[Passion222]

Many know I haven't been in a good marriage and trying to financially figure my way out. Well I reconnected with a old childhood friend. At first I wasn't "into him". As fine went along, I started having feelings. He's a great guy--I think--but is he good for me--well long story short-I can't stop thinking about him and when he doesn't text me,I flip out. Shaking, scared, extremely depressed, close right up and don't want to talk to anyone. I do this with my past relationships. Is it because I crave love and affection which doesn't happen at home or am I just losing it and ridiculous.

[BlueInanna]

I'd say yea... sounds obsessive :/
I do it too, I'm sorry. I don't really have an answer, you are being mindful of it by noticing it, and that's the start to changing it. Best thing I've found is distracting myself with something else like fingers on the internet or tv or cleaning or anything. Practice how long you can set your phone down without checking it.

[Passion222]

I agree it sounds obsessive. Why do we do this?? I try distracting myself and my hands seem magnetized to the phone. There's so much to this but I feel I'm a jerk and need a grip on who I am and not cling to any guy. But you get same way? Ugghhhhhh

[BlueInanna]

I rarely obsess on lovers anymore. But I still obsess over if my children have called and where they are, and pace the house until I find them. Lovers got me in trouble , just became a pain in the *** keeping track of them, so that was easier to let go of. I still get a random text from one, but seriously I can't even remember their names. So with that info, it's easier to ignore it and find something more important to focus on.

[moodiegirl]

I'm the same. I'm married now and I'm lucky that my husband understands how I worry and obsess - but I know it's not healthy for me to feel this way. I think it's insecurity, and yes craving love and affection.

[thickntired]

I know what it's like to run Hot or cold on my husband. I am what most guys would probably call extremely dramatic.

Idk how to stop, but I try to communicate as to why I act this way to my husband. Also, trying to pause and think before reacting helps me have less to regret.

Peace & Hugs,

TnT

[MommaR]

I am extremely obsessive. Not just w/ my husband but w/ a couple of very negative ppl from my past. I stalk their fb's. My ears perk up anytime their names are mentioned- hoping some tragedy has befallen them... Its sick. Completely. But I can't stop.