being bipolar

i am getting married in november--at least i am supposed to be---my fiance went on a rampage today and said he is basically sick of living with my bipolar--i didn't even respond because i know that he is right--being bipolar has already cost me so much--now i thaink it may have cost me my marriage

I am not bipolar but I do believe that if someone loves you they accept your illness too. You wouldn't give up on your child with a disease would you. Sometimes the family members need support as well. Let him know you understand it is hard on him but that it is who you are and it may be tough sometimes. If he loves you he'll try. If not then it shouldn't be something you feel bad about. Many people have waited years to find the right person, some get lucky the first time. Just keep your chin up and remember to take care of yourself. All illnesses require continual self care.

hi adams,that's a hard thing to go through,but I realise it's hard for family as well,but really it's you that's doing it tougher,does he understand about the condition,and as I've read here on certain articles,ppl wouldn't be as hard on ppl if it was heart disease or liver trouble etc,but when it's mental illness its just not understood.maybe he needs some more education on it,and to know that it worse for you and not something you choose to have,maybe he was angry at the time,and has cooled down.Hope so,its hard enough and determined made sense too.luk.

adamsgirl,

I hope that things work out for you. I'm a bipolar guy who is recently divorced from a bipolar woman, and I know how difficult things can be in this situation. Have you tried taking your fiancee to a support group for those who live (or want to) with victims of bipolar? This can be really helpful for your guy to understand what you are going through and how he can help you deal with it (and deal with it himself). Also, how well controlled is your disease? Maybe it is time to see a pdoc to re-evaluate your treatment and meds?

I really, really hope that you can work this out with your fiancee. Loving support is so critical to our well-being. What you have to remember is that it is also critical to your husband-to-be, even when you are really sick. A good therapist can help you in learning how to do this. It's a really hard thing for us to do.

I wish you well, and I hope things work for the best!

DJ