[medicalfox]

Whenever I talk about my problems most people ignore what I'm saying. They look at what I typed, but don't reply back and I feel horrid since I probably worded what I said awkwardly because of my dumb autism. If people don't want to talk to me what's a healthy habit to start? I get so frustrated that I usually take it out on objects or myself since I feel that I'm stupid and worthless since I can't connect with people and help myself. I'm suppose to do DBT, but I don't have the money for it. I don't think anyone will respond to this, so I suppose this is a rant. I'm just really frustrated with my emotions and thoughts.

[Yoda]

I am sorry you have not gotten the support you want. Is your therapy cost based on your income?

Please keep posting here so we see your threads. Often threads get buried by popular threads like games which is a shame. You can PM me anytime.

[zbmom]

I think we all feel lonely and like no one cares sometimes. I haven't been on this site in over a year but what I do remember is that people start to respond and open up more when you make an effort to comment or contribute on posts. It is kind of like getting to know others but in a different way. That way you don't seem like a lurker. Sometimes people look at posts and don't respond because they don't have time or they don't know what to say. Try not to take it too personally. I do not have autism and I frequently feel unable to connect with others and help myself. I think that is called being human.

[LadyShadow]

It's hard to find the right words sometimes. I know I especially feel that way. I see a lot of threads and I don't respond only because I don't know the right words to say or I feel I will say the wrong thing and upset people more.

All I can do is send you gentle hugs and hope you receive the help you need soon. I am very sorry you feel this way.

[Alt77]

I'm not much of a talker but here's a sentence for ya.

[redbandit]

Agree with platinum heart

[Mollywisk]

Me too. I'm new and feel that way. My issues aren't as bad as others' and I don't have all the lingo down. It's kinda lonely though. I completely understand . Molly

I worry about how I word my posts too, often I think I come across very differently than the way I intended. I havent been keen to even start an introductory thread as I dont think anyone would care. So far though, my experience here has been positive and I am finding the more I interact the more others interact with me.

I tried a DBT group, went for 6 or 7 weeks (It was a 10 week course) but I didnt find it helpful at all. One of the other girls kept getting annoyed at me because I couldnt relate to the examples they were presenting. A lot of them just seemed like attention seeking behaviour and the group was trying to change those behaviours, but I dont have those behaviours in the first place. Perhaps it was influenced by who was participating in the group, I dont know, so maybe if I had a different group or did it indiviually it would have been more helpful.

CBT had been great for me though, especially for anxiety and that negative thinking when I am down.

[rapid cyclist]

Originally Posted by medicalfox

Whenever I talk about my problems most people ignore what I'm saying. They look at what I typed, but don't reply back and I feel horrid since I probably worded what I said awkwardly because of my dumb autism. If people don't want to talk to me what's a healthy habit to start? I get so frustrated that I usually take it out on objects or myself since I feel that I'm stupid and worthless since I can't connect with people and help myself. I'm suppose to do DBT, but I don't have the money for it. I don't think anyone will respond to this, so I suppose this is a rant. I'm just really frustrated with my emotions and thoughts.

Funny, I often feel the same way. I think we may have a similar "problem" inasmuch as we both work so hard at accurately communicating what we're struggling with and speculating about our own proposed theories (here's a case in point) that maybe some would-be posters feel we have it together way more than we really do. I've always been one to pull punches and backpedal on my emotions, so other people don't generally get that when I say I'm feeling rather uncomfortably warm, maybe I really should be yelling "Fire!"

That being said, I would never resort to over-dramatics to get the attention I really do crave. I didn't come here to trigger or be triggered; I came here to try to meet people with similar struggles who are genuinely striving to live well despite their illness. As that very kind of person yourself, feel free to PM me anytime.

[Trippin2.0]

I've read your posts, and didn't respond. For this I apologize. I have not been in a very good frame of mind for almost 3 weeks now, and only responded to the bp heriditary thread, bpd/bp thread and medication thread bcoz I'm an odd ball and have no bp family, having a bpd melt down for days now and traumatized all over again by what lithium stole from me...

I really am sorry I contributed to making you feel like this, I will try to be more engaging with everyone. Being ignored is a huge bpd trigger for me and I should be mindful that others may struggle with it too

[A Red Panda]

I don't think anyone has mentioned this so I'll point it out as well:

There are a LOT of lurkers. At any given time you can wander into a forum and see that there are maybe 2 people logged in viewing, and the rest are lurkers. For whatever reason, they haven't made accounts but are reading the things we talk about. So sometimes when we have a highly viewed thread, it's them.

But I get what you mean. Especially when you post something that you feel really vulnerable posting - I made a post a while ago in the Survivors forum that I was really, honestly, quite paranoid about posting in the first place. It's the most vulnerable I've ever really felt, because I included a pdf with some family history - which I've never posted that much at once before. One person replied, and it's had a lot of views. It makes me feel paranoid, but I remind myself that not everyone is in the right frame of mind to reply to threads, or they're at a loss for words. Sure, there are probably some people who go "pffft not worth replying to", but then, I wouldn't WANT those people to post because it would probably be hurtful to me.

Just keep on posting

[gayleggg]

Hi, Medical fox. When most people read and don't leave a message it is because they don't know what to say are can't relate to the issue. Also, there are a lot of non-members that can read the post but cannot reply to the posts. What I'm getting at is it's not personal. When I read a thread and don't post it is usually when I'm in a bad place and can't add anything positive to the conversation. Right now I'm suffering from a deep depression and even though I'm bipolar right now I can't relate to manic folks. Just keep posting and you will get to know everyone better and make friends.
Gayle

[Patsy Cline]

I hope you feel better today

[Victoria'smom]

generally for me people run together because they don't post a lot. If I haven't responded to your post I'm sorry. Another time I forget who I have posted 2 so I have trouble going back to those posts. Honestly right now I'm going to go look at your post and see if there's anything I can give you any advice. I hope that's okay with you. Sometimes, actually most of the time, I seem to have trouble understanding English even though its my first language. I think we have tons of lurks here and that is why there's the numbers of veiws and low numbers of responses. Also look at your amounts of hugs I give hugs when I read something and have felt that way but don't know what to say.

[Speed3]

I am sorry you feel ignored. I will speak for myself, this is the bipolar forum and at times depending on my mood it is hard to answer posts. We are all at different points in our bipolar journey.
When I am very depressed or in a bad mixed state it is hard to do just about anything, let alone give someone some meaningful advice.

I don't think anyone purposefully is ignoring you. Some posts are easier to answer as well. When I am feeling ok I sometimes don't answer a post because I don't have anything meaningful to say or I feel I might make the poster feel worse.

Some of my threads get a lot of answers some don't. This is probably true for everyone on here.

Please keep posting, you are very important to us.

[Victoria'smom]

also you only posted here six times, so it's hard for people to respond to each and everyone of them because I'm sure you're posts are getting buried if you really need to respond them most likely you posted triggering and you should put the the triggering symbol and you should always ask if anyone understands if you need to bump you to thread. A lot of you post have been about medication and I cannot respond because I have never been on that medication. I genrally shy away from compliance or medication posts because. I'm really trying hard even though i have little side effects i worry about spontaniusly developing them. I also generally stick to the bipolar board and therapy board but I hardly me ever respond on the therapy board I don't know why but I don't. Song I hope this helps and I'm looking forward to seeing you be part of this community.

[medicalfox]

Thank you everyone so much. I get ignored in real life too which is why I primarily made this post. If I talk just a hint of my problems people tend to fade away or stop replying to me on facebook and texts. It's so upsetting and it's quite the trigger for me. I'm still getting out of my sad spell from this.