good memory I have of her, and I do agree with the statement. yes stuff happens that is out of our control, what we do with that tho, is what we make it. So I look at it that way. I can also see tho why people do not like this saying.

I have to agree. It's kinda ironic most composed and even happy people I met were war children from ex-Yugoslavia. They are not puppies and rainbows either (rather in some cases, "I am alive and I got rakiya" ). I guess life sent quite a few ex-Yugoslavs in my direction to show me human endurance.

i can understand that " life is what you make it" actually works for some people.

but that for me, is the most frustrating thing

the when life throws you lemmons, make lemonaid.. i can kind of see some sense in that- when life throws you a good experience, use it to your advantage

oh.. and i just thought of something else that really gets me

people beating in to the ground what worked for them.. and saying- oh, this will work for you too

we're all diffrent people.. what might work for someone, may not for someone else

i don't apreciate people saying.. oh do this, do this.. it worked for me- and it's the only way forward... because you really have to find your own way

[polar_bear1]

People saying: do this, take this, exersise like this, do yoga, do that etc.
Pisses me off, it may work for them but not for me.
And when ppl try to tell me "their way" is the better way bc of this and that... when my way has done me good for years...why should I cange it.??
Also: you´re lazy, just get up and go out and have a run....yeah right.
Ppl not respecting your decisions and status just pisses me off!
Take care

Originally Posted by polar_bear1

People saying: do this, take this, exersise like this, do yoga, do that etc.
Pisses me off, it may work for them but not for me.
And when ppl try to tell me "their way" is the better way bc of this and that... when my way has done me good for years...why should I cange it.??
Also: you´re lazy, just get up and go out and have a run....yeah right.
Ppl not respecting your decisions and status just pisses me off!
Take care

love that you agree with me to a certain extent.

[thickntired]

When my Mom asks, "have you taken your meds today?"
Makes me want to scratch my eyes out

[Trippin2.0]

Dont really get annoyed by such things anymore. Managing bipolar has helped put things into perspective and prioritize, so TO ME, getting annoyed by catch phrases is a waste of energy. AND its futile. Have to agree with Anika on 'Life's what u make it', thats how I interpret it: 'When life gives u lemons' Take it, free shyt is cool I do get frustrated with dimwittedness and people imposing their narrow-mindedness on me, but meh, my middlefinger is all the reaction I need to take care of it

[venusss]

i thought the lemon thing was "if life gives you lemons, you throw them on people with fancy cars"

[faerie_moon_x]

I get irritated but it depends on the situation. One thing that really irritates me always though is when someone is stressed or annoyed and starts saying "i'm going to kill myself." Example: I know a lady who whenever she has too much to do she says "If I get one more phone call, I'm going to kill myself." Or "If I get one more e-mail I'm going to kill myself." You know... like that, not actual threats.... just.... annoys me to no end.

[Clinte89]

I can't stand when people say are you sure that's not to much for you, I'm bp not and idiot lol also when you talk about how you feel and they try to relate telling a long story about how they got bullied in school or something irrelevant.

[Broken Angel]

I get really annoyed when I just start talking with someone about my feelings and they reply with a totally different answer or just change the topic.
I also get annoyed when someone tells me ' You will never be able to do it'.

[faerie_moon_x]

Oh the other thing I hate is when I am trying to discuss my feelings with someone and then they tell me either my feelings are BS, or that I'm lying about my feelings, or that my feelings are not important to them. That irritates me....

[Confusedinomicon]

I dont think there is anything wrong with making healthy-life suggestions. If it doesnt work for you, politely tell them it doesnt work for you.

I just watched something that said there is a gene that they have found that contributes to major depressive states. The negative gene is only activated from stressors in the individuals life. Otherwise the person will look exactly like the positive version of this gene. The video didnt really explain if medication actually works though.

I hate that people get defensive easily, including myself.

Originally Posted by Confusedinomicon

I dont think there is anything wrong with making healthy-life suggestions. If it doesnt work for you, politely tell them it doesnt work for you.

I just watched something that said there is a gene that they have found that contributes to major depressive states. The negative gene is only activated from stressors in the individuals life. Otherwise the person will look exactly like the positive version of this gene. The video didnt really explain if medication actually works though.

I hate that people get defensive easily, including myself.

do you have a link to this video?

i think it would be interesting

[Confusedinomicon]

Yeah. When I get on the laptop I will send it to you. The lecture is an hour long. (Im on my phone)

Well, that's one thing I know about, because I lived with that,too, growing up. And it used to worry me until I learned that when people talk they don't reveal the real truth about a situation, they really reveal more of themselves than anything else.

The answer? Just never judge ourselves, but live by our deepest principles; the rest will fall in line for us. And those who are judgmental can just run with it. Who needs that in their lives? Not me.

I can see that it can be a real trigger, especially when it hits us and we're not in
a "just ducky" thinking mode.

Take care, all.

[hamster-bamster]

Nothing, really...

[~Christina]

Ummmm 18ish months ago ALL of them bothered the hell out of me.

In the last 6ish months None of them.. Why?

I don't expect people to understand me and my Bipolar. If I am in a mess emotionally ( good or bad) I come here and post or I unload everything when I see my T.

I do think that I have learned to handle/cope/deal with my Bipolar much better, Its taken ME a lot of very hard work to feel better. Am I stable ... Nope .. I rapid cycle all the time. I just have a wide variety of tools to use and I'm now a duck that lets the crap roll off my back.

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