Things people say that make me angry

Yoda · Mar 27, 2014, 04:42 PM

I had post postpartum depression and called my ob doc a week after my son was born. I told him I was feeling very depressed. He said, "that is normal, drink a beer". (I didn't drink the beer) Two days after that conversation I attempted suicide.

Hbomb0903 · Mar 27, 2014, 04:47 PM

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Originally Posted by Yoda

I had post postpartum depression and called my ob doc a week after my son was born. I told him I was feeling very depressed. He said, "that is normal, drink a beer". (I didn't drink the beer) Two days after that conversation I attempted suicide.

OMG what a quack. That is one of the most insensitive and unprofessional things I've ever heard!!!

Standup2me · Mar 27, 2014, 04:53 PM

totally heartless

...and stupid to say

shortandcute · 06:23 PM

I had a PSYCHIATRIST tell me one time, "If you would just get a job and learn how to drive, you wouldn't have depression and anxiety." REALLY???? I had these problems when I was working, and even, more so, which is why I don't work OR drive!

Some time later, when I started seeing someone else, at the intake one the things they asked me was if I had been seeing someone else before, I said yes. They asked me what he said about my situation, and I told them just what he had said--that was written down in my records and the SSD judge got wind of it and that was used against me.

shortandcute · Mar 27, 2014, 06:22 PM

"Have you been living in sin?"

"You broke your covenant with God."

"You opened the door for satan."

callmekari · Mar 27, 2014, 06:49 PM

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Originally Posted by Atypical_Disaster

I usually ignore this kind of **** but I have to say when people tell me to "choose" happiness I get really irritated. Happiness is an emotion, not a permanent state of being.

Oh that **** especially pisses me off. Like my life is fine, I'm happy with how my life is, but if i'm still depressed all the time then maybe something in my head is wrong?? like really...

nowIgetit · Mar 27, 2014, 09:14 PM

I have to say I am kind of surprised by how much religion is mentioned here! I think I would slap someone in the face if they told me any of my problems were a result of a religious shortcoming, even if I was totally stable!

Standup2me · Mar 27, 2014, 10:21 PM

I've heard - start jogging, that will fix everything

thickntired · Mar 27, 2014, 10:34 PM

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Originally Posted by shortandcute

I had a PSYCHIATRIST tell me one time, "If you would just get a job and learn how to drive, you wouldn't have depression and anxiety." REALLY???? I had these problems when I was working, and even, more so, which is why I don't work OR drive!

Some time later, when I started seeing someone else, at the intake one the things they asked me was if I had been seeing someone else before, I said yes. They asked me what he said about my situation, and I told them just what he had said--that was written down in my records and the SSD judge got wind of it and that was used against me.

That is a load of crap!!! Basically he is saying you're a great candidate for employment. Ugh! I worry bc the panel of Dr's and staff reviewed my prognosis and believe I'll be up and ready to work in the future. So, I get a third review in 3 yrs. I'm on a handful of meds and 3 mental illnesses have been added to my initial claim of bipolar I. The parameters of disability are bs because we meet those guidelines! I mean how much proof do they need seriously?! It's obvious they're not following the definition of mental health that falls under the disability criteria.

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Unrigged64072835 · Mar 28, 2014, 08:45 PM

One of the worst lines I got was from SS: " You just need to find a low-stress job." Don't we all???

One that comes from people who mean well (and thus I normally don't say anything) is "You're perfect the way you are." That's nice but I would really hate to see what I'm like when I'm imperfect.

shortandcute · Mar 29, 2014, 12:47 PM

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Originally Posted by JoyDivision7680

I got a new one from today: "I think you're creating your moods consuming caffeine. The moods don't exist". My psychologist said it. If so, why did my moods change during a long period of not consuming caffeine at all?

That makes it even worse when a psychologist or psychiatrist says something like that (like in my case when a pdoc told me the only reason I was depressed was because I didn't drive or have a job!). I mean, if you don't believe that mental illness is real, then what the h**l are you doing in this business!

shortandcute · Mar 29, 2014, 12:58 PM

How about, "Just don't depress yourself."

Otter63 · Mar 29, 2014, 01:08 PM

[QUOTE=Supanova;3661540]"Everyone is a little bipolar" -Supanova

My ignorant MIL said that once. Thank God she lives thousands of miles away and I rarely talk to her!

My aunt noticed that when I was manic I did a lot of walking. So when I hit depression she suggested that I should walk because it must have been the walking that was making me happy. Sigh!

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Hbomb0903 · Mar 29, 2014, 01:44 PM

My ex significant other saying he will be there for me, but when I point out that its all just words, he says he can't believe I put this on him because of what he went through losing his mom recently. He then said I have family (not close) lean on them. Very supportive huh.

Curiosity77 · Mar 29, 2014, 10:40 PM

Being told that i should know better/be better because I am a nurse. For example, that i shouldn't ever consider going off meds because i would be risking my career.

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ManicIcarus · Mar 30, 2014, 05:06 AM

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Originally Posted by Painted

How about "grow a pair, suck it up, don't be so self centered, deal with it, you make your own problems, you blow things way out of proportion, welcome to adulthood" and my absolute favorite .... "that's not as bad as my problem"

I've heard just about all of those. They all suck.

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Originally Posted by shortandcute

"Have you been living in sin?"

"You broke your covenant with God."

"You opened the door for satan."

I want to punch people when they say these sorts of things.

shortandcute · Mar 30, 2014, 10:28 AM

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Originally Posted by Fharraige

One of the worst lines I got was from SS: " You just need to find a low-stress job." Don't we all???

One that comes from people who mean well (and thus I normally don't say anything) is "You're perfect the way you are." That's nice but I would really hate to see what I'm like when I'm imperfect.

One time, in my earlier stages of waiting for disability, I called SS to check how my case was progressing. Part way into the conversation, he said, "But you're not REALLY depressed." I said, "Yes, I am." "But you haven't been diagnosed, though, have you?" "Yes, I have." "But not recently, though, right? I mean if it hasn't been recent, then you're not depressed."

kitten55 · Mar 30, 2014, 02:15 PM

A slightly different twist...
I used to work full-time. When I decided that the stress was causing me to forget things, make mistakes, etc., I told my boss that I was quitting because I was bipolar. His response: "You're not going to kill me, are you?"

hamster-bamster · Mar 30, 2014, 10:49 PM

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Originally Posted by Hbomb0903

When people tell me to put my trust in God and I will be truly healed, I get extremely irritated. I've tried it before and guess what???? I'm still bipolar.

"You guys should finally get your act together, stop preaching and start praying hard for my healing. I have not seen any results of your praying, you slackers. Do not talk the talk - walk the walk at last!!!"

PoorPrincess · Mar 30, 2014, 11:13 PM

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Originally Posted by Atypical_Disaster

I usually ignore this kind of **** but I have to say when people tell me to "choose" happiness I get really irritated. Happiness is an emotion, not a permanent state of being.

Good point.
In my experience, there is no "choice", such as "choose to be happy".
It is not so much a feeling or emotion that I struggle with,
as it is rather ... some cemented state of being that won't budge!

hamster-bamster · Mar 30, 2014, 11:14 PM

[QUOTE=Otter63;3665617]

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Originally Posted by Supanova

"Everyone is a little bipolar" -Supanova

My ignorant MIL said that once. Thank God she lives thousands of miles away and I rarely talk to her!

My aunt noticed that when I was manic I did a lot of walking. So when I hit depression she suggested that I should walk because it must have been the walking that was making me happy. Sigh!

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"MIL, sure, that is how it works, just as Christmas cards cause Christmas. "

hamster-bamster · Mar 30, 2014, 11:16 PM

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Originally Posted by thickntired

From my Dad: there is no such thing as ptsd because during past wars it was not an issue ( btw he was in the army)
On childhood ptsd - who the heck remembers what happened when they were 4?? I sure don't.
On my rehab consoler buying me pot and wine then seducing me when I had 8 mo sober. He said - well no one put a gun to her head.

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Erich Maria Remark described post-wwii ptsd well before the term was coined.

hamster-bamster · Mar 30, 2014, 11:27 PM

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Originally Posted by wildflowerchild25

Omgggg so last summer I had a horrible time a horrible mixed episode with a touch of psychosis for added fun. It culminated in my husband making me drive home on speakerphone and get my mom to drive me to the crisis center - if I hung up he would call the cops. So in the midst of this my mom agrees to take me to the ER, I tell her I feel like someone is taking over my brain, her mind clicks OH must be SATAN. Before she takes me to the ER she takes me to her church to see her psycho pastor (bought a new motorcycle because god told him to) and he promises me if I jut accept Jesus into my heart the devil will be vanquished and I won't need meds or the hospital. He said Jesus was standing right next to me, and the devil was too.

Needless to say I declined. I went to hospital and got medication.

By the way I was very religious at one point in my life but I still had problems so I think my mom's "it's the devil!" Theory is a little outdated.

Also totally off topic but I am 27 years old and can't watch/read Harry potter because according to her the devil travels through Harry potter and every time I was hospitized I was reading Harry potter right before. Which is unequivocally untrue.

"Pastor, why is it that one God talks to you, this is called a delusion, but when you talk to God, this is called a prayer? " except that your pastor with his motorcycle would then need to be called delusional...

hamster-bamster · Mar 30, 2014, 11:31 PM

To sum up, "I would highly appreciate if you refrain from giving me advice that is both unsolicited and uninformed" should work well with lay people, and "What Board regulates your professional activities? " should work well with psych clinicians, but nothing verbal is going to work if you are denied SSDI due to something like that - then you need an aggressive litigator.

Lobster Hands · Apr 01, 2014, 10:04 AM

when people say, "I almost killed myself yesterday, I worked so hard."

Yeah this just happened a day ago and I immediately flew of the handle...maybe I overreacted, maybe I didn't. But it did make me angry fast.

I mean really? You almost killed yourself because you had a little extra work to do? Shut up now before you get to worked up and kill yourself over a heart attack from getting out of your chair!

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