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Jun 24, 2013, 09:50 PM
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Just found out my ex husband was cheating behind my back for a year and half with his girlfriend while we were married still!!!!!!! I feel so dirty and betrayed. I have been trying so hard to stay off the couch. We have a horrible relationship. He is always backstapping me, hurting me and the kids, he lies non stop, . Three years I couldn't get off the couch because the shoe kept always falling, there was always .something bad happening I couldn't deal with. Three months im off, and im having a real hard time not wanting to go back, just give up, let him win, he always wins any ways. He is my trigger!!!!!! HELP HELP HELP
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#2
Jun 25, 2013, 02:42 AM
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Don't dare give in to him. Think about your pride. And you are worth so much more
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"I'd rather attempt to do something great and fail than to attempt to do nothing and succeed. Robert H. Schuller" Current dx: Bipolar Disorder Unspecified Current Meds: Epitec (Lamotrigine) 300mg, Solian 50mg, Seroquel 25mg PRN, Metformin 500mg, Klonopin prn |
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Jun 25, 2013, 05:19 AM
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Stay strong! In my experience when I give an inch, I am in for amile without my consent.
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Jun 25, 2013, 06:23 AM
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It is Him not You! You have been doing well, he will continue to be who he is no matter who he is with----oh, I know how strong the pull down to the couch can be---you have a Life worth fighting for---and you are in a better place without him. HE WILL NOT WIN. And remember, when one person/emotion seems to :"win" it really doesn't negate all else. It feels that way but that is a lie you have learned to tell yourself, it is all or nothing. No. It is simpler and more complex than that.
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Jun 25, 2013, 10:21 AM
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How are you doing today?
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Dx: Me- SzA Husband- Bipolar 1 Daughter- mood disorder+ Comfortable broken and happy "So I don't know why I'm tongue tied At the wrong time when I need this."- P!nk My blog |
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Jun 25, 2013, 11:04 AM
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I am not really making sense in my head today, but know I am thinking of you & believe you can make it. You are stronger than you know!
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#7
Jun 25, 2013, 04:11 PM
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You sound very angry at yourself.
.. I am sorry you have every right to be upset and hurt. But please take that anger you are turning to yourself and focus it on him. Do what you need to do to take care of you and your kids. Don't let him win , again. Take care of you
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#8
Jun 27, 2013, 09:19 PM
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its so hard, I feel so beat down, I feel so lonely, no one understands, it never ends, it hurts so badly, im not sure how much more I can take
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| A Red Panda, faerie_moon_x, middlepath
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#9
Jun 28, 2013, 10:18 AM
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How are you today, sprik? Keep talking your pain out here if you can. Getting the pain out is what helped me through my bad time. I wouldn't have made it without it, even though I repeated myself at least 200 times. Not holding it in is what saved me.
It's okay to feel hurt and betrayed, by the way. It's totally okay. Just don't hold it in because it's poison.
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Jun 28, 2013, 11:52 AM
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Oh Sprik, I am sorry you are feeling so sad, angry, lonely. Things feel never-ending sometimes, but that is not true. Things can change, and will. In the lonely moments, remember you have us here. In the sad and angry moments feel what you need to, get it out and then follow it up with finding something you respect about yourself. Forget what anybody else in your life has told you if it has been negative. Let the negative voices go away and just hear your own beauty for a moment. If you can. If not, distract yourself somehow but don't get into the event-horizon of the couch. (hugs))
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Jun 28, 2013, 07:51 PM
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Im keeping myself busy, I know if I don't I will fall apart, I promise my t, I will not stop doing it. Theres some therapy groups I can join at community health, I guess its time I sign up, I cant do this on my own anymore.
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Jun 28, 2013, 08:13 PM
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I hope group helps.
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Dx: Me- SzA Husband- Bipolar 1 Daughter- mood disorder+ Comfortable broken and happy "So I don't know why I'm tongue tied At the wrong time when I need this."- P!nk My blog |
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