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Old Jan 08, 2015, 02:13 PM
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IT'S CHAOS!!!
I agree, from my limited experience = it's system OVERLOAD

0-60 REAL quick and then ending in fireworks

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Old Jan 08, 2015, 02:30 PM
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I agree, from my limited experience = it's system OVERLOAD

0-60 REAL quick and then ending in fireworks
Yeah, even if you date a BP person, just because they're BP doesn't mean they'll always be in the same state of mind as you. Nothing is worse than being super depressed when your significant other is manic and chatty. It's arguments and grudges all around. I did it once and I won't say I will not do it again, because every person is different, but I won't seek it out intentionally!
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Old Jan 09, 2015, 09:22 AM
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I am single. But being BP is one of only one of the reason why.

I mean, "totally NOT horny, bipolar, activist, feminist bisexual philosopher is looking for a partner who will give her space, not want a housefrau nor trophy wife, is willing to travel to eastern Europe on train and is politically aware, but NOT a communist"... yeah, sounds so attractive.
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Old Jan 09, 2015, 10:04 AM
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I mean, "totally NOT horny, bipolar, activist, feminist bisexual philosopher is looking for a partner who will give her space, not want a housefrau nor trophy wife, is willing to travel to eastern Europe on train and is politically aware, but NOT a communist"... yeah, sounds so attractive.
Sounds attractive to me except for the "not horny" part. That part of me will never ever ever go away.
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Old Jan 09, 2015, 10:16 AM
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I am quite happy with my open-relationship lifestyle. Works for me. I am not the monogamous type. The thought of monogamy makes me feel uncomfortable. I find friendship, support, intimacy and freedom in my life-style. I realize a lot of people dont think like me, but there are always those who do. I wonder how many seriously consider that there are other ways to lead a healthy, rewarding and full life as a single person. With a single lifestyle the pressure from society to be in a partnership can be really hard to deal with though. Actually, I encurage everyone to check out the blog single-at-heart, here on PC. It deals with issues around being single.
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Old Jan 09, 2015, 10:18 AM
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Sounds attractive to me except for the "not horny" part. That part of me will never ever ever go away.
I quite agree!
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Old Jan 09, 2015, 03:09 PM
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well i just lost my wife of 5 years and kids because of bp and i dont like it one bit i feel more alone now then i have ever felt in my life
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Old Jan 09, 2015, 09:39 PM
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Been single over 15 years. I haven't made any effort to meet anyone. I've never been in love. I don't think I'm capable of that kind of emotion. I'm not lonely though. I enjoy my own company.
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Old Jan 10, 2015, 11:45 AM
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i am single so the madness ends with me i got the short drawl in the genetic lotto in my family my older brother married a lady had a kid and seems to be fine nothing like i was nor my little brother

plus honest it would take a saint to live with me let alone want to marry me ...and one to never want kids or to adopt (make a great uncle but a father all the time the kid would be little messed up )

the genetic madness of me ends with me i would not wish my life on my worst enemy
I so agree. I'm not sharing my Bipolar with anyone else, as I don't appreciate my mother sharing it with me.
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Old Jan 10, 2015, 11:51 AM
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I'm single by choice and no kids, so I really can't get upset about my situation. I don't want the negative effects of my illness to affect the lives of any one else. Just my personal choice. Not meant to condemn any one else who feels differently or has lived their lives differently. If I get lonely ie: Valentines day, etc....I just go to bed a little early and when I wake up poof it's gone
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Old Jan 10, 2015, 01:24 PM
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32. Single. Don't love it, don't hate it. It just is. I'm not opposed to it the idea, but wary of romantic relationships. Last time I thought I was in love, it ended badly, so I cranked my drinking up from every day to all day every day and ended up homeless for a very short bit (I was unmedicated if that wasn't obvious). That was about two years ago and now I'm focused on learning how to live my new sober, medicated life. It's slow going - I still live with my folks and have a **** job, so it's not like the ladies are beating down my door anyway. Maybe someday I'll feel stable and self-confident enough to try again, but not right now.
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Old Jan 11, 2015, 01:32 PM
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I'm single, and sometimes it's ok, but mostly it's very lonely. I had a 14 year relationship and marriage which ended 4 years ago, pretty much due to both our mental illness. I have dated since then, but nothing serious. I feel like i can't really connect to anyone. I just turned 38, and i feel like i will always be alone. I don't understand, because i really try to be a good person and treat people well, so i don't know why i can't form a relationship.
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Old Jan 11, 2015, 02:06 PM
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I'm single, and in all honesty, I don't really want to be in a relationship, which may be weird for someone in their mid-twenties, but it is just how I feel. In the past, I've liked people, and the feels were intense and consuming. I can't deal with that right now. I like doing my own thing.
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Old Jan 11, 2015, 02:15 PM
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I'm single-due to divorce.I've been single since 2005.Had girls friends off and on,but nothing real steady.Haven't had a date for a couple of years now.Seems like i'm coming out of my depression somewhat so i might like to find a nice lady friend to spend time with.Yes i do get lonely,but when i hear the guys at work *****in' about their wives and homelife i just sit back and smile to myself! I do like my freedom and not having to answer to anyone....I'd really be scared to ever tie the knot again,but i guess i won't say never. I actually have a married lady bugging me to death but i'm definitely not going there....
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Old Jan 11, 2015, 06:51 PM
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Been single over 15 years. I haven't made any effort to meet anyone. I've never been in love. I don't think I'm capable of that kind of emotion. I'm not lonely though. I enjoy my own company.
I'm not capable of love either. You're not alone. Thank God for empathy and compassion. At least I have those emotions.
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Old Jan 11, 2015, 06:55 PM
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I'm 20 and single. I don't really want to be in a relationship, plus I'm going to be putting all my focus on college which is starting tomorrow
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Old Jan 11, 2015, 06:57 PM
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I'm single, and sometimes it's ok, but mostly it's very lonely. I had a 14 year relationship and marriage which ended 4 years ago, pretty much due to both our mental illness. I have dated since then, but nothing serious. I feel like i can't really connect to anyone. I just turned 38, and i feel like i will always be alone. I don't understand, because i really try to be a good person and treat people well, so i don't know why i can't form a relationship.
I used to think I was a bad person until I realized it is my illness keeping me from having and keeping a relationship. Relationships are hard enough for healthy minds and so much harder for us. I'm betting you're a great person.
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Old Jan 11, 2015, 07:07 PM
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well i just lost my wife of 5 years and kids because of bp and i dont like it one bit i feel more alone now then i have ever felt in my life
I'm so, so sorry. I wish I could lift your pain, but I'm not strong enough. I'll just sit with you right here so you won't be alone if you don't mind.
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Old Jan 11, 2015, 08:25 PM
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I'm 19, been told i am good looking, but i've never had a girlfriend, (by choice) I'm sexually attracted to girls but that is it. I am very philosophical and logical, and everything about girls (especially the ones my age) contradicts all my beliefs. I like to be alone, and not bothered. And they just talk and talk and talk oh my god i can't stand it. And a lot of them are crazy i tell you. I mean i'm crazy (been to the asylums) but they're a different type of crazy. A crazy that is somehow acceptable by society. I'll probably be alone forever. which is completely fine with me. I've learned to find happiness in myself without the need of a companion.
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Old Jan 11, 2015, 09:13 PM
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Single and in response to Venus- I am 49, liberal, feminist, opinionated, activist-type with 2 teen sons and a houseful of animals looking for a man who doesn't mind not being the most important thing in my very independent life.

I am prone to spending my own money, speaking my own mind, and doing my own ****. I have a high sex drive, a hard time orgasming with a partner and insomnia and mood swings. I am impulsive and like to travel at the drop of a hat.

Other than that... LOL
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