[LadyShadow]

Hello everyone?

Has anyone ever had fears about traveling and just knew it was a bad idea?

I have a friend who lives in Colorado that was supposed to be moved in to her new apartment by the 1st and hasn't yet. So, I would of ended up in her cramped apartment when I went to see her.

Anyway, she kept telling me I better get my ***** on the plane. This made me upset because I was feeling forced and bullied when I was feeling uncomfortable to begin with.

I don't need people in my life that bully me. I think I made the right choice by canceling my trip, but I am still feeling bad about it. I shut off my phone after sending her a text that I wasn't coming because I just don't want to deal with it.

[faerie_moon_x]

I think sometimes people are over excited about things and don't realize that others are different than themselves. I feel if you're not comfortable staying in a cramped apartment that's a good reason to wait. I don't know if she was bullying you exactly but definately being too pushy.

[roads]

You would be doing your friend a big favor, I think, if you had told her why you weren't coming--that you didn't want to be in her cramped apartment. Why didn't she move as planned?

Does she have a history of treating you like this? If so, then indeed she is a bully. If this was unusual behavior, though, then perhaps "pushy" might cover it? Only you know. After you've calmed down, will you talk it over with her? Is this a friend worth keeping?

[LadyShadow]

Yes, darkheart, I think she was definitely too excited that's why she came across as pushy.

And Roadie, I just texted her and told her WHY I wasn't coming. I was feeling bad about being in a cramped apartment that was in the process of being moved. Yes the move was planned but she was supposed to be settle since the 1st.

She has a history of being pushy. but I don't think she is a bully. She has a history of people letting her down and that is why she comes across that way. I can understand that now. This is a friend worth keeping so I am going to try my best to remedy this.

Thanks for responding everyone!

[Sometimes psychotic]

I think if you have any concerns you shouldn't do it. I haven't traveled too far since I got sick because I don't sleep right....like at all if I'm too excited about a trip.

[lil_better_everyday]

Something happened where I lost what I originally typed. Since typing on my tablet is kinda terrible, this will be short and sweet-

Yes! I'm currently on a family vacation I almost backed out of. I'm in a situation where the meds I'm on aren't working and I can't talk to pdoc till I get back. Plus this is the first time I'm around a fair amount drinking since getting sober. After quite the rollercoaster I considered not coming. Thank my lucky stars, I've felt pretty normal all week, and so far it has been an amazing experience. It's for my grandparents 60th anniversary and they are wonderful people who I am lucky to have as a part of my life (including letting me stay at their house during rehab). I'm happy I came, but I knew all the bad things that could have happened (and still could).

Hopefully your friend realizes a little later visit with everyone in the proper mindset will be better for all parties. Good luck!