Things people say that make me angry

LH, you are not overreacting, but rather reacting incorrectly. This person used the term "killed myself" as a figure of speech, namely, a hyperbole. The person didn't mean it in a literal sense. You reacted as if the person had meant it literally.

Consider a hypomanic person who says that she feels on top of the world. You would understand thatvshe is using a figure of speech.

Same thing.

I just turned 60, and people have been saying stupid, heartless, foolish, cruel, and you can guess the rest - for many decades now about my BP1 episodes. I can honestly say at this stage that I will not "get over it," "buck up," "snap out of it," "quit feeling sorry for (my)self," and on and on.

This thread reminds me of something that really irritates me about the little "berg" I live in. Everyone here tries to turn every little ache and pain into a pissing contest. I don't go anywhere without coming across a couple of people-especially the women-that are 'comparing scars', so to speak. It's like, "Oh, look--I got a paper cut." "Oh, you think that's bad? I got this little bruise on my knee here." And it goes on and on! I kid you not. Then these same people will turn and complain about the people in this area who are really suffering because we're too "whiny" and looking for pity.

People who ask publicly for opinions and views on subjects and then get pissy when you tell the the truth... happens more on this site than I have ever seen in my life. If this was a support group in real life there would be a hell of a lot more truthful answers than fluffy bunny "whatever you think is best" or just straight out agreement when it is not in the best interest of the original poster. Think about what is actually helpful, not just what wont "upset" the poster.

Supernova and shortandcute - Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, but I don't think that criticizing everyone else on this forum is in any way helpful.

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Yeah I really don't think that the posts here are asking for rebuttal or rebuke. It seems more of a vent thread. I don't know what happened, but all of a sudden it seems like some of us decided we needed to "school" the rest?

Would anybody take it literally? Of course I knew it was a hyperbole and I wasn't taking the person serious. I just was more upset at the saying itself and not the person.

Perhaps it's somewhat relateable to sayings like "gay" or "fag"...people mostly mean them as harmless banter but sometimes they get misconstrued because of peoples basic mindlessness.

You're right, it's not always what is said but how it's said. I'm sorry for overthinking it...

I wholeheartedly agree! But that doesn't mean you have to be blunt about things. There are always ways to say things that need to be said without being too harsh, sometimes you just have to try harder to find those ways.

I think this is a valid thread. There ARE people who are dismissive of the pain and suffering of others and for a variety of reasons, not the least of which is they are afraid of something they don't understand...something this complex and bizarre doesn't fit into their world view...just like there are people who will argue a point because they like to hear themselves talk. It seems to me the point of threads like this, and this website as a whole, is to find out that we are not alone. It's not whining. It's sharing.

A few of my favourites which are said by friends, family members and other ignorant people. -_-'

''You can't see your mental illness. So it can't be that serious''

''It isn't a real illness like a heart condition or something''

''You can't be mentally ill, you are just a teen and teens have hormones, you will grow out of it.''

Or with everything I do wrong or every argument my mom and I have:
''That is just your disease talking'' or
''You are doing this because of your illness.''
I mean, really?! I can't have an opinion about things or get mad without her thinking that it is my disease? ''Normal'' people get mad too!

I have many more but these are the ones I could remember now.

I wasn't criticizing anyone on this forum--I was talking about the people in my town. Please read my post over, thank you.

I'm sorry for misunderstanding what you said. I guess I take things too personally sometimes.

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why not rip right into it!

fall into some thing else...

collapse and live and watch the terrible collapse of the ordinary

I just wanted to let everyone know that when I said "here" I meant the town that I live in--not anyone in psychcentral.

you are fine mate

^ Agreed.

I just looked at my post, and I realized that it did look like I was about talking people here on the forums. I'm sorry about that.

it's ok...

I also don't want to come across as critical of anyone here. We are very sensitive, especially in our depressions!

I think in general we face the worst criticism from social security and family. Those are the ones that hurt and vilifie.

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I agree, it's so frustrating when people say anything along those lines. I get that they don't understand, but they shouldn't pretend to. It's maddening!

..."You know, there's medicine for that"..
..From the Human Resources manager at work when I explained I had anxiety issues and had to be out of work from time to time when I first started working

<_<'...Professional Isn't it? Hate they guy every time I see him..Happy I didn't tell him about being Bipolar also..

When people are in a great mood in the morning and by the end of the day, they are crabby
.....then they say...
Oh I must be bipolar

One guy I was seeing when I was divorcing my 1st husband would (sarcastically) tell me, "God, I'm sorry I'm not-----(my exhusband)! I'm sorry I'm not God!" when I was having an episode, whether it was depression or mania--unless of course it was a good mania, then he was happy to "oblige."

Some of my other favorites:
"You're just rebellious" (my brother in law who used to be my legal guardian).
"You just hate men." (my first husband, when I would fly into a rage after being beaten)
"I just don't depress myself."
"They used to call that hormones."
"Well, who doesn't want to stay under the warm blankets when it's cold and grey outside?"
"Oh, you're just acting that way because your doctor told you were bipolar."
"You just want everyone to think you're losing it."
"You're not that disabled."

" You'll adjust. " --- That one sets me off inwardly every time. Grrrrr ....