[sprik]

when u got put on disability, did u realize this is your life? U give up your old life, you don't work, u don't back to school, even worse if your on disabililty u proability r having trouble with your mental issues in the first place. I posted in a different area but I wanted to know how u guys felt. My daughter said she doesn't want to be like me and be home all the time she wants a career, I have a bachelors. I raised my kids when they where young. I tried to explain to her what was going on, but she really didn't want to know, it felt like she was ashamed of me. This is isn't where I wanted to be at 41, I had big dreams in my career that I got my degree in, now I have to live with my mom to support my kids. My dreams r gone

[Clinte89]

I'm 25 and on disability. I haven't been to college in 2 years. I have not given up, I have the disability for a year score they review again. I have not given up because over this year I have worked on my self a lot in hopes that I can by the end of the year get backup work and soon after that college, keep you head up and work on youself as long as needed and them true to get back to it

[Victoria'smom]

don't give up your dreams just edit them and try to get volunteer work based on what you wanted to do.I don't feel that I can look at it as a forever thing.try to be proud that she wants a career even though she said it in a really nasty way. Tell her that you didn't want to stay home either but unfortunately that's all you can handle.

[anneo59]

Originally Posted by sprik

when u got put on disability, did u realize this is your life? U give up your old life, you don't work, u don't back to school, even worse if your on disabililty u proability r having trouble with your mental issues in the first place. I posted in a different area but I wanted to know how u guys felt. My daughter said she doesn't want to be like me and be home all the time she wants a career, I have a bachelors. I raised my kids when they where young. I tried to explain to her what was going on, but she really didn't want to know, it felt like she was ashamed of me. This is isn't where I wanted to be at 41, I had big dreams in my career that I got my degree in, now I have to live with my mom to support my kids. My dreams r gone

It's hard, I really understood, but remember that your illness and your disability and career or lack of one --don't totally define you. I find it helpful to focus on other things and to try to stay positive, while being realistic enuff to deal with things and people's attitudes, as I'm able. It's worth the struggle when it works. I also think that it's a blessing to have it than to not have it, along with no work or career. I believe it's a matter of making meaning of one's life, just where one is at that given time, and to keep moving forward. Of course, easier said than done! The best!

[anneo59]

Originally Posted by Clinte89

I'm 25 and on disability. I haven't been to college in 2 years. I have not given up, I have the disability for a year score they review again. I have not given up because over this year I have worked on my self a lot in hopes that I can by the end of the year get backup work and soon after that college, keep you head up and work on youself as long as needed and them true to get back to it

Way to go Clinte, and the best to you!!!

[intergalactictraveler]

63 and been on SSDI since May, 2011. Glad I got it but I miss working. However, my illness and poor stress handling ability reached the point where I couldn't even hold onto a 5 to 10 hour a week part time job. On my good days(or maybe manic days)I tell myself that if I got divorced from my wife and relocated, I'd make myself survive...or...I'd end up totally out of my head and on a psych unit because stress plus poor sleep would push me over the edge, once again.

Working on resolving physical health issues and maybe, just maybe, my system will reboot and I'll regain some or all of the function I lost. Not counting on it but it's within the realm of possibility. My best advice is don't ruminate on what you've lost and spiral down into a depression. Take it slow, take it easy because when you become hypomanic or manic, you come to believe you're back to your old self and can conquer the world. That's when you need to watch out for the cosmic banana peel.

[faerie_moon_x]

I'm not on disability but just because you don't fit into a "career" or "school" box are you less of a person or have less of a life. People don't understand until they've beendown the road and anyone who judges on it is very narrow minded.

[sprik]

thanks guy I knew u would understand