[dubblemonkey]

....there is no possible way I can understand anything I do...

I want attention...I want comfort

but someone like me never gets it...

you do this and that complain about who you are with....

you must be freaking nuts!

in this day and age?

to complain about being close to some-one!

you must be freaking nuts!

I have no sympathy for those who complain about what 'their' partner is doing!??

just imagine what its like being alone.....

you must be kidding me

well?

good for you...

I have nobody to complain about.....

I wish I did

[faerie_moon_x]

There's a lady at work, all she does is complain about her husband and I think I've only ever heard her say one nice thing about him. I think that's terrible to paint the person you are supposed to love and protect into a horrible light to people who don't even know them. Everyone has flaws or things that annoy us. But if all you can do is complain, maybe that old advice "if you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all" is the better way to go.

[Trippin2.0]

I know just what you mean James
And to add to that complaining point:
I firmly believe that if you stay with someone that is not good for you and you do nothing to try and improve your situation, you relinquish any right to complain...made your bed and all. Just like with people who refuse to vote but moan about the government.

Its not that I have no sympathy, I'll even support you the first few times you complain, but thereafter you're on your own mate. ...(so to speak).

People dont know what its like when they moan about husband and wives and the people listening have only emptiness to compare it to. They forget how lucky they are. I'd choose a loving husband who leaves the toilet seat up over nothingness any day.

[faerie_moon_x]

I experience this except differently. When people complain about their mom (not counting valid complaints like abuse,) it makes me sad.

I think it's true for anyone who is missing something and other people who have it complain.

Like complaining that you ate too much to someone who has nothing to eat....

[BlueInanna]

maybe someone feels lonely even though they're in a relationship... i don't know which is worse.

sometimes we make the best with what our options are at the time. me for example, a bipolar mom of 3 with 2 of them having bp, with 2 deadbeat dads in her wake has less of a pool of potential mates to choose from. there's always many ways to look at something. no relationship will be perfect, i know this the hard way. i would hope that i could still feel safe to vent to my friends or vent somewhere when i'm all bottled up and need to talk about stuff.

i do have some girlfriends who gets to feel like they complain nonstop about their husbands or ex husbands. and sometimes it's too much for me, i'll usually tell them i can't handle it, and tell them i'm about to have to go pay a therapist to talk about how her problems are weighing on me.

but sometimes i'm thinking, "biatch, do you see who you're dumping on? do you even see me? at least your ex contributes to child support payments and didn't abandon your children causing them such pain to try to kill themselves and cut their bodies! at least you have your dad still alive and family to help you!" i don't tell them that part...

i have my path, they have theirs. i'm sure they meant no harm to me, they just needed a friend to listen...

[optimize990h]

I understand monkeyman. Keep it up.