[HabitualQuitter]

WHY WHY WHY did I cut my hair!? I had beautiful dreadlocks almost down to my butt. About 4 years I had them. I loved them. People always asked me when I was gonna cut them. The first question was how long have you had them, the second was how do you wash them and the third was how long are you gonna keep them/when are you gonna cut them?

I think I got so sick of that question, like it was the purpose of growing them, to cut them, it was so stupid. But what did I do? I turned 30 and two days later got a pixie cut. And I've regretted it everyday since. I KNEW what I looked like without dreads, that's the whole reason I grew them!!! Because I hated my stupid fcking hair. Everyday I wake up and try so hard to do something different with it, it still looks so stupid and ugly. To boot, I gained 50lbs from the lethal dose of Seroquel the stupid b!tch doctor put me on and I'm fat. Fat with short hair, just makes me look fatter. It's been almost 6 months and I swear it's not grown a bit. I'm so miserable. I even hand sewed my dreads into a headband so I could wear them again but it didn't turn out the way I had hoped That was my only hope. I've been wearing hats forever. And now it's Summer already in the southeast USA and so hot. So Im already fat and sweaty, now Im doubly sweaty trying to cover up my stupid head. Im so miserable. And no, Im not going to post a picture and ask opinions because I'm THAT embarrassed. I quit leaving the house when the weight gain got excessive. I even stopped going to church. I won't grocery shop unless it's late at night and no one is out. Idk what to do. Everytime I look in the mirror I want to bash my face into it. I hate myself for making me so ugly. Then I realize how crazy that sounds. Obviously i was always ugly and the dreadlocks just distracted me and others. Especially since Im a white girl in Alabama sporting dreadlocks. Idk what to do. Im so sad.

[faerie_moon_x]

I'm sorry.

It's terrible when people won't leave you alone about something and you just give in, then their advice makes you so unhappy. I've had that happen before, too.

Try to remember we're always our own worst critic. I have terrible self-esteem. I'm also fat and I think I'm ugly, too. It was literally beaten into me that I'm ugly, not an easy perception to turn around. So, I understand. Just remember, hair grows, so your pixie cut will change. I know it will take a long time to get it back the way you want it. But, everything will be okay. You're not alone.

[Tamster]

i hate and love my hair, I have finally started growing it out for the first time in my life but it is frizzy. there is a love hate relationship there due to the straightening iron. I want long hair though it was short my entire life. I love my new longer shoulder length hair and want it longer. I am excited to see how it is as it grows, maybe the frizz will go away, I can only hope it is a beautiful sandy blonde with darker lowlights . My hair color is wonderful and I love it, I just have to get used to caring for it right as it grows. I have curly hair but want it straight, I use a straightening iron and that works ok but not always perfect .

[NWgirl2013]

Hang in there The good news is it will grow. Be sure to have the Tiniest Bit trimmed off the ends every six weeks. And pixie cuts are in style at least. Lot's of stars have them. I know, small consolation but still...
I am pretty sure nearly everyone hates their own hair for whatever reason. Count me as one, but I have been feeling better about it because I researched & found better hair products that make my hair look so much better. I was actually surprised by this. So maybe there is hope in a bottle somewhere for you. Check around. I'm just so Sorry it is so distressing for you.

The weight is tough, but you can fix that. I got the drug weight thing a while back. I was so MAD Don't be so down on yourself though, you didn't do this. You can make a plan to get rid of it while your hair is growing. Before you know it you'll be your old self again... if that's your goal, you can get there.

I wish you only the very best of luck

[OnyxRayne]

Yeah, I get that, too. I think it's a thing we girls go through as who we are. Every time I get a hair cut I have to remind myself that I'm going to hate it afterwards and long for my lengthy hair again! I recently cut mine and am trying to grow it out, but I'm so impatient... The worst part is the weight gain. I got put on seroquel as well some 2-3 years ago and I'm still fighting to loose all of the weight. Hang in there... Try taking vitamin E, I've heard from friends and family it's really supposed to help grow out your hair quicker.

[Confusedinomicon]

Originally Posted by Tamster

i hate and love my hair, I have finally started growing it out for the first time in my life but it is frizzy. there is a love hate relationship there due to the straightening iron. I want long hair though it was short my entire life. I love my new longer shoulder length hair and want it longer. I am excited to see how it is as it grows, maybe the frizz will go away, I can only hope it is a beautiful sandy blonde with darker lowlights . My hair color is wonderful and I love it, I just have to get used to caring for it right as it grows. I have curly hair but want it straight, I use a straightening iron and that works ok but not always perfect .

Always -always- use thermal heat protection sprays before you use the straightening iron because it will fry your hair over time. (This can cause the frizzy-ness)

If you can afford it buy some hydrating oil products for your hair. You just dab a little bit of it in and it will help the frizzy hair. (Either that or a shampoo/conditioner) Every 2-4 weeks apply a hair mask. A lot of the hair masks you can do yourself...like yogurt and olive oil. Also washing your hair every other day helps.

My hair was really dry and damaged for a long time until I became semi-obsessed with getting it to be soft again. I naturally have fluffy/frizzy hair, but its in better shape now.

I wish I looked better with long hair. I always end up cutting it because I think I look funny. x_x

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What type of dreads did you have? Did you go natural or prune them often? >_> I really like dreadlocks but they wouldn't look right on me. I also thought you could sew them back into your hair, too??

[wotchermuggle]

Originally Posted by Tamster

i hate and love my hair, I have finally started growing it out for the first time in my life but it is frizzy. there is a love hate relationship there due to the straightening iron. I want long hair though it was short my entire life. I love my new longer shoulder length hair and want it longer. I am excited to see how it is as it grows, maybe the frizz will go away, I can only hope it is a beautiful sandy blonde with darker lowlights . My hair color is wonderful and I love it, I just have to get used to caring for it right as it grows. I have curly hair but want it straight, I use a straightening iron and that works ok but not always perfect .

How in flipping hell is your post going to help the person who started this thread? They are upset and you moan on and on about how great your hair is.

HabitualQuitter....so sorry that you're regretting your choice. I've been through that too. I got a super short haircut even though I knew it wouldn't look good and it took me years to grow my hair out, but even now, I think "maybe I should cut it" even though I know I shouldn't.

[wildflowerchild25]

ugh i used to get like that when i did a bad dye job on my hair, especially since bleaching it again usually meant that it melted off my head.

just know it WILL grow again eventually. it will take forever it seems, but it will get there.

i'm sorry you feel so bad about your appearance :-( i hope you find peace with it soon!