Do bi-polar people feel bad?

I'm doing alright, thanks for asking. I haven't seen her in a month and I haven't spoken to her in 9 days. I'm kinda coming to my senses and seeing things now.

Last time I spoke to her on the phone she was crying to me saying all she wants is to have a family with me. She just wants to get married and have a family.

I don't understand if that's all she wants and all I want is for her to be stable (b/c if isnt stable then we aren't stable) and I don't seem to understand how, she can't control herself enough to have what we both want.

That's another thing, I wonder if we did have kids if our kids would be mentally ill as well.

Also, here is another thing. I'm a dude. I feel weird that, I still love her and have feelings for her and the only person I want to have sex with is her. I don't see myself having sex with anyone else. I see college kids and guys at the gym and stuff all talking about having sex with women and having no feelings for them and I can't seem to see myself having sex or wanting it with anyone else because I don't have feelings for them. On the otherside it hurts to know that this dude she has been talking to is one of those other guys that are having sex with her and not even having feelings for her and she is going to end up getting hurt.

Is it normal after a breakup for a guy not want to have sex with anyone else when they are in love with that one person?

WOW YOU'VE BEEN LIED TO! We "BP's" don't regret anything - anymore than a diabetic might regret having a hypoglucemic seizure - and why should we? We didn't do anything to cause our bipolar disorder condition. No one asks for this. So even suggesting that somehow the secondary harms caused by our symptoms is cause for our regret, or that we blame ourselves for being at "fault" turns my stomach. What you should really be asking is how we, who suffer this illness, are often devastated by the results. Sorry if I'm a bit angry over your post, but it's these sorts of myths you advance that cause us even further harm.

I lost the man I was with for 20 years over bp. Yes I live w a lot of regret. I hurt him but he hurt me just as well plus some and he is not bipolar. A lot of time I kick myself in the *** for things I have done while manic. I have lost a lot of important things in my life. Everything I worked my *** off my whole life for is gone! So yes I believe your friend is very correct in saying this.

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actually some of us have regrets. About things we done, or haven't.

Being hypoglicemic is not like cheating on somebody or whatnot.

I don't regret feeling manic or depressive.... but I regret being snappy, isolating, screwing up the things I care for... so on.

As for OP... imho, it's not about the person being bipolar solely... it's about her being the way she is. You cannot pull the "bipolar made me do it" card. When people do it, they create stigma for those of us who aren't running around wrecking havoc.

Of course it's normal. If you love someone and want only them then the transition to wanting a different person is, for most, just that. A transition.

If she is stating that she wants to try to get better and you still love her then you need to determine what would be acceptable for you and whether or not you could get past all she's done. It sounds like from what you said before, you wouldn't be able to forgive/forget, and trust is going to be a huge problem.... rightfully so.

You are going to have a long journey to figuring out yourself again. It's hard when someone and their major health/behavior issues become YOUR whole world. I don't recall if you said you have a counselor, but if you don't you might consider it.