[separatedgirl]

My soon to be ex is bi-polar. What other "labels" do people have that seem to go along with it? ALso, what symptoms do you see with mania and depression that are not the obvious ones?

[venusss]

I don't honestly get the question. Why are you asking it? Are you interested in saving the relationship? If yes, then you gotta talk talk talk to the other party. If you want explanations... eh, relationships don't often end up for reasons listed in DSM.

Labels? If I went through full eval, I personally would end with more labels then a label-maker It doesn't matter that much because for each person it's different.

As for symptoms? I always have "symptoms" on the spiritual/existential scale.... and rather internal.

[manymiles]

Other labels include loving, kind, persistent and hard working.

[faerie_moon_x]

I'm not sure what you mean by labels?

Here are some things:
-The media doesn't know anything about bipolar disorder and often portrays us in a very bad light.

-Everyone's experience is different and how they react to their symptoms is different. In fact, not everyone has all the same symptoms, either. So, without knowing specifics of your situation it's impossible to answer your question.

-If your ex was abusive to you (verbal, emotional, physiscal,) that's not bipolar disorder. Abusive is something entirely different and even "normal" people can be abusive. In fact, people with mental illness are more likely to be the ones abused rather than the abuser.

So, I think you could find answers to your questions here but you should start over and add specifics, and remember that your ex is not a disorder.

[separatedgirl]

I guess I wasn't very clear. I just wanted to know if there are other conditions many bipolar have as well. I know he is PTSD, OCD, anxiety and bipolar. As to wanting to save the marriage...well, He left about a year and a half ago during a mania to live with his gf. As soon as she dropped him, he wanted to move back in. My big conditional was that he be stable. As to other symptoms, I notice that his words get mean when he is becoming manic. I just wanted to get an idea what others notice.

When I've been hypomanic for a few days I tend to convince myself that I'm much better off with a new boyfriend. A smarter, faster, stronger, cooler, richer, hotter one. Maybe two. Sometimes it goes so far that I start questioning whether I ever loved my boyfriend. Then the episode ends and I'm back to loving him and not wanting to be with anyone else. It is very confusing.

[Nessa213]

Originally Posted by Mandrec

When I've been hypomanic for a few days I tend to convince myself that I'm much better off with a new boyfriend. A smarter, faster, stronger, cooler, richer, hotter one. Maybe two. Sometimes it goes so far that I start questioning whether I ever loved my boyfriend. Then the episode ends and I'm back to loving him and not wanting to be with anyone else. It is very confusing.

This exact thing happened to me a few months ago. I was fully convinced that I had never loved my husband (we've been together 13 years) and I'd be infinitely happier with someone else. Even went so far as telling him he should move out. I can't believe I did that... I really really can't believe it.

Makes me kind of sad to think about what I did. He puts up with a lot from me... makes me cry.

If my husband were to tell me that I could only live here if I were stable, frankly I'd be terrified. In my personal experience, stable is a temporary thing. Sorry. There's going to be episodes and outbursts in the future. It's just unavoidable I think.

[A Red Panda]

Does he take meds and/or go to therapy? If he does.. then aside from med changes he's probably about as stable as he'll get. Even with meds people will still have ups and downs.. they'll just be less extreme than what they would be like without meds.

[venusss]

Originally Posted by separatedgirl

I guess I wasn't very clear. I just wanted to know if there are other conditions many bipolar have as well. I know he is PTSD, OCD, anxiety and bipolar. As to wanting to save the marriage...well, He left about a year and a half ago during a mania to live with his gf. As soon as she dropped him, he wanted to move back in. My big conditional was that he be stable. As to other symptoms, I notice that his words get mean when he is becoming manic. I just wanted to get an idea what others notice.

meanness is not excusable. Gotta make amends. No "my illness made me do it".

Conditions others have as well... you can easily google this but it's not that relevant to your situation. No condition is an excuse or sole reason of doing something.

[Dylanzmama]

Originally Posted by Mandrec

When I've been hypomanic for a few days I tend to convince myself that I'm much better off with a new boyfriend. A smarter, faster, stronger, cooler, richer, hotter one. Maybe two. Sometimes it goes so far that I start questioning whether I ever loved my boyfriend. Then the episode ends and I'm back to loving him and not wanting to be with anyone else. It is very confusing.

I thought I was the only one! : )

[middlepath]

Just as a resource (if you are the bookworm type, like me)...I was thirsty for information and wanted to read what advice could be given to the people who surround me to help: I read Julie Fast's "Loving Someone With Bipolar" and found it interesting.