hypersexuality - how to cope?

I have recently been diagnosed with bipolar. I am struggling with being overly stimulated recently. My spouse is not as excitable as I, so I am trying to figure out how you all handle this? I thought about bringing up a swingers club, but I don't think he would really be into that. I really wish not to seek satisfaction elsewhere, but it's getting close. I have talked with him about this before, but it didn't seem to register. I am open to suggestions.

What about adult toys? My partner is very good at keeping up with me (pays to find a younger man haha) but if I am over the top we will use sex toys.

Hypersexuality Is one of my main issues. I ended up giving in to it recently and cheating on my partner.... Play it safe and be honest with your partner about it, try and get them to help you out a bit more when your having problems with it?

If your close to seeking satisfaction 'elsewhere' could you not use online sites rather than being tempted in to finding it in the real world?

Not that I'd ever promote cheating or whatever, but I know how hard it can be. Allow yourself something to reduce the risk of straying towards others xx

Thank-you both! I will definitely look into getting c a toy or 2. Also @x_babyg_x I am so tempted so thank-you for your words. They are very helpful.

Toys are a great idea - to use with your partner or alone if he's not into it. I think being able to identify that the over stimulated feeling is part of the disorder and not that there is anything wrong with your relationship is a huge step. I still let myself fantasize about others, but I always bring it back to my husband - meaning, I will let my mind wander with someone else but then I swap out that other person in my mind with DH. That way I am not artificially building someone else up and increasing the temptation to cheat. I also sometimes read erotic fiction, but again, I always make sure to end with thoughts of DH. One more tactic I use to prevent myself from cheating is to think of the reality if I were to cheat - it's a fleeting satisfaction. The reality would be a mess. I would feel awful for having hurt DH and screwing up my kids' lives, the other guy really isn't all that great (for x, y, z reasons), I really don't want to live my life with anyone else - couldn't imagine *not* being with DH, DH really is a great guy (for x, y, z reasons), etc. The feeling will pass - I guess that's an upside to bipolar.

Masturbation. Seriously.

Sometimes masturbation isn't enough!

I do understand that, and I am already doing that several times a day & it's escalating. This is why I am reaching out for other suggestions.

My story runs backwards from yours. I was hyper sexual for years, cheated, the whole nine yards and THEN DXed with BP three years ago. The discovery that my hyper sexuality and the ways I *didn't* control it finally made sense. That didn't heal the hurt my husband has endured, however. I'm still not 100% clean, but much better off than I was.

I guess my point is that if you can control it, control it. The pain to your partner is not something easy to live with. I had relief understanding what was wrong with me, but the guilt and distrust and pain never, ever goes away.

And make sure your SO understands this is one of your risky behaviors! Ask him to go to therapy or pdoc with you. After the mistake is made, it's harder for them to accept that this is a (horrid) part of your disorder.

A couple of things. I went through this and cheated, dh does not know but the loss of the other relationship caused me to spin from manic (and hypersexual) to a severe mixed state mostly depressed that landed me in the hospital for the first time. It took quite a while to recover. So know that it can cause a toll on you as well as your marriage.
That being said, what are you doing to alleviate the (hypo) manic state that is most likely to blame for your hypersexuality? An honest visit with your pdoc is probably in order. Remember hypersexuality is on the symptom list for mania so it wont be a surprise for him or her to hear it from you.
Hope this helps some, I really do understand how hard this is.

Hey leilana, I have the same problems when I'm hypomanic. It's very difficult to manage hypersexuality...for me the only solution is sex or masturbation or not being hypomanic. Best of luck!!

I've been in that boat before and it sucks. I've brought up multiple partners but hubby thinks it's a fantasy and not that I feel an insane desire that he can't satisfy (only because he has to work, sleep, eat, shower, ya know) For a time I had a job as a phone sex operator (no joke) and OMG did that help. It took the masturbation to the next level without me actually crossing the boundary. Have you tried one of the live links or lava line kind of things? It's free for women and it might keep you from crossing the line until it 'calms' down.