[Mercedes87]

I've been with my fiance for six years. He claims he loves me, but yet every time I have a bad episode he says he's going to leave me. We had a fight over some stupid crap this morning and I started shouting at him. He again says he is planning on leaving me. But yet he never does. I want him to understand my Bipolar, but he seems to just refuse to do so. He has had some clothes packed away in garbage bags the past few weeks. I feel incredibly sad right now. He never leaves, but always says he will because I "treat him badly". I just started to see a psychiatrist for this, and we're still trying to find a mix of meds that works for me. I don't hate him, I just take my problems out on him, and this happens. I feel so worthless. Rant over.

[Alokin]

Save yourself the trouble, leave him. You can find someone that will take you as you are and you deserve it. Been there, done that. ((((((Mercedes87)))))

[vans1974]

Originally Posted by Mercedes87

I've been with my fiance for six years. He claims he loves me, but yet every time I have a bad episode he says he's going to leave me. We had a fight over some stupid crap this morning and I started shouting at him. He again says he is planning on leaving me. But yet he never does. I want him to understand my Bipolar, but he seems to just refuse to do so. He has had some clothes packed away in garbage bags the past few weeks. I feel incredibly sad right now. He never leaves, but always says he will because I "treat him badly". I just started to see a psychiatrist for this, and we're still trying to find a mix of meds that works for me. I don't hate him, I just take my problems out on him, and this happens. I feel so worthless. Rant over.

Hey Mercedes-sorry to hear! For some reason we all tend to treat the ones we love the most poorly at times. For me, NAMI, is great since they have counselling and support groups, and typically, a mental health expert will explain your bipolar condition to your loved ones. I've noticed when an expert explains about bipolar to people that don't understand it, it's way better than if I told them! Best of luck and I hope things work out!

[Mercedes87]

Originally Posted by vans1974

Hey Mercedes-sorry to hear! For some reason we all tend to treat the ones we love the most poorly at times. For me, NAMI, is great since they have counselling and support groups, and typically, a mental health expert will explain your bipolar condition to your loved ones. I've noticed when an expert explains about bipolar to people that don't understand it, it's way better than if I told them! Best of luck and I hope things work out!

I will look into that, thank you!

[token451]

I think one of the most important traits in a partner for someone with bp is patience. It is something I have noticed in my relationships, if they weren't patient enough to weather little mood storms with me, they didn't belong with me. I'm not one to say leave or stay but I think it would help to sit down with yourself and reevaluate the relationship objectively. Even when we love someone, it can still be wrong. I hope you figure things out.