I know I'm doing better but still so hard

Today, I found it really hard because I felt thorn between too much to do and having trouble dividing myself so I could get everything done and make everybody happy without forgetting about my needs.

The day started out well, but I started to run out of time, I did not get to do stuff that my mom's needs and my daughter was disappointed I cancelled super..I finished part on my evening sitting in a cold car drinking decaf coffee and trying to talk to my daughter who was having a crisis, while I was trying not to loose my temper or to start crying..while receiving texte messages saying so when are you getting home...Then I felt guilty about not being available for my daughter, than angry that she could not understand, than sad..I called her up again when I was more calm...8pm, still had not had super, still had not given news to my partner waiting for me at home..spend two hours on the phone with my daughter trying to figure how we can have time together because she feels horrible...even offered to go sleep at her house to help her sleep better cause she was afraid of being alone in her apartment..(know that feeling had that) finally, 9 pm, had a bugger, drove home, still talking on the phone waiting for my daughter to decide what she wanted..walked in..told her I would call her back in 10, spoke to my spouse, 30 min later called my daughter back no answer..guess she fell asleep. Saturday night..my first saturday in months where my partner and I could have spent a quiet evening...well she's in bed, I'm here writing and Tomorrow I'll half to run again ...will this ever stop.

Are you able to express your needs to those around you?

It sounds like everyone needs you but you forget that you need yourself too

Try not to be so hard on yourself. Easier said than done.

Seems as if you've got a lot of people relying on you right now. So much to do but not enough hours in the day to do it.

Make sure that you are looking after your own needs first, then the rest can follow. It can be hard to help others when we are struggling ourselves.

I hope you find a balance.

hi nice lady

no it does not ever stop ..........it is life ........the good news is u adapt to it and it does get little simpler then it alters and u get a new set of things flying at yah

as for keeping the sanity and everything intact this is what i done
1 one night a week is for u ....pick a tv show u like and that is now your time (no matter what during that time u just relax enjoy the program recharge the bullsh@t battery) for 22 years now midnight saturday night has been my time (doctor who on pbs when i was 13) .....this can be a pub trivia night or art show something u enjoy

2 u need a hobby something u enjoy or want to do that u can let your mind go do the work...when u master what ever u pick start a new one ........by the time u are in golden age home u will have a bunch of skills

3 u need to set what is the most important to u and then arrange things around that if it is family then make it known at work if family calls i go

on a personal note about your kid and time
one of thing my parents did now and then was to come and take me out of school for something special (box seats to game........a trip to a roller coaster park during weekday and school ......going to museums) this is the invention of kidnapping with the intent of fun was born ...........use a vacation day or a sick day or something before it rolls over or u lose it ........it is for u and the kid so it is good karma.......ohhh the local zoo was always fun animals and u can ppl watch plus get some decent food /drinks (this was before smoothies were everywhere)

Hello, Because I've been in a yoyo time for the past few months, I have not really been there for my family..Now that I'm starting to be "me again" but still recovering and setting limits..it's a bit difficult but I'm working on that. When, I'm feeling fine I'd say I'm half and half about expressing my needs...all depends.

Its really good that you are starting to feel like your old self, but now is the most important time to make sure you don't take on more than you can handle. The old adage proves true, you need to be able to walk before you can run. In other words, don't take on too much too fast. Its really important that you look after you first, and get into the habit of letting others know when you are 'available' and when you need some 'you time'. The last thing anyone wants is for you to burn yourself out and be in the position of not being able to help yourself or those around you. Its hard but you need to be somewhat selfish with yourself.