It's not healthy how bad our fights get when your manic and it's not fair to presley. I can tell you that I am done fighting with you. So if it starts again I'm gonna pack my bags and go.

This is what he told me.. I've been having the worst feeling lately of uneasiness and Anexity and like something bad is gonna happen and my husband finally the told me he would leave if it happens again I told him I would stay on my zoolfot but the zoolfot doesn't help fully to the extent o will sometimes be depressed or manic as well yeah it helps some but it doesn't get rid of my bipolar I will still have episodes and stuff I Told my husband things will get better I'll stay on zolfot and stuff Its sad I can't make any real promises bc I'm bipolar you know idk when it's gonna happen indont choice that I don't went to argue who would want to be with a bipolar and when I am manic he makes sure to trigger it more to a worse point and it becomes way way out of control so idk guys I'm sad... But he's right we can't argue around baby and when I am in a bad mood he follows me like when I'm manic he eggs it on worse till I explode on him! I tried to tell him to leave me alone when I'm manic and he follows me to the store like he doesn't get it to leave me alone or well argue

[Gray Rider]

I'm sorry you're dealing with this.
If he does leave, you'll find someone new.

[Alone & confused]

Originally Posted by Sky101

It's not healthy how bad our fights get when your manic and it's not fair to presley. I can tell you that I am done fighting with you. So if it starts again I'm gonna pack my bags and go.

This is what he told me.. I've been having the worst feeling lately of uneasiness and Anexity and like something bad is gonna happen and my husband finally the told me he would leave if it happens again I told him I would stay on my zoolfot but the zoolfot doesn't help fully to the extent o will sometimes be depressed or manic as well yeah it helps some but it doesn't get rid of my bipolar I will still have episodes and stuff I Told my husband things will get better I'll stay on zolfot and stuff Its sad I can't make any real promises bc I'm bipolar you know idk when it's gonna happen indont choice that I don't went to argue who would want to be with a bipolar and when I am manic he makes sure to trigger it more to a worse point and it becomes way way out of control so idk guys I'm sad... But he's right we can't argue around baby and when I am in a bad mood he follows me like when I'm manic he eggs it on worse till I explode on him! I tried to tell him to leave me alone when I'm manic and he follows me to the store like he doesn't get it to leave me alone or well argue

It is very hard to live with a trigger! Especially when they know they're doing it. To me it's the equivalent of someone who makes allot of noise and talks loud and blares the radio when they KNOW you have a bad headache! It sounds like he helps create the storm, then gets mad because it's raining. If he really wants to stop the fighting, and the episodes, then he needs to stop intentionally triggering you! I've been in your shoes and know what that's like. We can't always effectively control our chemical imbalances, but those who trigger is CAN control their insensitive behavior towards us if they want to, and try. It seems as though you're doing all you can to control your part, he needs to do HIS part! I hope everything works out for you!

[kpsquaredplus2]

My wife does this, she will follow me around and criticize everything I do and belittle me. Sometimes I will tell her look just back off, go away but she keeps going and she has this glint in her eye. She knows she is pushing me until I snap and say something I shouldn't. I try to recognize what she is doing and let her words wash over me and through me missing my buttons, then I just look at her calmly and wait for the next barrage. She finds this infuriating I think. I have just recently learned this and I am not always good at it either.

Originally Posted by Sky101

It's not healthy how bad our fights get when your manic and it's not fair to presley. I can tell you that I am done fighting with you. So if it starts again I'm gonna pack my bags and go.

This is what he told me.. I've been having the worst feeling lately of uneasiness and Anexity and like something bad is gonna happen and my husband finally the told me he would leave if it happens again I told him I would stay on my zoolfot but the zoolfot doesn't help fully to the extent o will sometimes be depressed or manic as well yeah it helps some but it doesn't get rid of my bipolar I will still have episodes and stuff I Told my husband things will get better I'll stay on zolfot and stuff Its sad I can't make any real promises bc I'm bipolar you know idk when it's gonna happen indont choice that I don't went to argue who would want to be with a bipolar and when I am manic he makes sure to trigger it more to a worse point and it becomes way way out of control so idk guys I'm sad... But he's right we can't argue around baby and when I am in a bad mood he follows me like when I'm manic he eggs it on worse till I explode on him! I tried to tell him to leave me alone when I'm manic and he follows me to the store like he doesn't get it to leave me alone or well argue

What are you on besides zoloft?

[BipolaRNurse]

That's what I was wondering too. An antidepressant alone is almost never a good idea for people with bipolar because it tends to make us manic. Not that the OP's husband is any less of a jerk for treating her that way, but it might explain the mania.

Originally Posted by BipolaRNurse

That's what I was wondering too. An antidepressant alone is almost never a good idea for people with bipolar because it tends to make us manic. Not that the OP's husband is any less of a jerk for treating her that way, but it might explain the mania.

That is what I was suggesting.

OP- maybe your moods aren't being managed enough and that is why you fell irritable and have a hard time with hubby.

[Sunnyhunny00]

What a jerk. My partner is a trigger for me also. It's so hard sometimes. I'm sorry he is acting this way towards you. He could at least have some respect and help defuse the situation.

Yes, why aren't you on a stabilizer? AD drives bipolar into mania. I know it's for depression, but you still need a stabilizer to stop the cycling. Once you do that, your husband won't get to you that much.

I keep telling my mom and husband that's not the right medicine for me and they don't believe me! My pshychritrist before I moved had me on seroquel klopon and Effexor the Effexor made me paranoid and the seroquel works well for me I still have some the Klonopin is gone when we were living with my in laws all my pills went missing before I could even start my meds. His dad was stealing them he is addicts he stole my husbands medicine too and I found a seroquel on the floor in the living room wich is my medicine before I even started it and it looked like I was the crazy one point is I don't have my anexity medicine the Klonopin helped a lot I can't get into the psychiatrist here till the 29 so the regular doctor has me on Zoloft and seroquel

His dad was always passed out on the couch with his mouth open I told my husband nobody sleeps that long bc they would sleep all day long the I found out my pills went missing Jt was bad baby almost ate that pill that I found on the floor

[cashart10]

I have the same fears and frustrations sometimes. This seems to be a reoccurring theme among some of us spouses on this site. Why can't our loved ones just be supportive??!! It really hurts to think that someone that you love so much, who is supposed to love you unconditionally, could even consider leaving you. I am so sorry SKY! I honestly wish you the best in your marriage and in your family. Please remember that your mental illness is not the cause of these issues. As you mentioned him triggering you, for example, he is also responsible for these arguments. It is never one person's responsibility.

I see sweety, your meds are being stolen. I'd kick my father out if he was taking my meds. I'd either lock the pills up or lock him up in jail.

He's ruining your life. I hope it gets better hunny.

[Cris80pitt]

Originally Posted by Sky101

It's not healthy how bad our fights get when your manic and it's not fair to presley. I can tell you that I am done fighting with you. So if it starts again I'm gonna pack my bags and go.

This is what he told me.. I've been having the worst feeling lately of uneasiness and Anexity and like something bad is gonna happen and my husband finally the told me he would leave if it happens again I told him I would stay on my zoolfot but the zoolfot doesn't help fully to the extent o will sometimes be depressed or manic as well yeah it helps some but it doesn't get rid of my bipolar I will still have episodes and stuff I Told my husband things will get better I'll stay on zolfot and stuff Its sad I can't make any real promises bc I'm bipolar you know idk when it's gonna happen indont choice that I don't went to argue who would want to be with a bipolar and when I am manic he makes sure to trigger it more to a worse point and it becomes way way out of control so idk guys I'm sad... But he's right we can't argue around baby and when I am in a bad mood he follows me like when I'm manic he eggs it on worse till I explode on him! I tried to tell him to leave me alone when I'm manic and he follows me to the store like he doesn't get it to leave me alone or well argue

If you don't have his support it is best that you are not together. Considering the fact that you have health issues, him being unsupportive and rude is the last thing you need. You must be surrounded with good and positive people who will have positive affect on you.

[Nammu]

It sounds to me like your husband is abusive. Holding your illness as a weapon against you, following you to the store to egg you on. It sounds like emotional abuse to me. It might be good if you are seeing a T to talk about that aspect of it. A T would be a support system in your life.

Yes he eggs it on till it gets totally out of control its like he doesn't even try to understand my illness I even bought three books on it for us to read together so he knows what to do and not do and etc and try to understand what I am going through he thinks just being on zoolfot will help me I just wanna cry I think he is too he scares me and is mean to me and makes my bipolar so much worse and is unsupportive and controlling

Did you say your " bad" baby almost ate a pill that was on the floor?

[quasicrystalline]

I think she meant "It was bad. Baby almost ate that pill that I found on the floor."

I'm sorry to hear that you're going through this sky101. Wishing you peace. If you can get access to counseling services, perhaps you'll benefit from martial counseling. It sounds like he definitely does not understand bipolar.

[raspberrytorte]

As others have said, maybe the zoloft is just making you feel worse? As in making you manic. It made me very manic when I was on it.

I'd hide your medicine from now on. I'd be way pissed if someone else was taking my pills.

It sucks your husband isn't supportive, doesn't believe you, and is making things worse.

Originally Posted by ValentinaVVV

What are you on besides zoloft?

im just on zoloft

If you are bipolar, you need to be on something than just a antidepressant. If you are only taking an antidepressant, you will very likely become manic.