How would you react?

Update for those interested. Wife and I met with people and drew up an agreement. We are both on the same page now. Long story short I'm living elsewhere for the time being but we are in good terms. No one wants a divorce and she is working on her end to get past some things that took place years ago. She even said divorce is not an option and that may sound untrue to a lot of people but I know that it truly isn't for her. Appreciate the concern here. I've had some bad bouts with anger and I'm not a perfect human being by any means.

I hope the best for you! Thanks for letting us know.

I've looked into lawyers and asked for a divorce numerous times usually it means one of us, usually me, are in a bad episode and safety of the others are at risk. For him and I divorce is not an option either so I understand. Are you both seeing individual therapists and a couples therapist?

Thanks for the update. Hopefully some time apart and kinda on the same page is a good start.

I'm glad its not total hell like it was

Well I would be feeling lots of different emotions and would have a whole bunch of questions and reactions. This is not something easy to deal with. No one reacts the same way. I guess taking time to calm down, talking about it with someone trusted could help to deal with the next steps that works for you.

Yes we are and have been doing all of thee above. Thanks

Appreciate your concern by the way thanks for that