[muller1209]

ok. so im not sure if this is going to make sense. i am bipolar. i posted this here because my girlfriend is a sex addict. she has been to counseling. I need some advice on how I can better fulfill her needs. sometimes my sex drive is on par with hers and other times its not even close. when I am depressed I could care less about sex. here is the strange part tho. although I could care less about the act of having sex I still look at porn, hentai, or whatever else, our talks still remain very sexual. this is confusing for both of us because she gets worked up through out the day and when I come home i would rather read, cook, watch a movie, relax.

second thing. when I am in my manic phase, my sex drive tends to match hers pretty closely. I still do have a fear or not being able to perform to her wishes though. and even tho I am thinking constantly of sex, and cant wait to be intimate with her the moment I get home the anxiety takes over.

two questions.

does anyone have anything similar when they are depressed. has anyone i don't want to say forced but made themselves more sexually active during depression but without viewing the act or their partner negatively afterwards or during.

question two. i have openly discussed my fear of not being able to please her, she has told me no one has really come close except for me. sometimes I do feel forced. has anyone come up with a way to look at being more sexually active with their partner in a positive light.

i do feel terrible, she is smart and damn attractive. and sometimes the pressure is a lot. when i am depressed and I have not done anything sexual with her the day or days before and I know she is in need I feel really bad. and in my mind idk what the block is. its confusing.

sex with her has been the most fulfilling to me and the most open to exploration.

_reposted from sexual addiction forms. I didnt get a any responses._

[loophole]

Probably not funny since it's posted here but I wish I had your problem... but yah good luck.. I don't have any advice.. married with 3 kids... don't know what sex is

[muller1209]

Originally Posted by loophole

Probably not funny since it's posted here but I wish I had your problem... but yah good luck.. I don't have any advice.. married with 3 kids... don't know what sex is

thanks, there are two kids at the house, one is mine, i work 55 hrs or more a week, there is time for intamacy but lack of drive at times. idk. ill figure something out i guess.

[Victoria'smom]

Both my husband and I are BP most of the time we don't match up. But we still text each other things and stories throughout the day, plan romantic night's and atleast try forplay every night/morning. Someone is bound to get some relief at some point and if we both get to aggravated there's always the evening or morning to try again. Invest in a lot of forplay time. It doesn't take much effort, you don't have to be into it just enjoy watching her there's also extended games you can play. Please don't force yourself it ends the relationship baf.

[loophole]

Yeah that's a busy schedule... my wife home schools... I work anywhere from 40 to 72 hours a week depending on what I want... (open overtime).... so yah it's stressful. . But i am financially put (worked hard to get there for my wife and family) to allow her to do what she wants...... since I'm bipolar and make mistakes sometimes (no real affairs just fyi) she's "hurt" and doesn't feel close to me... this causes me some added stress and added triggers.. a hole hard to dig out of so.to speak... sorry for dragging my story into the thread.. hoping the best for you

[Love&Toil]

Originally Posted by muller1209

sometimes I do feel forced.

This sets off flags for me, no one should feel forced to have sex. You are experiencing other relationship problems with your gf because of her accusations that you have been cheating. I'm not surprised the whole thing makes you feel pressured and anxious.

[~Christina]

No one should ever feel forced to have sex ..That is so very wrong on every level.

[muller1209]

Originally Posted by ~Christina

No one should ever feel forced to have sex ..That is so very wrong on every level.

ur perspective is always balanced. thank you.